Men, how often do you cry?

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And what is it that causes you to cry? Asking this cuz y'all always trying to hide your emotions and act like you don't ever cry

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I can choke up and get misty eyed on occasion, even during touching scenes in movies or, if I'm in the right mood, over some music. Touching stories of tragedy or kindness can make me actually cry.

The last time I cried really hard was in December 2019 when our 22 year old kitty died. I had rescued Rose from certain death in the middle of a busy highway when she was 5 weeks old. I brought her one to my new wife, to whom I had only been married for a few months. Rosie turned out to be the best kitty. She was our girl. I really loved her.

I gave a short obituary at my dad's graveside service in 2007. I choked up during that.

I cried really hard when my mom died in 1998.

My wife and I had four other cats besides Rosie. We rescued them all at different times from a shelter when they were older. But they all turned out to be sweet and wonderful. And I cried over each one of them when they died.

The hardest I have ever cried in my life was when a particular girlfriend and I separated in around 1991 when I was 37. Petra was six years younger. She was the first girlfriend I ever loved with my heart and soul. And she loved me.

We lived together for over a year. We went on vacations and did lots of fun things together. She was my vision of the feminine ideal in looks and behavior. She was hypersexual and orgasmic. I had never imagined, let alone experienced, sex like that. But I loved everything else about her, too.

We separated for reasons that are too complicated to explain. But it had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean. We were just not meant to be lifelong partners.

When we separated, I constantly felt like I had the wind knocked out of me, literally. My heart and gut ached to the point of sometimes feeling nauseous. There were times when I was alone that I curled up and bawled in pain and anguish. That lasted for many weeks.
The need for her touch, her smile, her voice was like a life-long heroin addict's need for a fix. It actually took me a year to pull myself together and start living again.

tfan1 · Accepted Answer

I did just today. My sister came to the house and she handed me a pic and said we have doubles - thought you might like one. I turned the pic over and it was me working on an old tower at her and my brother in law’s house…. and in the chair across from me was my ….. Dad!!! My eyes filled up with tears in two seconds it felt like. She said I’m sorry I didn’t mean to make you tear up. I gave her a big hug and said thank you 3x

i don’t have many pics of my dad unfortunately 💔😢. This one I’ve made a special spot in my room so I can see it anytime I want 🙂

My dad died the day After my birthday (mine is 5/22 and he passed on 5/23) from esophageal cancer like his brother before him did.

I’m getting ready to hit 45 on May 22. Ever since he passed away, I just can’t get excited over my own birthday anymore. Because the day after. A great piece of advice for anyone who loses a loved one - if anyone says time heals all wounds - Tell them bullschit! You can see a pic, read a letter or see a vid of them and boom the wound is reopened.

Justmeagain1 · Accepted Answer

Just so all you men know - crying is not a bad thing. All females do not see this as a weakness. When men cry it hits me hard - so wrong but it makes me want to just protect you and your heart it’s like this savage comes out for you. No matter who you are.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i mean it's generally a male thing but even i try to hide my emotions and haven't cried in nearly a year...

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Not often anymore, at least I think not. Last time I really cried was after I cut off my ex. She cheated on me and wanted me back. We had the same friend circle so I saw her with her drug addict boyfriend who was non-physically abusive a lot. Tried to warn her because I thought she was better than that. I cut her off and then a year later I got a call from her at a rehab making a fake ass apology obviously being watched by someone.

I had to mute my mic because I started thinking about how it was all sorta my fault and that our connection was gone to the point where she could have called anyone to fake apologize to but she calls me, I promised her dad I wouldn't let something like that happen to her too. Just about never felt that powerless and confused in my life. That was 3 years ago.

The actual last time was literally one tear and it happened when someone who was a mentor figure to me growing up and I got into an argument. That was about 6 months ago and besides a merry Christmas text, we haven't spoken.

king34 · Answer

We don't try to hide emotion for the most part we are stoic by nature. Stoicism is important for a multitude of reasons. Some women are ignorant to this you think that we want to cry all the time but hold it in I probably cry like once every 2 years it has to be something big like a death of a loved one or something. Men just aren't as affected by little things as much as women are, it isn't some tough guy act that we do to try to seem cool the fact that you think that shows your maturity and knowledge of people and world you live in

I can only imagine your having trouble with men in your life, I encourage you to actually learn about and understand men and your interactions and also relationships with men will improve greatly. Instead of filling your head with childish nonsenss and stereotypes. Men are stoic by nature and for survival just let them be and stop trying to dig at it or chang men that are like that your only doing it to relive insecurities and a need for approval that you have deep down within yourself so my advice is work on improving yourself and genuinely understanding men. Or if you so desperately need a guy that's overly emotional go find one there are plenty these days so why bother the rest of us with disingenuous underhanded questions like these. Do better. Good luck to you

matchrestore · Answer

Not all that often, maybe once a month plus or minus. On Monday it was because of a video appealing for financial donations for a charity that works with youth and family homelessness in my town- there was an establishing shot of a Paw Patrol sippy cup and some toy dinosaurs in the dirt under a bridge. I was setting up audio-visual equipment for their fundraising event, and I had to excuse myself to the restroom while I struggled to stop crying. My son had the same sippy cup, and has the same dinosaur toys. It really got to me emotionally. I know its a drop in the bucket compared to what is needed to solve the homelessness crisis, but once I composed myself I went back into the ballroom and asked one of their staff how I could contribute.

Shamalien · Answer

These days, whenever I feel the urge so long as I am alone. Doesn’t make me weak, doesn’t mean I can’t handle my shit, I just know that after years of bottling it up it’s healthier to let it out. One of my exes I felt comfortable crying around and she never thought less of me for it. Another ex I started to crack the slightest bit and she immediately was on the verge of breaking up, of course she denied it had anything to do with that and said she thought more of me for it and actually encouraged me to be comfortable doing that with her, so sometimes women lay these fucking traps and tests for us and we just have to NOT TRUST THEM but trust is the foundation of a relationship I thought? Anyway tl dr some people can be trusted some cannot and this goes for both genders, but when in doubt, as a man, hold those tears back and have a good kundalini meditation when you’re alone and move all that energy through your body and release it. It will make you more powerful.

SnowedIn · Answer

What a great question!

I don't cry often but I don't shit it out when I have to.

Before the pandemic started I hadn't cried in years. Probably almost 15 or 16 years; not since my first child was born and I realized we had to care for this child on our own.

But then after the pandemic some stuff happy to something really important in my life and I cried about it.

More recently I lost a friend and that shattered my heart. Cried for that too.

ohsheeT · Answer

Its just tears. O don't really care what people think of me anyway and that's because they don't know or the thing I have done in life. To be honestni answered a question this morning. And had tears in my eyes when it boils down to it about the only thing I'm afraid of is God if you see me it's because for what ever reason I either loved that person and them meant something to me and I hurt. I will miss them I cared slot about them I could care less about my tear it's not about me it's about something beautiful and special that won't be around to make me smile anymore and it not about crying it's about loving and if I cry it's ok because I'm in pain my hearts broken

Sixgunsound · Answer

When I was 6 I decided it would be a good idea to jump from a swing at the maximum height and somehow the back of my shirt got stuck in the chain and instead of flying off forward I was yanked backwards and slammed to the ground, breaking my left arm. That sucked. It was one of the most impressive pediatric bone breaks the attending doc had ever seen😁

Shiprex · Answer

I cried at my father's, godmothers funerals and at the euthanasia of my dog a few years ago. There are moments when I get emotional and tears come to the eyes when I am listening to happy scenes in my audiobooks or on movies/stories about things I can relate to as a man.

Then there are just times while riding my bike inside my helmet when I realise the people I miss and how overwhelming things can become in everyday life that bring a lump to my throat and tears to my eyes and make the riding experience raw and intense when you know you're a second or two away from ending things for good.

razelove · Answer

I think the last time was when my youngest kid was born. Nothing gets solved if you're a man and you cry. Anyone who says "it's ok, let it out" will use that against you later. It's best to be a rock, and look into alcoholism or exercise.

It's more socially acceptable to walk around with your dick hanging out as a guy than tearing up.

Anonymous · Answer

About 2 years ago during a EDMR session. I was recalling a deeply traumatic experience in my past.

It’s okay for men to cry PRIVATELY. I look back on the times I’ve done this publicly with deep shame. I just wasn’t able to control it. But I know I got judged for it.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I cry when I:

Attend a funeral or a memorial service
Watch a movie
Suffer an emotional loss
Push myself to the edge at the gym
Get lots of wind in my eyes
Have a laugh riot
Experience something nostalgic

It’s healthy to have tears occasionally for everyone right?

David_Jelly · Answer

Very rarely, and it’s cause depends on the situation. Most of the time it’s in the presence of my girlfriend, which is usually caused by something she says (in a good way, she's not hurtful or sexist, she is very comforting and allows me to let my emotions out around her) that hits me deep (again, in a good way, like when she talks about how she’ll always be here to hear what I’m feeling), and if I’m by myself, it’s usually just because everything has built up inside that I can’t keep it down anymore, which to an extent, is what happens around my girlfriend: everything has built up, and she says something that makes it come out. But to answer the original question, I’d estimate I cry around 6-10 times a year

AaronKrieger · Answer

I hardly ever full on cry and go through the emotions (probably been since December or January).

However, I do get teary eyed often and might let a tear or two go if a sad scene from a movie/TV show is well written or I see something beautiful that makes me happy.

Anpu23 · Answer

Apple, really? There are biological forces at play here as well: www.foxnews.com/.../cry-me-a-river-why-men-and-women-shed-different-tears

Last time I shed a tear was probably when I held my grand daughter for the first time (about 2 weeks ago). It's important to understand that just because men and women emote differently doesn't mean that they don't emote. Men's Emotions And Toxic Masculinity ↗

Unit1 · Answer

I was hiding my pain from the abusive and toxic family. They would only make things worse. Needless to say i fell into clinical depression.

Once i moved out and lived alone with a fair distance from my toxic family i started recovering very slowly: sleeping 12 hours/day, memory loss, sometimes sobbing and when i made more money i got on antidepressants.

The reason includes my childhood, teenage years and early adulthood being taken away just so i can regain my basic human rights one battle after another.

Having No girlfriend or love brought me to tears many times already. I do it alone in my apartment.

I still take antidepressants.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

Ok, this is going to sound stupid, but I'm a writer and I've been working on the third book in my book series. I have this character that has been through abuse, and lost all faith in the world. I

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am planning to sing Endless Love to my fiancée at our wedding; I have a female friend who will sing with me. I have started practicing with karaoke videos on YT. Every time I sing it, I think about how happy I am with her and I get tears of joy. if I practice it about 1,000 times, that reaction will subside, and I really don't want to get teary-eyed at my wedding. So, lately, I am practicing every day.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't "act like I don't cry" I'll cry at home, in private (because there is a time and place for everything) if I feel it will be beneficial... but I unless someone dies, or I'm in extreme physical pain, I don't feel the need to cry. On most days, someone didn't die and I'm not in pain...

Do you want us to come home fake crying because we had a bad day at work?

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t. It isn’t a “macho” thing or whatever bullshit shaming crap women tell us it is like “hiding our emotions” either.
Men simply deal with emotions differently than women. Most women can’t seem to understand that because they do something a certain way it doesn’t mean men do or have to. It isn’t wrong, it also isn’t better. It is simply different.
It is based in biology and survival. If men were overly emotional like women, we would have died off back when we were animals.
Women shaming us for not putting our emotions out there for others to deal with and to get attention from, if like men shaming women for pissing when they sneeze or laugh. Just because your body is different doesn’t make it wrong.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Crying in my "family" is punishable with a severe beating. Men are never to cry. If you cry while they beat you will learn to never cry. They will break your bones. They will kill you for it.

Christoff92 · Answer

When I put down my cat Trooper last year in June. A day before the summer solstice began 😿

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I don’t usually cry. I just sweat through my eyes pretty much weekly.

Billlewis · Answer

The last time I cried was about six years ago. I was serving a middle aged Latina woman as a maid, personal/oral servant, etc. She harbored a lot of anger and bitterness towards men in general, and when I started serving her, we agreed that she would have the opportunity to spank/whip/beat me as part of the arrangement. I didn't realize how physically strong she was, but by the time I became aware of her sheer strength, it was too late to avoid what she was determined to do.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Some say laughter is the best medicine & from time to time I OD on it & when I do the waterworks start when I bust out laughing. On the hand when the jokers at work took away the ice cream machine there were some tears that day. If any other shit happens I man up & hold my tears in.

nolabels · Answer

Lately, I cry quite often.

With constant physical pain levels for the last 20 months of 8.5 to 9.5, when the pain hits 9.6, I'm in tears.

Emotional pain, but much more frequently, emotional joy will also have my tear ducts over-welling.

There's nothing like a good cry to relax a person.
This person, anyway

Mangospacho · Answer

Rarely, if ever. I’ll get angry more often than I feel like crying anyway. I just don’t understand what good crying does.

AyChingao · Answer

I cry pretty often really, it can just be memories triggered by a song, I don't see any reason to hide really, but I do get that some people have social pressures from family etc...

RealMarek · Answer

I almost never cry, although I wouldn’t say I hide my emotions. The last times I cried had to do with a friend who was beaten by her boyfriend but went back to him and a friend who died of a heart attack.

Anonymous · Answer

Rarely or at least for legitimate reasons. Purely coincidentally, I got teary-eyed listening to a love song about intra-relational struggle on my way home from work today (Marshmello & Halsey - Be Kind). I'll also get teary-eyed when watching romance movies or series, or when a really sad part of a movie plays.

If I'm not around a romantic partner I'll stop myself from getting that way, but if it's my girl and we've been together for a while, I don't mind letting the water works flow.

syncheart · Answer

Now days I almost cry every night, because I feel like no woman really likes me.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

We have far less emotion than women. We cry when we reach limits that would allow us to fight ti the death

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Depends. It happens usually when it comes to my dad and older brother because of some trauma but other than that, nothing really affects me that much

Anonymous · Answer

The last time I cried was 20 years ago.

I actually don't think I even know how to, anymore. I don't even say that as a joke; it's honestly kind of concerning, like maybe I have something wrong with me. 🤷‍♂️

mb120101 · Answer

Not often but when my epileptologist  Experimented different pills on me I was a mess. That wasn't my normal psyche though

Johnagain · Answer

The last time I cried was 2017... Wow! I was meditating to some chill-out music and imagining what it will be like losing my mother. It is inevitable for each of us who still has a loving mother in their life. She's still around, by the way. I guess I've toughened up or emotionally plateaued out on most accounts in my life. Being a veteran and still a soldier, middle-aged, low-key, live alone... a little boring, but stable; how I like it.

jshm2 · Answer

Every Wednesday and Sunday. as those are my days off. I like to chop the onions for the pie and curry that I make on those days.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Lot of struggles and regrets and it comes out in tears sometimes but I think I manage to keep it all in pretty well.

Anonymous · Answer

Men don't try to hide their emotions like you women want to believe. The last time I cried was when my grandmother died 4 years ago. I have felt zero urge to cry since then. I literally couldn't cry if I tried.

Do you want us to fake it or what?

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Rarely. Very few things get the water flowing for me.

NYlatefun · Answer

Not that often, probably I haven’t cried this year at all… is it too much?

exitseven · Answer

I cry every couple of years. I am getting soft in my old age.

nawtee_me · Answer

I have to admit that I do get chocked up when the guy finally realizes that the girl he has been avoiding turns out to be the right girl after all. I guess I am just an old softy at heart. But don’t tell anyone…. lol

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I cry when I feel sorry for others, there is so much sadness on the Internet.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Not very often at all. I think the last time was about two years ago.

Massageman · Answer

Hearing certain songs my mom liked.  Seeing certain endings of certain TV shows//movies.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t intentionally try to hide it. Maybe I rarely do it because I’m unfortunately accustom to bottling my feelings in general. When I do, it can be from something extremely sad or touching.

Juxtapose · Answer

A real cry where I don't get just misty eyed? About once every two years. My eyes getting isty because of a movie or whatever? About once every month.

Anonymous · Answer

Have not cried since I was 19. Probably not healthy but I’m still alive, making good money n taking care of my family so it works for me.

TheMadLad · Answer

I don’t remember, I’m not the type to cry. I get angry though

Lionman95 · Answer

Rarely I don´t even when it happened the last time, except maybe a movie that made me have tears in my eyes. But usually I don´t cry because I need quite a lot of stress and depressing feelings to get me to the point of crying.

Grond21 · Answer

Once a year or so. But I have gone a few years without crying.  Last was when I said goodbye to a friend

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Only time I’ve cried in the last decade or so was when my cat died.

Jackj · Answer

Only a few times either when alone after someone I liked very much rejected me or on a few of those "last stand" scenes in action movies. But I'd say the moments are rather short and it's mostly fine afterwards

Physics-Man · Answer

Last time I cried was back in 2010 when I was 20, so very rarely.

BryanMoore · Answer

I don't cry too much but things are largely ok in life right now. I do have a therapist though haha

Guardian45 · Answer

I don't cry publicly... ever. But I've cried more times than I can count. The fact that I have PDD and PTSD doesn't make it less.

WonderingManII · Answer

From time to time. I can't give you an exact count.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’ve cried before. I’m not a man that holds back tears.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

When Picard returned to the Enterprise D on Star Trek Picard S3 E10

Sparkie460 · Answer

I cry when I lose loved ones whether it's a family member or a fur baby

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