Do men play hard to get with girls they are interested in?

[Anonymous]

For instance By Talking Hours to reply to Short simple Messages Even when they Are Not Really busy

[MrOracle]

Most women ONLY show interest in men who are in the top 10% of men (and many only pursue the top 5% or even higher). Thus, these men have an abundance of female interest, so they have no need to put in much work or make any real effort - plenty of girls will still pursue them. If you chase one of those guys, you are competing with 100 other women for his time - and other girls will give more and demand less to get him. Don't expect that dynamic to ever change.

If you pursue a guy who is closer to average, you are more likely to get more from him - but he is still likely to be busy or tired some of the time when you are bored and lonely. Guys are far more likely to work physical jobs that don't allow them to check their phones all day and more likely to be tired from that job and need some rest. Still, these guys are likely to put in a much greater effort and are much more likely to appreciate you than a guy who can easily replace you inside an hour.

[nastyb]

You should date women 40s and 50s, they are are much more likely to appreciate you than a girl in her 20s who can easily replace you inside an hour.

[MrOracle]

This isn't about me, it's a generalization. If you think I am wrong, bring some evidence and argue the point. I was answering the question asked.

[nastyb]

@MrOracle

you love telling girls to lower their standards. I'm suggest you should also lower yours.

[MrOracle]

No, I'm saying that most women use completely the wrong criteria when selecting a man. Women's standards for a man's morals and values are so low it's insane, because those aren't even considered by most women prior to the relationship. Instead, most women are focusing on looks, money, height, and status, to the exclusion of everything else. And how is that working out for most women?

The problem is that women know full well that if they raise their standards for morals and values, the first group of men that those standards would eliminate is the tall, hunky Chads who have big incomes, and they aren't willing to compromise that at all. To most women, morals and values are nothing compared to social media clout.

[nastyb]

@MrOracle

so what? men are the same way.. they're only focused on looks. they only like to date women 20 years younger.

[D_Bone_Steak]

First, ask yourself what kind of girl does that shit... then you know what type of guys do that shit.

It's not a guy/girl thing... it's a people thing. Some people don't give a fuck about texting or calling. My wife will call me and start rambling about bullshit when I'm trying to cook and I have to be like, "Look bitch, you need to shut the fuck up, and just come home and tell me about it so that I have two hands to cook with."

That bitch better recognize.

[zeitgeist057]

I especially love the inspirational poster

[DermalPunch]

Girls that they want to play. Girls they want to use. Girls who are on the roster. A girl they actually like, they want to lock down ASAP. Now, you can start out as a roster girl, but if you refuse to jump and bend to the BS this can change a guy's perception. Men are calculating and are constantly testing and categorizing women. Be you, respect yourself and be willing to walk away. It takes patience and a lot of self-control. Men love a woman with restraint.

[Anemone978]

I learnt if a guy can't be bothered to message you fast just leave him alone. Always remember actions speak louder than words. He don't miss you and he don't care what you are up to.. He is most likely talking to others because goofs are addicted to their phones these days and always have them with them.

[DenizLikesTennis]

If you find yourself in a situation where that man is playing hard to get, then he is not really that into you and wants to waste his time for a while or mess with your nerves.

There is no such thing with playing hard to get, texting always at 9 o'clock and all that. EITHER YOU ARE INTERESTED, BEING SERIOUS AND SPEND LOTS OF TIME TOGETHER OR NOT. BE AN ADULT!! BE A MATURE GROWN WOMAN OR MAN.

Otherwise you can jingle with 80 women or 80 men and ask why they are still single.

[Lynx122]

I have a girlfriend now I didn't play those games in the past but honestly I'm kinda done with pursuing women altogether if she's not really into me then I'm just gonna move on. I've had too many experiences where women are sort of interested but in the end they're not. Now that I've found a woman that truly loves me I'm never gonna deal with that bullshit again.

[BeMuse]

None of that is playing hard to get. Men often aren't as tied to their phones as women. We don't always notice when we receive a text message. We're often busy doing other things. We don't just sit around the house on our bed waiting for someone to text us. Men also tend to be more succinct in our communications.

[BCA6010]

The vast majority of men do not, nor will we ever "play hard to get." If a guy appears to be doing that, it's either because some online dating guru told them to, or it's the unintended result of being shy or too "nice" to just say no.

[ohsheeT]

Well any guy that does that you don't want them anyway because that just means they are game player and that means that they cannot be trusted or relied on or anything else so move on to the next guy that is real that is honest because that's the guy that you want

[EricSummer]

Very moderately compared to women. It's best to clearly show interest, but not to be overly eager. She should not think that she has all the time she wants to decide and the offer will always still be there (even though it may well be).

If both play hard to get the communication just breaks down and nothing further happens. So this is not usually a good option for a man.

[motownplayer2000]

Most me don’t have time to play games like that if they are about improving themselves and getting money. So for me no, same is true about women playing hard to get. I’m not about that life where I will chase you. Either you are ready to go or we leave for a woman that’s not playing those games.

[lolasmayona]

I don’t think so.. because men know that women are generally not the first ones to initiate…so it’s the men that have to be the ones initiating things. On the other hand, it’s very common to see girls playing hard to get.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

nah believe me, if a guy is interested he'll respond at least under 15min, if he takes hours he might not be that interested and put other stuff (work, hobbies, friends) before you. On the other side, we guys are often told to "wait" a little, since you women see answering too quickly as needy

[RavVid]

I don't live by my phone and don't see why I should. I have never thought I will give it an hour before sending a single emoji because I am interested in her.

It is just me checking my phone a few times a day.

[Anonymous]

That's a loaded question. I can't speak for every guy, only me. But I don't play hard to get EVER. However that doesn't mean thar she doesn't perceive my actions or inaction as playing hard to get.

In other words hun. Your feelings are not the only ones in play. Hope that helps.

[melnc]

Men are not good at mind games and it's easy to expose them, while girls explain everything according to their feelings and hormones and make everything just about them
I know!

[SigmaNiggeh]

We don't understand are emotions and motives. I might try to be more of a douchbag & think don't talk to her about how you really feel just focus on yourself and see if you have anything of a common interest. That way I can hold a conversation and generally be less creepy. However out of an internal level of needyness I have a tendency to be impulsive and cockblock myself in a very cringe manner. Just that level of anger, frustration and loneliness causes this from within myself.

[SnowedIn]

How do you know they're not busy?

Hours to respond isn't necessarily bad. Maybe they have a job or are working on their hobby or something. Why does that time have to be playing hard to get?

[crossdressingrihno]

No. Playing hard to get is not something a man would do. If he’s not responding he’s either busy or not interested in talking.


Guys aren’t the ones who play games.

[ImagineSketchy]

No. Men don't tend to play games like that. Assuming you feel that way about a certain guy, it's more likely he just isn't into you if he's not reciprocating the same energy that you are.

[TooHot2Care]

I mean. . . . I'm just evil and I enjoy messing with people.

Which is fair, because usually when I get with someone, their default modes of existing are Gremlin -> Seductive -> Stupid -> Gremlin ->Repeat

[Malwi93]

gremlin?

[TooHot2Care]

@Malwi93 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQxcezdxbfE

Do you understand now?

[YourExLover69]

I don't do this. If I'm interested in a girl I'd try to reply her quickly and can talk for hours just for her as she would be special person for me.

Replying late or slow is annoying and not my thing.

[Beatrix7]

hm sometimes am sure women do the same its kinda comon sometimes so him or her can find out if the other person actually wants to be with them

[normalice]

No. What is considered playing hard to get is usually either polite disinterest or social ineptitude.