Do men play hard to get with girls they are interested in?

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For instance By Talking Hours to reply to Short simple Messages Even when they Are Not Really busy

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Most women ONLY show interest in men who are in the top 10% of men (and many only pursue the top 5% or even higher). Thus, these men have an abundance of female interest, so they have no need to put in much work or make any real effort - plenty of girls will still pursue them. If you chase one of those guys, you are competing with 100 other women for his time - and other girls will give more and demand less to get him. Don't expect that dynamic to ever change.

If you pursue a guy who is closer to average, you are more likely to get more from him - but he is still likely to be busy or tired some of the time when you are bored and lonely. Guys are far more likely to work physical jobs that don't allow them to check their phones all day and more likely to be tired from that job and need some rest. Still, these guys are likely to put in a much greater effort and are much more likely to appreciate you than a guy who can easily replace you inside an hour.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

First, ask yourself what kind of girl does that shit... then you know what type of guys do that shit.

It's not a guy/girl thing... it's a people thing. Some people don't give a fuck about texting or calling. My wife will call me and start rambling about bullshit when I'm trying to cook and I have to be like, "Look bitch, you need to shut the fuck up, and just come home and tell me about it so that I have two hands to cook with."

That bitch better recognize.

Do men play hard to get with girls they are interested in?

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

Girls that they want to play. Girls they want to use. Girls who are on the roster. A girl they actually like, they want to lock down ASAP. Now, you can start out as a roster girl, but if you refuse to jump and bend to the BS this can change a guy's perception. Men are calculating and are constantly testing and categorizing women. Be you, respect yourself and be willing to walk away. It takes patience and a lot of self-control. Men love a woman with restraint.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

I learnt if a guy can't be bothered to message you fast just leave him alone. Always remember actions speak louder than words. He don't miss you and he don't care what you are up to.. He is most likely talking to others because goofs are addicted to their phones these days and always have them with them.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

If you find yourself in a situation where that man is playing hard to get, then he is not really that into you and wants to waste his time for a while or mess with your nerves.

There is no such thing with playing hard to get, texting always at 9 o'clock and all that. EITHER YOU ARE INTERESTED, BEING SERIOUS AND SPEND LOTS OF TIME TOGETHER OR NOT. BE AN ADULT!! BE A MATURE GROWN WOMAN OR MAN.

Otherwise you can jingle with 80 women or 80 men and ask why they are still single.

Lynx122 · Answer

I have a girlfriend now I didn't play those games in the past but honestly I'm kinda done with pursuing women altogether if she's not really into me then I'm just gonna move on. I've had too many experiences where women are sort of interested but in the end they're not. Now that I've found a woman that truly loves me I'm never gonna deal with that bullshit again.

BeMuse · Answer

None of that is playing hard to get. Men often aren't as tied to their phones as women. We don't always notice when we receive a text message. We're often busy doing other things. We don't just sit around the house on our bed waiting for someone to text us. Men also tend to be more succinct in our communications.

BCA6010 · Answer

The vast majority of men do not, nor will we ever "play hard to get." If a guy appears to be doing that, it's either because some online dating guru told them to, or it's the unintended result of being shy or too "nice" to just say no.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well any guy that does that you don't want them anyway because that just means they are game player and that means that they cannot be trusted or relied on or anything else so move on to the next guy that is real that is honest because that's the guy that you want

EricSummer · Answer

Very moderately compared to women. It's best to clearly show interest, but not to be overly eager. She should not think that she has all the time she wants to decide and the offer will always still be there (even though it may well be).

If both play hard to get the communication just breaks down and nothing further happens. So this is not usually a good option for a man.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Most me don’t have time to play games like that if they are about improving themselves and getting money. So for me no, same is true about women playing hard to get. I’m not about that life where I will chase you. Either you are ready to go or we leave for a woman that’s not playing those games.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

nah believe me, if a guy is interested he'll respond at least under 15min, if he takes hours he might not be that interested and put other stuff (work, hobbies, friends) before you. On the other side, we guys are often told to "wait" a little, since you women see answering too quickly as needy

lolasmayona · Answer

I don’t think so.. because men know that women are generally not the first ones to initiate…so it’s the men that have to be the ones initiating things. On the other hand, it’s very common to see girls playing hard to get.

RavVid · Answer

I don't live by my phone and don't see why I should. I have never thought I will give it an hour before sending a single emoji because I am interested in her.

It is just me checking my phone a few times a day.

Anonymous · Answer

That's a loaded question. I can't speak for every guy, only me. But I don't play hard to get EVER. However that doesn't mean thar she doesn't perceive my actions or inaction as playing hard to get.

In other words hun. Your feelings are not the only ones in play. Hope that helps.

melnc · Answer

Men are not good at mind games and it's easy to expose them, while girls explain everything according to their feelings and hormones and make everything just about them I know!

SigmaNiggeh · Answer

We don't understand are emotions and motives. I might try to be more of a douchbag & think don't talk to her about how you really feel just focus on yourself and see if you have anything of a common interest. That way I can hold a conversation and generally be less creepy. However out of an internal level of needyness I have a tendency to be impulsive and cockblock myself in a very cringe manner. Just that level of anger, frustration and loneliness causes this from within myself.

SnowedIn · Answer

How do you know they're not busy? Hours to respond isn't necessarily bad. Maybe they have a job or are working on their hobby or something. Why does that time have to be playing hard to get?

crossdressingrihno · Answer

No. Playing hard to get is not something a man would do. If he’s not responding he’s either busy or not interested in talking. Guys aren’t the ones who play games.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

No. Men don't tend to play games like that. Assuming you feel that way about a certain guy, it's more likely he just isn't into you if he's not reciprocating the same energy that you are.

TooHot2Care · Answer

I mean. . . . I'm just evil and I enjoy messing with people.

Which is fair, because usually when I get with someone, their default modes of existing are Gremlin -> Seductive -> Stupid -> Gremlin ->Repeat

YourExLover69 · Answer

I don't do this. If I'm interested in a girl I'd try to reply her quickly and can talk for hours just for her as she would be special person for me.

Replying late or slow is annoying and not my thing.

Beatrix7 · Answer

hm sometimes am sure women do the same its kinda comon sometimes so him or her can find out if the other person actually wants to be with them

normalice · Answer

No. What is considered playing hard to get is usually either polite disinterest or social ineptitude.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I just give what I get. A girl will go days without sending a single text, then get mad at me for not showing enough interest

MrCommodore · Answer

No, not something I would ever do on purpose. Usually if I don't respond immediately its because I'm genuinely busy at work or sport.

spartan55 · Answer

No, they don't. What you are talking about is not playing hard to get. It's called guys hate texting and girls refuse to adapt.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some might. I don't, but I also do get caught up sometimes when I am trying to learn a new song, especially if it has an unusual or difficult solo part, and might not answer for hours when thus occupied.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No. They do not. Guys don't play games. (Well, at least the decent ones don't.) Now, yes, he might take hours. But that's if he's busy and/or he didn't see the message. He won't ignore you on purpose.

slatyb · Answer

No, they don't. If a woman I'm interested in is texting me, I'll just tell her that I don't like texting as a form of conversation.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Maybe if they are like 14 or 16, I don't see any benefits for a grown man to be doing this child play.

DaveJord · Answer

Players do. For sure they do. If you like playing games you definitely do this, men and woman alike.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

SOME men play games in their dating relationships, just like SOME women play games.

Adam1978 · Answer

No we don't play games. Some lie to get pussy but that about it.

Bricealan · Answer

Most of us don't want to be 'too anxious' as it appears we are desperate.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Sometimes and it’s really annoying. Or it might just mean he’s not that into you.

Idontknowtoo · Answer

The game is a mess right now, different people do different things, men do whatever they think might work

msc545 · Answer

I do not and would not do this. If I am interested, I want to communicate that in the clearest way possible.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

No, if a guy ever says “who dis?” When we haven’t talked in a while it’s because we were talking to other girls and forgot about you

Guanfei · Answer

No. Men either are interested, or they're not. And if they are, they'll show it. If a man is "hard to get", he's not interested.

runnerboy · Answer

I don't think so. I certainly do not. Have you gone out with guys that are like this?

es20490446e · Answer

I don't respond instantly just because I don't spend my hole day texting.

Anonymous · Answer

God I hope not. That's so lame to me to play hard to get.

Anonymous · Answer

You know there are some guys who have no other thing to do in life than to explore females constantly without being committed.

Anonymous · Answer

After being "thrown away" by my best friend, I don't have the energy to "play hard". I stay away from people. Keep the interactions to a bare minimum

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Not usually. If he's not responding in a timely manner than he's not all that interested.

Caramelpie · Answer

Yes. Some of them do it too not just us girls.

Christoff92 · Answer

Depending how that guy is. Everything is based on mystery now in these days.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Some people play games but would you like someone who is immature?

Anonymous · Answer

No, if they are playing mind games just avoid them, its getting toxic.

Twalli · Answer

Not necessarily, sometimes we don't know of a good response.

Minahh · Answer

Yeah they can do that... when they want to emotionally manipulate you to their advantage

Alex8736 · Answer

your best bet to this scenario is not to chase but just replace

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

In my experiences it's been the other way around.

RiskyEtiquette · Answer

It's more effective. Absence makes the heart grow stronger after all. It is a really good way to ensure you are thinking about us even after we leave.

Aphrodite01 · Answer

Some or they kick the tires to get a feel. Some of my guy friends say.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah i have many options i don't waste time in chasing one girl

Vikkrram · Answer

I would say it would depend on the situation

YesterdaysChild · Answer

Play hard or get hard?

Pinay_ako · Answer

These are not men. these are boys.

Justaguyagain · Answer

I don't, at this point i can't do that lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not from my experience.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Yes. Insecure men do.

Jazzy54 · Answer

No. Men don’t play games like we do.

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