He said ”just in general level our future plans don’t align” what does that mean?

[Anonymous]

What does he mean?

[nitsuj86]

It could mean that you don't want the same things. Maybe he wants kids and you don't, or the other way around. Maybe he doesn't want to be married. Maybe he just doesn't see you as the type of woman that he wants to spend his life with, for a variety of reasons.

Wouldn't be a good mom, not attractive enough to be married to, you might be annoying. Could be anything. But he has told you he doesn't want you. I would believe that and move on.

[Asker]

Are you sure? Because he seemed religious the type that don’t have sex before marriage

[Asker]

Sorry It wasn’t meant for you lol

[Asker]

This was for you: But when I asked him what plans didn’t align ” he said just in general level they don’t align”
Why?

[nitsuj86]

Because if he told you the real reason, you would be hurt. He doesn't want to hurt you, but he also doesn't want to be with you.

You are asking this question multiple times, and looking for some answer that will make sense to you. I answered your other question, and I'm telling you here again.

GET OVER IT. This guy does not like you. And nothing you do will change his mind. I know it sucks, I know it hurts. You will not hear anything that will make you feel better if you seek the truth here. You will only drive him away further.

If you think there is something about you that you could improve. Then try and do that. Work on your personality, and your temper, go to the gym, seek therapy, and improve yourself.

Not everyone is going to like you. At least he told you now instead of leading you on, sleeping with you, and making you feel worse when he left. He did you a favor, he gave you back the time you would have spent on him to pursue someone that actually wants you.

If you really are 30-35 you should be able to handle this by now. You need to grow up a bit here.

[spartan55]

@nitsuj86
She'll be back, I guarantee it.

[OlderAndWiser]

It means that he probably would like to have sex with you but won't make any commitment to you. In other words, it's time to start looking for someone else.

[Asker]

Are you sure? Because he seemed religious the type that don’t have sex before marriage

[OlderAndWiser]

Not sure at all. That was my best goes based on almost no information. At the least, what it means is that he does not see you two becoming a couple in a long term relationship and he is trying to express that idea in the least hurtful manner possible.

[raeliminal]

It means that you both have different hopes for your future and the rest of your lives, and he's implying that it might not work out because of it.

[Asker]

But when I asked him what plans didn’t align ” he said just in general level they don’t align”
I dont understand..

[raeliminal]

He might be trying to find an excuse to break it off with you, maybe try talking to him about what he wants for your relationship in the future.

[Asker]

After that we haven’t talked. He said ” you’ll find more compatible guy soon”

[Asker]

We last talked almost a month ago

[raeliminal]

Looks like you'll have to find another person, hopefully you find the right one soon

[Asker]

When he said I’m very sure you’ll meetvthe right person one day and you’ll meet more compatible guy soon doesn’t that imply he feels sorry for me and that I’m pathetic in his eyes?

[raeliminal]

I don't think he believes your pathetic, but he's probably just trying to wish you good luck with your future relationships

[Asker]

He even said may god bless you (he’s religious) he wrote all that shit just to say he doesn’t want to continue.

[raeliminal]

Then don't try to continue the relationship, you will find someone much better and it will just take time

[Asker]

Do you think his reason was genuine?

[raeliminal]

Possibly

[raeliminal]

No way to know for sure

[Asker]

Should I reach out to him?

[spartan55]

It means he didn't like you. You need help.

[In_Trance]

It means he doesn't like you

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[In_Trance]

Is my first response isn't clear nothing will be

[Asker]

I meant so you don’t think it really was about life goals?

[In_Trance]

Lol no.
His only goal is getting his dick wet

[Asker]

Well he didn’t got to do that

[In_Trance]

Hence why he said what he did

[Asker]

So he wanted sex but I wasn’t giving it to him?

[In_Trance]

Yeah