My SO spent 400 he had save up on weed & ask to move in with me when he said he ain't going to help with bills cause unemployed. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

[lightbulb27]

his coping mechanism is drugs, and that's his priority. He's untrained, undisciplined and possibly an addict... for without that drug, who knows what he's like.

Not worth it for you will end up being a parent to someone that doesn't want to listen.

"You need professional help to grow up, not something I'm willing to take on". "I need a responsible adult.".

There is a good reason a lot of humans belong living in tents...

[Qwertsy]

I’m not going to say dump him, but if you let him live off of you while he wastes his savings on pot, you’d only be enabling him. If it were me, he’d have to prove he can be a responsible adult before moving in. If that takes him too long, it would be over. You can’t help someone who won’t help themselves.

[midnightmoon05]

I had a boyfriend. who held a decent job. 1/2 of his salary went to alcohol and weed…so he couldn’t live on his own. He wanted to move in with me…since I already have two kids…I didn’t want another.
he went on to look for someone else who would take him in.
we have to make choices in life for the future of our children…not adult kids.

that sounds like a really east decision on your end. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

you tell him when he's employed then he can move in. but i honestly wouldn't take him even then. he seems like a deadbeat. not sure why you'd want to continue being with someone like that. just blowing $400 on stupid weed. could have been used for something so much more useful. no thanks...

[Fireguy17]

time to dump him now!
His behavior will not change, and you will be stuck paying for a free loading adult child that will have an excuse for everything and now you are stuck with him.
Just say no and find someone that will treat you like you deserve to be treated and respect you as well as himself.

[provokeesmokee]

BREAK UP AND REFUSE.

Seriously how is this even a question. Why are you even dating such a lowlife loser with no ability to support himself?

Did you want an adult-aged child, or were you hoping for an actual grown adult?

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like a freeloader!! Tell him to either help you pay the bills or drop-kick his ass out the door!!

[exitseven]

These guys never change. In 20 years from now he will be exactly where he is right now unless he is in jail.

[Molly1997]

If he’s not going to help with bills don’t move in with him

[Asker]

I told him that he not moving in and he keep asking

[Asker]

He feel like since we're dating he should live in my house.

[Molly1997]

He being dumb then and trying to use you

[Sparkie460]

He's looking for an easy ride through life. If he's not going to help you with bills, don't let him move in.

[Screenwriter]

Break up with him. He sounds irresponsible and lazy. Why are you with him?

[dudeinohio]

Do not let him move in with you. Do you want to. be with someone so irresponsible?

[LiamJHayden]

Say, "No." Otherwise you will be stuck with a parasite.

[brandon1122]

You are not moving in. Tell him to leave his addiction and try to put this life on track.

[BrookeAZ90]

Run away, as fast as you can

[spartan55]

Sounds like a great idea!

[LazerBean]

Leave him on the streets where he belongs.

[EmmaMary]

Not this shite again surely! smh

[abc3643]

Get a new SO ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Marry him.

[Jmmmfi4]

Yikes