Hello, So I met a guy.
He's an alumni from the same college. We never actually met in person but had each other's Facebook accounts. I think he initiated the conversation and it just so happened that he moved to the country i was visiting so we decided to meet for fun.
THING IS he used to live in the country I live now and he says he misses it a lot. I figured it was nostalgic for him to meet someone from the same uni/ country he spent years in. He now moved to a different country and that's where we met.
We met twice overall. He kept inviting me to different gatherings which was very sweet but I didn't have the time to go to.
After the second time I realised I had a crush. I texted him that but was shut down. However, he said he's hoping we'll stay friends and honestly I'm completely fine with that. No harm no foul as I find him interesting so looking forward to hanging out sometime in future...
So fast forward to today I've already came back. He messaged me again and I texted saying that he should come one day to see the gig in our city. He said he would like that and then wrote a long message of other things he wants to do and then in the end - let me know if you find anything interesting so we can go together.
Do men usually go abroad to see girls they're not attracted to? He is a super social guy and I'm not surprised and honestly would be more than happy to meet but wondered if you guys had any opinions on this?
He also mentioned he's got friends here (where I live) so it is not about knowing someone.
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I'll answer this question targeted to your situation specifically:
The answer is: It Depends. How much does he normally travel internationally? Does he have the time to do it? Does he have the money?
Is he actually interested in actually making the trip, or is he just shooting the breeze and chatting about hypotheticals which may or may not ever happen?
Hi, the reason why I'm asking this question is that it did not sound hypothetical but rather him deciding he wants to come.
Good point about travelling and money. Can answer yes to both. He didn't mention going travelling here before but it looks like he will.
Perhaps I was worried about nothing and he just wants to chat ae a friend
Hmm. I guess he's serious about visiting, then! You should meet him. I hope you guys have a good time! :)
Are you going to let him hit it?
What do you mean? I mean I understand you're implying sex but how do you know that's on his mind for sure?
It's a valid question.
It's on his mind.
Are you certain?
He rejected me when I said i was interested.
Then i uploaded a story on social media amd he r3ached out first asking what I'm up to and suggested doing things I've mentioned above.
I'm really confused... I asked him explicitly if he is sending mixed signals. He said he views me as a friend.
Nope.
Nope as in no men don't travel that far or nope that's normal?
Wouldn’t travel just to see a friend like that
Yeah but he lived in this country before (when he was a student and many years after). He knows it well and says that he misses it a lot.
He does have lots of friends there though. You think still be possible he wants to meet as friends?
Yes as friends