Can you fake chemistry?

[Anonymous]

We were never official. And yes he probably used me. I’m under no illusions of what it was (well maybe a little bit 🫣) But for on and off 2 years we were in each others lives.

Mostly sex, it especially started that way. But we (or I thought) really came to care for one another.

And the chemistry was insane. Really.
He’s the one that would say it too, unprompted.
We shared kinks, and there was trust (or I thought)

Yet, he walked away, like I’m nothing. Like it was nothing. Just dropped me a text.
When I’ve thought we’ve gotten closer, he’s ended it before, and came back. He always came back.
This time he says he met someone (although I’m doubtful)

I know I need to get over this guy. For real for real. But I have no closure and I just need to vent.

Was it nothing?
Can you fake or not feel that kind of chemistry?
Will he think about me?
Will he think of me fondly or will he just think I’m pathetic?

Thanks for reading.
I know this is pathetic and I shouldn’t be asking these questions at my age.

I’ve already been struggling with depression and my mental health and although I did fall in love with him; I think a lot of this is to do with the depression and just making it worse. Maybe that’s why he left but I never told him the extent of it.

[Markm3212]

i say this a lot, but when you have a friends with benefits (which is what you pretty much described you were) one always gets hurt. one always falls for the other and then when the other walks away, the one left feels lost, hurt and dejected.

my advice would be make sure that you are in a relationship and that way you are both committed. one night stands you sort of know what you are getting and its usually with a complete stranger or a friend of a friend type thing. but with friends the whole dynamic changes and thats when emotions get involved.

to answer your question. did he fake it. i hate to say it but most probably. yes he may have felt something (unless he really is a complete selfish twat), but at the same time, you probably wanted to hear it and so you took the good parts and didn't hear the bad. thats what we do when we want something so bad, we just rationalize the bad out and forget about it which is probably what you did.

stay strong and look for a decent guy and forget about him. if he has done it once before and now again walk away for good and stay away as history will repeat itself and he will just do it again and again and again if you let him.

[MementoMori777]

i see no one was much help here so im going to start by saying that fake chemistry can be faked when there's a lot of fake claims, someone can lie and say things they dont mean and it can be very misleading depending on how good they are at lying, the fact that he leaves you shows that his chemestry is fake, let me guess when he comes back, y'all have sex, he lies and then he breakup with you and repeats it correct? this is called manipulation, he is purprosely giving you mixed messages so you feel like there's no closure and you stay wondering and never get over him so he can keep crawling back, now its possible be did find someone else and unfortunately replaced you, if this is rhe case, im sorry he played you but you should really just let it all go and move on from him, cut all contacts and dont look back, its for your own well being anon.

[Anonymous]

If the other person was naive, then yes, I think it could be pulled off.