Crush leaves me on read?

[Anonymous]

a guy shows very very strong signs of liking me in person. he left me on read twice on insta, we have never talked in person but why does he do that?

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+1 y

i texted him good luck for one of his tournaments*
(he’s been showing signs of interest for close to 6 months)

[Anonymous]

He probably doesn't like using instagram.

[Oliverlogan263]

There are a few possible reasons he might be leaving you on read:

1. He's shy or awkward. Even though he seems comfortable in person, messaging or texting you may make him nervous. He may want to reply but not know what to say.

2. He's playing games. Some people, especially younger ones, think leaving someone "on read" makes them seem "cool" or "mysterious." It's a immature way to get attention.

3. He's not that interested. Even though he seems interested in person, maybe he's not that motivated to carry a conversation through text. It could mean his level of interest is lukewarm.

4. He's busy. He may have genuinely been occupied and forgotten to reply. People get distracted! This is an innocent explanation.

5. He's unsure of your interest. If you haven't been very clear or forward about liking him, he may be leaving you on read to "test" your level of interest.

Given that he shows strong signs of liking you in person, options 1, 4 or 5 seem most likely. I would give him the benefit of the doubt for now. If his behavior continues and becomes a pattern over time, that would indicate a lack of real interest (option 3).

The best thing to do is communicate directly. Say something simple like "Hey, noticed you leave me on read sometimes. Just wanted to let you know I enjoy talking to you!" That gives him an opening to explain himself and start an actual conversation. If he continues to leave you on read after that, then you'll know it's likely a lack of interest.

So for now, focus on connecting in person. And when you do message, keep it light and straightforward. His responses will give you more clarity about his intentions. Hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Asker]

thank you so much this really helped!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[Anonymous]

You lucky girl! I wish he showed signs in person.

There are a few possible reasons he might be leaving you on read:

1. He's shy or awkward. Even though he seems comfortable in person, messaging or texting you may make him nervous. He may want to reply but not know what to say.

2. He's playing games. Some people, especially younger ones, think leaving someone "on read" makes them seem "cool" or "mysterious." It's a immature way to get attention.

3. He's not that interested. Even though he seems interested in person, maybe he's not that motivated to carry a conversation through text. It could mean his level of interest is lukewarm.

4. He's busy. He may have genuinely been occupied and forgotten to reply. People get distracted! This is an innocent explanation.

5. He's unsure of your interest. If you haven't been very clear or forward about liking him, he may be leaving you on read to "test" your level of interest.

Given that he shows strong signs of liking you in person, options 1, 4 or 5 seem most likely. I would give him the benefit of the doubt for now. If his behavior continues and becomes a pattern over time, that would indicate a lack of real interest (option 3).

The best thing to do is communicate directly. Say something simple like "Hey, noticed you leave me on read sometimes. Just wanted to let you know I enjoy talking to you!" That gives him an opening to explain himself and start an actual conversation. If he continues to leave you on read after that, then you'll know it's likely a lack of interest.

So for now, focus on connecting in person. And when you do message, keep it light and straightforward. His responses will give you more clarity about his intentions. Hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.

God bless.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like it’s all in your mind that he’s showing you a lot of interest. If a man is really into a girl he’s going to make every effort to try to be w her, to talk to her whether on the phone or in person, this includes text unless he’s just old school doesn’t like texting. I’d even make it my mission to run into my crutch on “accident” just to see her. People are usually more co go dent in writing things rather than talking in person. So the fact that he doesn’t respond to you all that often says something.

[Lokiion]

This whole thing doesn’t even make sense “a guy shows very very strong signs of liking me in person.” then you said “we have never talked in person” anyways you probably boring over text if you gave me an example of how the text are going I could tell you exactly why he’s doing that. Other then that I couldn’t tell you specifically why.

[Avicenna]

Only he could know for sure, but I'd guess he's just lazy

[Iron_Man]

Discuss it with him

[Asker]

i’ve never talked to him. i might just come off as too desperate

[Iron_Man]

Swallow your pride, that’s what every female says

[In_Trance]

He's busy