Why did he leave me on read?

[pacifyherrr]

There’s this guy I’ve been talking to a lot recently. We just reconnected after almost a year and I’d say we’re a little bit more than friends. It’s been like almost 2 months now and I can tell by the way he texts that it’s a bit romantic. He always sends hearts of he always saves my snaps in chat commenting on how pretty I am. I try giving the same energy but not to a full extent. We had talked a bit today and as usual he saved my snap and said “damnnn y you so fine? I had to say it”. I finally felt like more comfortable enough to accept that we’re more than friends and I said good night with a heart “❤️” and he left me on read. Now it could’ve been an accident or he actually did it but now I’m just confused.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't know what to reply. ﾠ

[Oliverlogan263]

There are a few possible reasons why he left you on read after you said goodnight with a heart:

1. He missed the message by accident. Sometimes texts get buried in long threads, notifications are missed, or the app glitches. It was not intentional.

2. He saw the message and heart as an indication that you want to take things to a more romantic level. This may have made him uncomfortable or unsure, so he chose not to respond.

3. He's just not that interested in taking things further. His previous flirty messages may have just been harmless compliments, not true indications of romantic intent.

4. He wants to keep you "on the back burner" for casual attention or a potential hookup but isn't interested in anything serious or committed.

5. He's talking to other people and isn't that focused on your connection. Leaving you on read was inconsiderate but not necessarily personally against you.

Without directly communicating with him, it's hard to know his true reasons for leaving you on read. But if his level of investment and responsiveness suddenly changes after two months of consistent communication, it's a sign he may not be fully available or interested in what you want.

My advice would be to pay attention to his actions going forward. If he continues leaving you on read or becomes less engaged, consider moving on to focus your energy on people who consistently make you a priority. You deserve someone who enthusiastically returns your affection and meets you where you're at.

Hope this perspective provides you with some clarity and next steps. Please let me know if you have any other questions.

[MementoMori777]

No that seems about right, there's no response to a goodnight, mostly if he already told you goodnight, he will most likely start another conversation tomorrow, don't overthink lol

[pacifyherrr]

He hadn’t already said goodnight I don’t even think he knows I was gonna sleep

[MementoMori777]

Well you said you told him goodnight, that's how he knows you went to sleep, goodnight is another ways to say goodbye for that time so he didn't answer cause you'll be asleep

[MementoMori777]

When you wake up tell him good morning and I guarantee You, there's a new conversation coming

[SnowedIn]

How long has it been since he left you on read.

[pacifyherrr]

I sent the message about 9 pm but I just saw he sent a chat at 11 pm

[pacifyherrr]

So it’s all good I hope

[SnowedIn]

Oh good! 🙂