How do I get over my middle-aged previous uni lecturer/guitar teacher?

[KezHarris]

Obsessing/crushing over previous lecturer at uni! What do I do?

How do you get over obsessing/crushing over your lecturer/ university teacher? It’s been a year and a half now and it’s really annoying me! Whenever I play guitar/gig, he’s all I can think about!! Now I can’t do anything guitar/session work related without bits of his great advice popping into my head, then I start to think about how attractive he is 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ then I can’t stop, it’s really annoying!!

Not to mention he’s freshly divorced from what I can see, but he has a 5 year old boy. He’s 46 years old and I’m 21… so that would be a disaster if I were to hook up with him etc. also I’ve been in a long term relationship for 3 years now so that would most likely ruin my relationship. I have him on Facebook and he sometimes messages me about guitar related things or comments on my posts but I can see he tries to keep it professional and not cross any boundaries. It’s a shame cos he’s a great Guitar teacher and I wanted to get lessons off him but I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or put him in any bad situations so I’ve been holding off on asking him for lessons until I’m over him and I’m sure I won’t pounce on him 😂

I also live near him which doesn’t help because I also do pizza deliveries and have to deliver in his area sometimes, which means I end up going past his house 🤦🏼‍♀️ which might make me look like a stalker, but I don’t wish or intend to cause distress or any harm to him, because he’s a lovely man. I also used to work as a stripper (this was a year and a half ago!!) and got drunk one night and accidently followed him on instagram using my stripper account and the next day I had a lecture with him and he kept looking/staring at me awkwardly, then looking away when I caught him looking, I cringed so hard and wished I didn’t do that! I hope I didn’t make him uncomfortable, but I suppose he wouldn’t have accepted my friend request if I made him uncomfortable 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

[lightbulb27]

You are stuck in a fantasy and it can happen. I still think about my 5th grade teacher as an example.


Why… because how we see them is flawless, we dont see their humanity and weakness and issues. They are perfected in our minds…. And that is false imagination.
Yoir history shows you are creative and imaginstive and this is an extension of that.
So you are best to block, say good bye. And himanize him in some way so he isn't flawless. He divorced…he ain't perfect.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Hi there, No shame in having a crush on an elder age, 46-year-old guy. A lot of things happen with people in this day and age. Just make sure if you go out for food and drinks, never leave your food and drink and go to the Ladies Restroom. Always play what your gut feeling gives you. And wait to you are able to eat food and drinks, then use the Ladies Restroom.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[BigDog1989]

and yet girls always tell guys, "dont fall for that stripper" or "don't fall for that waitress"

[KezHarris]

Yeah it’s the other way around this time! Haha. Hopefully he thinks I’m attractive 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

[BigDog1989]

Hopefully not

[AviatorTom]

Find another guy and have an all-night session with him. That will help you forget the unit guy.

[Levin]

Confused. You could probably get him if you wanted. But you have a boyfriend.

[Philyouup]

go for it. make a
dalliance out of it. scratch your itch don’t make a thing out of age. Just don’t fall in love.

[Jerre]

Just takes a lot of time. Welcome as, haven’t seen you in a long time.

[Jerre]

@kezharris Thank you for the Like

[Nik1hil]

You already know the answer!..

[eagle1951]

do you really want to get over him?

[KezHarris]

Well… it’s tricky cos I feel like I could charm him better if I wasn’t into him. Plus I already have a partner… so being “over him” and not caring what he thinks of me would be best, I think.

[In_Trance]

go back to the gym. Get your mind off of this