How to get a man that has money, power and appearance obsessed with you?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, he comes from a wealthy background and a well-known family. He was the first one to reach out to me and he always tells me how pretty I am. I ignore his messages sometimes and his calls haha but when he takes a couple of minutes to get back to me he always tells me the reason. He also lets me know what messages he's receiving on his phone. Anyway, how do I get him to only have eyes for me?

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9 mo

Update: He's taking his mother, my mother and me shopping tomorrow. I think we're off to a good start. I'll keep you posted.

[Datboi65]

You're not playing him, he's playing you.

Look at the bigger picture, a man of power and influence is someone intelligent enough to understand human social dynamics where he can use to to create wealth through persuading other people to use his services. What makes you think that he also doesn't understand female psychology in order to manipulate you into thinking you're special?

If you understand "power and appearance" then you also understand that you need to make him look good in front of others. That means, there are certain behaviors you cannot engage in, and there are certain things you aren't allowed to wear. Things like tattoos or piercings, blue hair and so on are a huge no no. The average girl walking around in the United States has a small wrist tattoo, and even that's looked down upon in there circles (I'm talking about old money, not new money).

Ask yourself the following questions:

What am I good at?

What can I bring to his life that he doesn't already have?

Am I the only one, or is there a lot of competition?

If the answer to any of these questions is less than satisfactory, then he's definitely playing you and he's just bored. If the answer is great, then you have a sub-optimal chance of being considered. That all comes down to your self-awareness and honesty with yourself.

Finally, it's not a flex to sleep with a celebrity/millionaire because it happens all the time. If you cannot get what you truly desire - which is the relationship you're trying to secure - then it's best to stop wasting your time and move on. You will stand nothing to gain from entertaining his wishes without gaining anything long-term in return.

[Asker]

We're both Muslim so we definitely can't date. However, he's taking us all shopping together because he wants me to spend time with his mother. I'm a little nervous but I'm excited.

[BlackBeauty90]

If you're Muslim then marriages are arranged you know that. He's probably looking at you as good for his mother's servant

[BlackBeauty90]

Which still very much happens in Islamic society. Trust me your ignorance and low class Behavior will ensure that you will never marry a Muslim man unless you improve yourself and that's going to be very hard

[BlackBeauty90]

*this Muslim man

[Datboi65]

You're a Muslim? That makes things a whole more interesting.

Let me ask you a question, has he asked your father for your hand in marriage? Did he express any desire to talk to your family? If the answer is not, you don't stand a chance. If the answer is yes, then you might be going places.

I would ask that you tell him if he wanted to continue this, he should talk to your dad and then see his response.

[Asker]

My father passed away and he knows that. That's why he only wants to meet my mom tomorrow. lets see how it goes 😊

[Datboi65]

I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you all the best.

[Nazgol]

Would say the same for doctors?

[Nazgol]

@Datboi65

[Datboi65]

@Nazgol Yes and no. I'm a med student, so I'm always around doctors and some of the attendings I have on rotations are well... Interesting to say the least.

Anecdotal evidence to the side, Doctors are highly paid and have prestige that's correct, but I wouldn't consider them the same level as what the asker is talking about. The kind of man she's hinted out is probably "old money" which basically means comes from family wealth, and has wealth of his own. Think of someone like Bronny James, LeBron's son. These are ESPECIALLY hard for women to get, because they are spoon fed and usually spoiled, so they grow getting any woman they want, which makes them less likely to commit to a common girl.

Most Doctors usually come from middle class families and make their own money, so they're a first-generation high-earner. This means that yes they have high standards for the women they deal with because of their busy schedule, but they don't care about the woman's socioeconomic status as long as she meets the other criteria.

[Nazgol]

Yeah i agree, also doctors come from an understanding of morals & ethics, I doubt any are of bad character (tho not all)

[Nazgol]

And they have certain ethics & expectations to abide by, but a rich boy from a rich family doesn't, he can be anyway he wants in personality

[RavVid]

Given your age range and assuming he is a bit older then he is likely to be interested in a serious relationship. Which means a number of things. He probably wants to be comfortable with you and not embarrassed that you dress like a hoe with your tits out. If you do he'll regard you as a hoe.

He'll want you to be liveable with and not too much drama. He'll want you to be co-operative and not disputatious. He'll want you to be feminine. In other words pretty much he'll want what all guys want in a girl. Probably he'll want a conservative mindset.

Pearlythings did a you tube video on this and you might look it up.

[Anonymous]

You don't.

You are nothing more than entertainment. A cheap fling. Something he can laugh about with his friends after he has sex with you & drops you faster than you can say boo hoo. If you're particularly attractive he may take photos to pass around, it's not like you can do anything if he does.

Trust me. You're not but a prostitute he doesn't have to pay.

I come from a very affluent background - as in related to old British nobility - and your behavior of is far too low class for him to see you as anything more than a bet. I mean you stink of poor upbringing with not responding to texts - shows respect - and you're definitely not on par with well bred women of good upbringing.

[Opinion Owner]

*my grandparents on my mother's side lesser nobility and dad's side well inventors, scientists, and other affluent people not rabble

[Opinion Owner]

As for him being nice his proper upbringing of being respectful, etc - a good upbringing is not something you can possibly hope to claim - keeps him from being mean when he is doing nothing more than playing the fool (you).

I went to university with men like him. They never played games with girls of proper or high upbringing but the girls who got in by luck or scholarships were fair game.

[Unit1]

This anon Lady is right on target

[Opinion Owner]

Asker - I'm not "mad" just laying down reality. You don't appear like you'd add much value to average Joe's life so WHAT value would you have for a man who can likely buy your entirely family

[Killsey]

By being a high value woman. And from what I've read, you're still lacking in that department right now. A high value man like him can choose who he wants. You need to stand out and prove to him why he should take you and not someone else. If you give what others can too, why would he pick you?

You need to be one of a kind, to get a one of a kind man.

[DextroShade]

You have to add value to his life in ways other than beauty or sex. Cooking and cleaning are a given at this level, so you need to go above and beyond and find ways to help him with whatever he does so much that you become indispensable in his life. Keep in mind that even if he commits to you he will still likely cheat, but you should be prepared to accept that if you want a high-value man.

[Anonymous]

I think this has to do with a man's heart. Even if you are perfect and in his heart he's adulterous, he will still look at other women. On the other hand, he might seem like a perfect man, but you don't know what is hiding inside. Some things money can't buy, and even a learned etiquette and manners.

[Beautyblossom2]

You don't get them obsessed. They're very much used to that behaviour already. They know very well how much of a catch they are. Be realistic.

Maybe play some family games/strategies n have him stuck in an arranged marriage with you lol. Jk..

[Hinaaaaa]

Just be Yourself... if he is being nice... be nice to him... never ever let him know that you want something more... just be nice... reply & take his calls...& Most important don't expect anything... cause expectations hurt... you will know by the time what he wants cause if a man really wants a woman... he'll do anything to get her...

Fellow Muslim🙂✌️

[BoopBoopBeep]

Stop the childish games of ignoring his messages. I don't have time to waste on women who want to play games. Nobody's that hot. While you're ignoring my calls I'm calling one of the other more motivated women who wants the same privilege you do.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

For starters tell him to buy you a golden shovel & give it to you & take things slow from there.

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

It kinda sounds like he's already interested in you.

I don't know what you think you're accomplishing by ignoring his calls and texts, but if you keep doing that he might decide you're more trouble than you're worth.

Guys that are rich, powerful, and good looking have lots of options when it comes to women.

[BlackBeauty90]

He's not interested in her, as the anonymous female poster said, he's playing with a fool. After all by her immature and rude conduct of ignoring messages you can't tell me even average men would be interested

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

@BlackBeauty90 Well if anonymous female poster said it, it must be true.

[BlackBeauty90]

You are aware that the asker is anonymous as well right so you can cut the attitude

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

@BlackBeauty90 Oh heavens to betsy, that changes everything. I'll definiitely drop the attitude, now that I've been checkmated.

Well played, Black beauty, well played.

[BlackBeauty90]

@andlikethathesgone you're not smart enough to insult me. After all somebody has to have insecurity to be insulted

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

@BlackBeauty90 Oh is that how that works? Somebody has to have insecurity to be insulted?

So if I say, "Black beauty, you're a ridiculous idiot," I haven't insulted you, because you have no insecurity, and you can ONLY be insulted if you have insecurity.

Right?

[Darkrainbow]

@BlackBeauty90 i bet u are man too 😂

[BlackBeauty90]

@Darkrainbow no I'm not a slut

[Unit1]

A man with money, power and appearance is in a position, where he doesn't get obsessed with a Lady. That man is one of the top 20% of men. Many women run after those. Why should he commit to you or any of them?

[Darkrainbow]

Well even Christiano Ronaldo marry a sales woman after dating hot models. İ mean if he is hetero then why not 😂

[Unit1]

@Darkrainbow I don't know who that is but I will take your word for it. In the end love is love.
Besides a sales woman can always up herself to a businesswoman.

[hello123456789]

The only thing you can do is try to sleep with him and be submissive as possible. Be his best friend.

[magiusX26]

earn your way into being worthy of that guy. be the upgrade to his status and peace. hint: that is not a beauty or sex thing either, nor is it finacial.

[Kaamraj]

Add value to his life that no other female is adding. Now in what way, that you will have to figure out.

[jeanneinborabora]

If your ultimate goal is marriage, then you should know that if you marry money, you will pay for it!

[Billlewis]

It's simple -- just tease the hell out of him and make him jealous of the guy you're dating.

[Anonymous]

"I ignore his messages sometimes and his calls haha" Doesn't really sound funny. Just sounds like the kind of game playing that people did in junior high school.

[Hn665]

Why do you ignore him? Seems like he already wants you

[BlackBeauty90]

He's not interested in her, as the anonymous female poster said, he's playing with a fool. After all by her immature and rude conduct of ignoring messages you can't tell me even average men would be interested

[Darkrainbow]

@BlackBeauty90 🤡🤡

[Sub_Girl]

You haven't seen 50 shades of grey didn't you

[OddBeMe]

How many wealthy powerful people date middle class nobodies? It’s mostly a fashion statement in their world. I recently read an actress was advised to date Leo DiCaprio to get ahead. Pun.

[Vegasrunner]

TbH based on your behavior it doesn't seem like that's something you'll be able to achieve

[SolitarySolace]

If that’s all a woman wants in a man than she isn’t worth the time of day

[Anonymous]

How do you get a high value man to want you? Be a high value woman? Do you know how to do that? Most modern women don't.