Is it wrong for me to have a crush on a guywho bullys me?

[Anonymous]

I don't know how to explain this shit but basically I like this big dude by big I mean he's literally tall as fuck and is kinda fat and the thing is he bullies me and always has something to say about what I'm wearing or how I look and one time I wore my black crop top and was just chillin walking wit my friend and he literally turned to his friends and said "she's wearing a black one" qnd his friend said "they both wearing the same thing" cuz me and my friend both were wearing a black top but when i looked up i caught eyes wit him and his friend said "ohhh" and the rest of then laughed and started whistling at me and my friend🤣 i dont know how to explain it but I get 💦 looking at him💀 what the fuck should I do? Is somethin' wrong wit me? What does this shit mean?😭

[inhua]

no I wouldn't say it's wrong

bullies have always statistically had more romantic success than the victims they bully so it's feeding right into the statistic

the more bullying a bully did, the more romantically success they became. the more bullying their victims received, the less romantic success the victims had

[Asker]

Sorry can u explain more like u talking to a 5 year old im hella slow sorry🤣

[inhua]

there's no right or wrong with your feelings

I'm just saying for him, this would follow a pattern of perceived "dominant" men being more attractive to girls than perceived "submissive" men

[Asker]

Ohhhh okay thanks sorry im just slow as fuck🤣

[Asker]

But basically I'm concerned does this mean I like him or does this mean he likes me back or both? Im hella confused cuz i hate that mf but i also wanna do shit to him🤣

[inhua]

these are your feelings. it's difficult to know without extra detail such as body language, tone of voice, similar patterns etc.

[Asker]

Define detail please?🤣😁

[inhua]

body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, recurring patterns, timing of events

[Asker]

I'm slow🤣

[Asker]

Basically the times he was REALLY MEAN was last year cuz he would say something about me being his race and another at the same time and called me a monkey and this year he hasn't really said anything bad except when he had comments about things I was wearing even if I looked good in whatever I was wearing he would get mad about it and have something to say but his bomies on the other hand would whistle at me or say "heyyy~" or "aye" so I'm not sure if they are hinting that he feels the same or not😭🤷‍♀️

[Billlewis]

If we were friends, I'd rather you have a crush on a guy who's bullying me... lol

[Staximus]

Tell him right in front of all his friends "treat me right or go fuck yourself"

[BigDog1989]

It'd be sort of like having a crush on a captor, which is considered Stockholm syndrome

[Anonymous]

Oh honey, there is definitely a pole in your future 😆😆😆

[Asker]

The fuck that supposed to mean?

[In_Trance]

whatever works for you

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I don't see why you would want to do that.