Why don't men stop texting you when you made it clear you don't wanna chat anymore or if you ignore their Message and they still text you?

[CoolCatMar1]

Don't they have some dignity? Also why can't they just accept i am not interested?

[WhiteSteve]

I have a theory about this, actually. “The Rom-Com Etiquette Theory”, lmao. Most, or at least many, rom-coms I’ve seen seem to have the common thread of a guy who’s trying to win over a woman (usually out of his league, haha), and she initially rebuffs his advances. Through the course of the movie, however, the guy doesn’t give up, he persists, and in the movie, that persistence makes the woman say “oh man…. I’m out here running around with these idiot guys who are just easy on the eyes, they treat me badly, and all this time this average-ass, Everyman dude has been standing right here professing his love for me! How could I have been so blind?”

I think there’s a noble message somewhere in there, like not judging books by their covers, seeing beyond physical appearance, etc…. but I think a lot of guys misread it as “So ‘no’ really means ‘keep trying, just give me a few months to warm up to the idea’, right? Seth Rogen and Jonah Hill pulled a Hollywood starlet in those movies I saw!”

I can only speak for myself, but in my experience, anyone I ever hooked up with, dated, anything like that…. the mutual attraction began on Day 1. Like we were both shaking hands like “Oh, heyyyyy😉”, it was just a matter of hanging out for a bit and not screwing it up. There was never really any time where I knew someone for a while and was like “wait…. I think I might be into her.” That’s just me, like I said, but I can’t say I know a ton of others who met like that either, other than cases where one or both parties weren’t single at the time they met.

So I think some guys think “persistence pays off” because of that Hollywood trope. I think we also just can psychologically convince ourselves of things that aren’t true, simply because we want them to be true. “That cute cashier smiled and said hello to me when I bought my bottle of water! She totally wants me!”🤦‍♂️😂

[MrOracle]

Persistence DOES pay off at least SOME of the time.

And SOME (usually toxic) women WANT men to pursue them and be persistent, and they will always turn down a man at first, because she wants to be chased and convinced, and if he doesn't do that, she feels he just isn't putting in enough effort. These women effectively train men to do this.

[Finchie40]

Sadly girls do this as well to guys , it’s a learned behavior manly stemmed down from someone’s childhood , if a child always got their way and were pretty much spoiled by their parents , they have a harder time accepting No as an answer , so they keep pursuing whatever they want to get what they want , so in your case you are attracting guys that pretty much always got what they wanted , by thinking they are doing no wrong , thinking they can change your mind. Most people in general have a hard time accepting No as an answer because they were pretty much spoiled their whole lives , when someone is spoiled they see no wrong in their actions what so ever they just assume their shit doesn’t stink and that they were put on this planet to be taken care of , cuz they feel they always get their way no matter what. So again this goes both ways , I have had girls come on to me that wouldn't take no for an answer , that kept pursuing me when I clearly had no interest in them what so ever , almost to the point they were obsessed with me , it was creepy to be honest , I tried every which way to get them to stop but they kept pursuing me thinking they will get their way. The best thing for you to do is to just block them if they aren’t taking No as answer , hopefully they will get the hint that you are not interested in them at all , that’s pretty much all you can do , Now if they start stalking you and following you , you need to call the cops and put a restraining order on their asses. Because that’s some crazy obsessed shit

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes, that can get annoying. I had people spam call my house and impersonate me online after I rejected them. I don’t know if you can totally avoid people who don‘t take no for an answer since the world is full of crazy people, but see if you can do things to make sure your safe when this happens. I heard they have electronic sirens you can buy that are shaped like key chains and beep on command, which you could use to grab attention if a stalker follows you somewhere and wants to disrespect you. As well I use a fake name on Facebook to stop people I don’t like from finding me online. Things like that can help. I also tell my friends that if a stranger asks them for my address, to give them the wrong address so they waste their time and give up.

[another_curious_girl]

It's because of all the girls who play hard to get and string people along. During there power trip to boast there egos, they don't realize that they are teaching men that no doesn't actually mean no. Instead these guys think "If I chase her long enough, she'll give in" or "she just doesn't what to admit that she wants me."

The best thing to do I just cut him off, because honestly he'll never lesson when you say no. Block and delate all of his contacts, including social media. If he makes other profiles to follow you, change your username. That's the only way they'll get the message.

[Bilboes]

Yeah, I always wonder why, if I did that I’d automatically think they weren’t interested especially if they’re still active on social platform. I hate that these dudes think females owe them a conversation or a justification on why they don’t want to interact with them. They don’t have to tell you s**t, take the hint and stop messaging… It’s literally not that hard. But I guess it's hard for some people to get social cues. There’s too many girls in the world for you to just be basically harassing one until she responds. Absurd AF..

[Hobbert]

Hmm... Never thought of it this way. Wouldn't you tell that person to stop and block him?

[SexyBrunetteNY]

Ya know, this was on my mind yesterday. I deal with this ALL the time, even as an older woman it just NEVER stops. My only guess is that it's a lack of respect and that lots of men don't value our opinions enough to HEAR US. It's all about them and what they want. In their eyes, we exist to be conquered by them. Meaning, if they persist they will wear us down and we'll suddenly fall madly in love with them. It's really not true, and guys then waste energy on girls who just aren't interested.

If a woman is attracted to you, you won't have to push hard, it will all flow naturally.

[Reichmann75]

I am not your age and I already kept texting while girls didn't want to anymore when i was younger and didn't understood the codes of females.

We do this pretty much because we don't understand you and because when you think you "make it clear", you actually don't. If a guy don't want to talk to you, he would just say "I don't want to talk to you", or block you. When a girl doesn't want to talk to you, she will just let you talk, then respond things like "Ok" "Sure" "Right", and delay her response as hard as possible.

[Hobbert]

You know, I ask that same question to myself but in my case, had 1 date with her then lost interest but still she replies but going through all the messaged, it went from 6 lines of message down to 2 line or 1 line.

[Sour-rose]

"I'm not interested= I'm bullshitting you, please try hardfer."

-what most men hear 🙃

[catarecute]

because he feels ghosted and noone likes people who ghost. it hurts a lot and people react differently to pain/

[Pegases]

You do realize that you can simply block his number right? If you really didn't want him texting you, you'd do that.

[Sharkstealth]

I guess the answer may be similar to the thought that some random guy on social media might hop on a plane to Greece to meet with a computer screen image and convo. Not actually very practical is it?

[Billlewis]

Probably because you're one of the most beautiful and desirable women in the world, and it's hard to accept not being able to continue interacting with you.

[CoolCatMar1]

🤣🤣🤣

[MementoMori777]

No they don't have dignity, the ones that do will understand lack of interest

[gothbxtch]

i wouldn’t say all men are like that, but some people are pushy and don’t take hints. i would say block them at that point

[TomMarks]

Inability to take a hint, maybe combined with the thought “I never want to give up on her.”

I don’t get it.

[MikeTheBartender]

Same question for some women unfortunately. Some people just don't get it.

[TallAnon]

Because at some point a girl was stupid enough to respond and it worked out, so he got positive reinforcement

[msc545]

Do you know how to block a phone number? If so, then do that. If not, learn how and do it anyway. This is not a real problem.

[Sparkie460]

Some people are just oblivious. They either don't get it or they don't care.

[CubaPirate]

Because they're obviously insecure desperate assholes

[Engin12]

They might be thinking they made her upset somehow. Dont quickly jump into wrong conclusions.

[DeanFreed]

No dignity
Just hormones
You're hot
Wanna text?
Joke!

[CoolCatMar1]

Hmm?

[WhitneySnow]

I always wondered that

[red-lipstick-girl]

because they are out of character

[sheikalana]

Those men are losers. Best to block them.

[spartan55]

What's your idea of 'making it clear'?

[CoolCatMar1]

I told them i have a boyfriend and don't need their advances

[Cubus]

Men in this case are specific.

[andylakes09]

Cos theyre desperate

[Miah05]

They weird

[Christoff92]

They're lonely.