Do men prefer virgin girls first?

Question

I'm just curious about your opinions: Is it wrong for a guy to prefer virgin girls?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I think a desire for virgin women is a strange, sick fetish unless a virgin is seeking another virgin for their first sexual experience.

To treasure virginity and purity is, itself, bizarre. It's a denial of human nature, which is most common with certain religious teachings.

Normal people develop libidos at puberty. They want a boyfriend/girlfriend. They develop crushes and infatuation, which they think is love. Throughout their lives, they have fantasized about Disney princes and princesses and love at first sight, "they lived happily every after" relationships. They get into infatuated relationships but probably aren't yet mature enough to be good marriage partners, let alone parents.

Those relationships are part of growing up and gaining the knowledge and experience to eventually recognize the right partner for them and to be a good partner.

A lot of guys talk as if there are only two kinds of women - virgins and promiscuous party girls. But, as I said, normal girls have healthy libidos, self-esteem and self-respect, good morals, values, and normal hopes and dreams. They engage in unbridled sex with their exclusive, romantic partner. But that doesn't make them sluts.

Sometimes our first romance turns into true love and life-long commitment. But more often than not, people realize that they are not destined to be with that partner for the rest of their life. They may have several relationships before they find the right partner. That's just how life works.

There are those who go out and participate in life and those who don't. Some learn to roller skate, ride a bike, participate in sports, camp, and learn skills. They fall down, make mistakes and learn. Others are afraid of life and out of touch with their own bodies, especially when it comes to sex. They can't imagine peak pleasure, so they never pursue it.

And some guys want to marry virgins because they want someone who is helpless, submissive, and easy to control. They don't want a woman with a brain who is capable of thinking for herself.

There is nothing wrong with virginity. Everyone was a virgin at one time. But thinking that virginity is virtuous and "saving" ones self for marriage is unrealistic and rather unhealthy in my opinion.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

It’s not wrong to prefer, but it IS wrong to have double-standards.

For example, it’s not wrong to prefer marrying someone who doesn’t already have kids.

But, it IS wrong to forbid your partner from talking to their exes if you yourself talk to your exes.

And when it comes to virginity and sexual purity, it’s wrong to demand that of your partner if you haven’t been sexually pure yourself.

Can you prefer it? Sure. Can you seek it? Sure. But to demand it and feel entitled to it, while not holding yourself to the same standard? No, that’s wrong.

pancake · Accepted Answer

The preference for virginity in potential partners is complex and varies among individuals, cultures, and societies. Historically, many cultures have placed a high value on female virginity due to reasons related to lineage, inheritance, and societal norms. For some men, a preference for virgin partners might be rooted in traditional beliefs, the desire for a partner without previous sexual experiences, or concerns about purity and morality. However, modern societies are becoming more progressive, and many individuals no longer consider virginity as a determining factor in choosing a partner. Contemporary views on relationships often emphasize emotional connection, compatibility, and shared values over the past experiences of either party. It's essential to recognize that generalizing about the preferences of all men is an oversimplification. Personal preferences are multifaceted and influenced by upbringing, culture, personal beliefs, and individual experiences. Everyone is unique in their desires and values when it comes to relationships.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If they prefer virgin women.. They’re Predators!!! Pedophiles!!! Who the fuck is a virgin? NO ONE THATS WHO. People underage.. In HighSchool….. These are predators. Run from them. Far Far away 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️!!! ‼️‼️ Don’t even look back!! Don’t even look back cause these are the ones that rape the female daughters of single mothers!!

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

Some men do, but really I think virgins should go for virgins. If a man has had six partners, for example, and marries a virgin it is an unfair dynamic for her. That will always be in her head that she waited and he didn’t, he knows what other women are like but she only knows him. I think people should generally go for someone that has similar morals to them

Finchie40 · Answer

Most guy’s want a girl that hasn’t been around the block a bunch of times , so yes most guy’s prefer virgins’ mainly because most guy’s are territorial over a girl he gives his heart to , He doesn’t like picturing another guy inside her and fucking her , most guy’s are turned off by that because he wants to be the only one inside her. I had a few virgins in my lifetime and sadly they all eventually turned to whores , after they had enough of me and wanted to try other cocks. Then they all tried getting back with me , once they had their fill and I said Nope not going to happen , you had your chance and you blew it , I tried taking an ex back one time and that was my answer to never do it again , I might fuck her againbit I won’t commit to her. I am not saying I would never bang a virgin again , but it doesn’t bother me anymore if she isn’t , just as long as she doesn’t have a reputation of being a whore , I want to stick my dick into disease free pussy , i want a girl that only wants my cock , Sex is best when you are with someone that loves you back the same. Someone’s past is their past , all that matters is they treat you well and they are honest with you , Sadly most people can’t be honest , so I am not settling down with any girl until I feel she is honest with me and is on it for the long haul

EricSummer · Answer

When both are still beginners I can understand the preference. It can be nice to explore these things together especially for teenagers planning to stay together for long.

After highschool days it can soon become an unnecessary limitation and it can also get creepy.

Miristheiss · Answer

For marriage and long term, to fall in love with? Yes.

Most guys probably don't care if it is just a hook up, short term thing. They don't really care about the girl so her past is irrelevant. The more loose she is the easier it is to get her to give it up.

Getting married, "forever", having kids with, taking home to family, sharing home and assets... that is a different standard. The stakes go way up for how picky you are going to be.

Most girls think they can be both. Act loose, wild, degenerate, f around for years and then SNAP one day they think now I'll be a wife and settle down and all that past stuff should just be overlooked. Sometimes it will work out that way, many times it does not.

Anonymous · Answer

If he’s a virgin himself, sure. But so many men these days… who are not even close to being virgins… want virgin women, they fetishise it. They want a woman who’s pure and hasn’t been with anyone else, but they also want her to know what she’s doing in bed, but they also want her to be innocent, but they also want a dirty freak. They contradict themselves constantly.

BigRed1987 · Answer

Well I’ll put it this way, I’d prefer a car with far less miles on it than a vehicle that’s been driven a bunch of times. I’d expect a partner to feel the same way about the guy she’s dating as well.

I don’t think you’re asking the right question and I feel silly, but I forgot the second question (to be fair it’s 2:25am and I can’t seem to fall back to sleep…), anyway, I think most guys and girls prefer a partner who hasn’t had sex with tons and tons of people. I would never date someone who’s had sex with tons of people either lol…that’s gross. (Yes and for both genders)

So to answer, not necessarily virgins, but girls who aren’t whores. I hope that answers your question. (If the post asked about men, I’d answer the same way.)

LazerBean · Answer

It's wrong for a non virgin person to want a virgin, since they would ruin the virgins potential of relationship success. Very selfish for a damaged person to drag others down to their level.

FriendlyCanadianGuy · Answer

I like a women with a bit of experience. I took a girls virginity in university.
Shee lied and said she had sex many times before.

Anyway It was horrific, she didn't know what to do, and I tore her open, she cried in pain, ran out the dorm covered in blood, her girlfriends soon rushed in and kicked me out of the room butt naked...

Definitely the worst sexual experience I've ever had, and don't plan to get with another virgin lol.

Apple1996 · Answer

When they are also virgins then yeah but if a man is slutty then he shouldn't be with a virgin

Anemone978 · Answer

No I have not seen a guy prefer virgins besides from when I was a teenager, I had a friend who used to go for girls to take their virginity and then dump them.. he wanted mine but I was like fuck off LOL.. but he has always been super nice to me since we met, even now when ever I go back home he always jumps to see me which I appreciate since we aren't close friends..

AaronKrieger · Answer

Depends on the guy and their reasoning for it being wrong, but I'm going to find it weird no matter what unless they're religious. For me, I somewhat prefer someone who isn't a virgin, since it's an easier process, although it does not matter that much to me.

Nikki1989 · Answer

A virgin seeking another virgin is reasonable, otherwise it is just damn creepy and a serious red flag.

Sonorous · Answer

This is actually something that is very common. Men who are less sexually active tend to be like this. Skip to 21 minutes.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I think it could do with the kind of person she is to be a virgin in the first place. She will probably live a certain kind of life and have values that a guy is looking for if she is a virgin. Some of it is just about her not having any prior experience because the guy may feel he might not stack up to the other men she's been with.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Some do, some don't.
I think its only wrong if the guy isn't also a virgin.
I'm a virgin, so I want a woman who's also saving herself for marriage.
This isn't a religious thing (I'm an atheist), its just a practical choice. It removes or reduces some of the risks involved in the begining of relationships.

GOOSEBOY78 · Answer

honestly? yes.

its a horrid aweful mess from the guys perspective too.

and the internet expects that every girl over the age of 30 to be a nun living in a convent and no kid (s)

because atheists are rife. a made up religeon by deluded skeptics

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I think so, probably most do want a virgin but most men don't expect a woman to be a virgin around 20 plus years old especially pretty women.

It's about being realistic in the real world.

Being a virgin or non virgin doesn't mean a woman is good nor bad.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Well this guy prefers as virgin a pussy as possible with a cultured mind, not necessarily an experienced one. The sluts will tell you it's incompatible, they get this concept confused. The truly wise women know that it can and does exist either way, it's a matter of choice.

Anonymous · Answer

If he himself is a virgin of course. Women can get laid way easier, and can rack up a high body count if they wanted.

It shows you don't give it up to just anyone. A more loyal trait. It is still acceptable to have a fair amount of previous partners, but he will be compared to all your previous partners.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've been with three virgins. I actively try to avoid them. I never understood the appeal.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

as stated before, while it is just a preference, it's worth noting the type to obsess over "body count" tend to be lesser quality of partners with potential abuse red flags.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, otherwise they call you a roastie. But take it from a 23 year old virgin before i lost my virginity to my boyfriend and virgins are not good in bed, and you will have a lot to learn before you get good. Also the older you get the more it hurts when you lose it.

Nimitttt · Answer

They as in guys who are sex addicts with hug past want tight vagina so they prefer virgins as they know how to lose girl’s virginity without them bleeding coz it’s just elasticity so they start with turn you on to fingering and getting you wet first through great foreplay for few weeks and then fuck you all day post that.

menina · Answer

There are men who have a fetish for virgin women. In my opinion those men aren't to be trusted. So yes, I think it's wrong to prefer only virgin women/girls.

But I think most men prefer women who have experience.

summiter · Answer

We all have different preferences but being a virgin was never a preference for me. I have had the honor of being the first for three gilrs and I always tried to make it a gentle and fun experience.

ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW · Answer

For their first time? I think it's common for men to prefer another virgin so they feel less pressure. Is it wrong for a man to prefer a virgin? Not at all. It does become more unrealistic and limiting the older one gets, however.

chrissykerdock · Answer

guys basically want to cum one way or another... a virgin isn't likely to do that for them

boodadude · Answer

It’s not wrong for a guy to look for a virgin girl if he is one himself. I was a virgin when I met my now fiancée. We have cherished the fact that we were each-others’ first and that has made our relationship stronger I feel. The thoughts of other partners have never crossed our minds in intimate moments. Pair-bonding is real and something to consider strongly. My recommendation is to only have sex if you are very strongly considering marriage.

normalice · Answer

Until about the age of 30 or so, men tend to be more inclined to virgins. Beyond that, men who still want virgins are considered immature at best or pedos at worst.

inhua · Answer

nothing wrong with having the preference people who have a problem with this preference will apply non-existent motives to make the person with the preference look bad or evil

magiusX26 · Answer

neither right nor wrong as its a prefference. me personally, would rather non-virgins. not saying i would want one overly used either, but already opened and some degree of experience so she has a clue of both what she likes and if how i perform.

Anonymous · Answer

This question has been asked like 5 times in the past 7 days. Do people not use the search bar before asking a question that has been asked multiple times

Sfrankum · Answer

I don't prefer virgins. In fact I'd prefer not to be a womans' first as no women no matter how well the man attends is likely to really enjoy her first time.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't worry if the girl is a virgin or not a virgin as long as she's a sweet soul that's all matters to me and as long as she's disease free that is all matters to me.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, there is too much pressure because no matter how good or bad you generally remember your first. I preferred someone with experience that knows what they are doing.

tzdc21 · Answer

Ideally a guy would love to have a virgin. But most understand that it's nearly impossible to find nowadays so they more than likely won't make it a requirement to be a virgin

Surely · Answer

Everyone has their preferences. Whether you can fulfill your yours. Can be a different story.
Most younger people don’t realize one prick and the woman is no longer one. Plus as you age. Legal Virgins become harder to find.

Sdexam · Answer

Its ok when you're a virgin. If you aren't a virgin and you want a virgin then you are selfish garbage.

19magic · Answer

I only think it's wrong when he himself is not a virgin.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

If men could keep a woman’s cherry preserved in a jar, we would and then brag about who has the greater number of jars.

genericname85 · Answer

some do. but i would say most men prefer women that have not and do not live a very promisquous lifestyle.

DiegoO · Answer

I honestly find stupid the idea of seeking virgins. Personally I rather experienced women's. Is it wrong to only seek for virgins? It's a creepy fetish in my humble opinion.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I'll prefer whichever one doesn't make me regret having ever met her.

Berethor · Answer

Only feminist hoes say that it wrong, virgin girls are best, who want to be with a dirty ho?

Lady_Heart · Answer

It shouldn't be important as long as they r healthy and they r not sleeping around with every other guy

DrewJohnson · Answer

I'd rather have a girl with experience than a virgin.

patrick994 · Answer

it isn't wrong having this preference, everyone has their own preference.

Anonymous · Answer

men shouldn't be allowed to know if the female is a virgin or not as it's none of their business.

MJtheCoach · Answer

NO! We want a used car but no extremely used. 1 / 2 owners before us is enough..  No guy wants a 91 honda civic with 900,000KMS on it. but there are some men out driving them around.

215J215 · Answer

6 virgins through middle school and high school. I wouldn't take it back. Back then I'd say it is something to be proud of but now I would say it was an honor. #respect

It doesn't matter though. As long as it's right and not trashy.

Starrrboy · Answer

I think anyone who prefers someone with no past should be the same as well , other than that they should seriously fawk off lol

bootyloveR88 · Answer

Well to be honest Virgin girls are less likely to play games, smell fishy, have STDS, or be loosey goosey. Just sayin

Anonymous · Answer

It’s been statistically proven that, the more partners a woman has, the less likely she will stay with one man. So, as long as the guy is not banging everything in a skirt, it’s perfectly fine.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Most do and most don’t. If you want someone that doesn’t care that you’re virgin, hopefully you would find that guy.

Staximus · Answer

Where I live, only an idiot expects to find a virgin after he gets out of high school and especially after college

007kingifrit · Answer

for relationships yea less "experience" is better, the less breakups she has had the more trusting and kind she will be

Twalli · Answer

I think it is okay if you are also a virgin. Ince you aren't then only going for virgins is hypocritical.

Fuentes · Answer

I am not into virgins because of inexperience and waste of time and the attachments they will have too me forever, just to much to deal with

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Not really. Never been the first but hate to have to “train”. “Train” sounds harsh so don’t kill me ladies.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends upon age but in general its programing

Anonymous · Answer

Why is that guy holding her like he's going to choke her out?

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