Do men prefer virgin girls first?

[blunty]

I'm just curious about your opinions: Is it wrong for a guy to prefer virgin girls?

[pancake]

The preference for virginity in potential partners is complex and varies among individuals, cultures, and societies. Historically, many cultures have placed a high value on female virginity due to reasons related to lineage, inheritance, and societal norms. For some men, a preference for virgin partners might be rooted in traditional beliefs, the desire for a partner without previous sexual experiences, or concerns about purity and morality. However, modern societies are becoming more progressive, and many individuals no longer consider virginity as a determining factor in choosing a partner. Contemporary views on relationships often emphasize emotional connection, compatibility, and shared values over the past experiences of either party. It's essential to recognize that generalizing about the preferences of all men is an oversimplification. Personal preferences are multifaceted and influenced by upbringing, culture, personal beliefs, and individual experiences. Everyone is unique in their desires and values when it comes to relationships.

[Lliam]

I think a desire for virgin women is a strange, sick fetish unless a virgin is seeking another virgin for their first sexual experience.

To treasure virginity and purity is, itself, bizarre. It's a denial of human nature, which is most common with certain religious teachings.

Normal people develop libidos at puberty. They want a boyfriend/girlfriend. They develop crushes and infatuation, which they think is love. Throughout their lives, they have fantasized about Disney princes and princesses and love at first sight, "they lived happily every after" relationships. They get into infatuated relationships but probably aren't yet mature enough to be good marriage partners, let alone parents.

Those relationships are part of growing up and gaining the knowledge and experience to eventually recognize the right partner for them and to be a good partner.

A lot of guys talk as if there are only two kinds of women - virgins and promiscuous party girls. But, as I said, normal girls have healthy libidos, self-esteem and self-respect, good morals, values, and normal hopes and dreams. They engage in unbridled sex with their exclusive, romantic partner. But that doesn't make them sluts.

Sometimes our first romance turns into true love and life-long commitment. But more often than not, people realize that they are not destined to be with that partner for the rest of their life. They may have several relationships before they find the right partner. That's just how life works.

There are those who go out and participate in life and those who don't. Some learn to roller skate, ride a bike, participate in sports, camp, and learn skills. They fall down, make mistakes and learn. Others are afraid of life and out of touch with their own bodies, especially when it comes to sex. They can't imagine peak pleasure, so they never pursue it.

And some guys want to marry virgins because they want someone who is helpless, submissive, and easy to control. They don't want a woman with a brain who is capable of thinking for herself.

There is nothing wrong with virginity. Everyone was a virgin at one time. But thinking that virginity is virtuous and "saving" ones self for marriage is unrealistic and rather unhealthy in my opinion.

[dynamicyandere]

It’s not wrong to prefer, but it IS wrong to have double-standards.


For example, it’s not wrong to prefer marrying someone who doesn’t already have kids.


But, it IS wrong to forbid your partner from talking to their exes if you yourself talk to your exes.


And when it comes to virginity and sexual purity, it’s wrong to demand that of your partner if you haven’t been sexually pure yourself.


Can you prefer it? Sure. Can you seek it? Sure. But to demand it and feel entitled to it, while not holding yourself to the same standard? No, that’s wrong.

[Datboi65]

I second this. I'm a career-focused traditional man saving myself for marriage, and I will not settle for a woman that's not a virgin.

I think it's a nuanced conversation, since the reason why double-standards exist are because men and women want different things in a partner, so logically speaking it would make sense. However, morally speaking it doesn't. That begs the question of which standard we should use, human nature/evolution theory or religious revelations. If you're an evolutionist, you would say that there's nothing wrong with human desires and that men and women should play to their strengths (virginity in women, promiscuity in men). If you are religious - like myself - you would acknowledge the differences in desires but also abide by the rules of celibacy for *both* men and women.

Evolutionists/ people who aren't religious do not view this double standard as a bad thing, they simply embrace it as part of the natural order of things. Religion has also pointed out that men and women are different, but the purity of the man is also important in that it ensures a level playing field, to protect the emotional well-being of the woman (men who've been with a lot of women find it hard to be loyal).

I've only hit the tip of the iceberg here. However, based off of what was said with regards to intimacy I do agree both parties should be equal. As far as other roles are concerned, that's another topic for another day.

[xKayTea]

It is so refreshing to see a man with common sense, I completely agree, if you cannot conform to your own standards you push onto your partner, then it is hypocritical and a double standard. Take a step back and thing, I'm not even 'pure' so who am I to demand that? etc.

[Tiptoetamm]

Well said

[EmyyWolf]

If they prefer virgin women.. They’re Predators!!! Pedophiles!!!

Who the fuck is a virgin? NO ONE THATS WHO. People underage.. In HighSchool…..

These are predators. Run from them. Far Far away 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️!!! ‼️‼️

Don’t even look back!! Don’t even look back cause these are the ones that rape the female daughters of single mothers!!

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Bro-Et0bf6I

[EmyyWolf]

Just look at the amount of men who liked your Question.
That alone shows you the amount of PREDATORS AND PEDOS walking around in society.
@blunty
youtube.com/shorts/dy8Nx9ba8ME?si=pjaV8IaxIqnE3YAz

[Rei13]

Some men do, but really I think virgins should go for virgins. If a man has had six partners, for example, and marries a virgin it is an unfair dynamic for her. That will always be in her head that she waited and he didn’t, he knows what other women are like but she only knows him. I think people should generally go for someone that has similar morals to them

[havingfun2023]

So true about that dynamic ✌🏻✌🏻☮️

[Finchie40]

Most guy’s want a girl that hasn’t been around the block a bunch of times , so yes most guy’s prefer virgins’ mainly because most guy’s are territorial over a girl he gives his heart to , He doesn’t like picturing another guy inside her and fucking her , most guy’s are turned off by that because he wants to be the only one inside her. I had a few virgins in my lifetime and sadly they all eventually turned to whores , after they had enough of me and wanted to try other cocks. Then they all tried getting back with me , once they had their fill and I said Nope not going to happen , you had your chance and you blew it , I tried taking an ex back one time and that was my answer to never do it again , I might fuck her againbit I won’t commit to her. I am not saying I would never bang a virgin again , but it doesn’t bother me anymore if she isn’t , just as long as she doesn’t have a reputation of being a whore , I want to stick my dick into disease free pussy , i want a girl that only wants my cock , Sex is best when you are with someone that loves you back the same. Someone’s past is their past , all that matters is they treat you well and they are honest with you , Sadly most people can’t be honest , so I am not settling down with any girl until I feel she is honest with me and is on it for the long haul

[EricSummer]

When both are still beginners I can understand the preference. It can be nice to explore these things together especially for teenagers planning to stay together for long.

After highschool days it can soon become an unnecessary limitation and it can also get creepy.

[Miristheiss]

For marriage and long term, to fall in love with? Yes.

Most guys probably don't care if it is just a hook up, short term thing. They don't really care about the girl so her past is irrelevant. The more loose she is the easier it is to get her to give it up.

Getting married, "forever", having kids with, taking home to family, sharing home and assets... that is a different standard. The stakes go way up for how picky you are going to be.

Most girls think they can be both. Act loose, wild, degenerate, f around for years and then SNAP one day they think now I'll be a wife and settle down and all that past stuff should just be overlooked. Sometimes it will work out that way, many times it does not.

[Anonymous]

If he’s a virgin himself, sure. But so many men these days… who are not even close to being virgins… want virgin women, they fetishise it. They want a woman who’s pure and hasn’t been with anyone else, but they also want her to know what she’s doing in bed, but they also want her to be innocent, but they also want a dirty freak. They contradict themselves constantly.

[femalepretzelmaker]

Hey you can tell I masturbate often but you can't tell if I'm a Virgin or not and that's a fact so give me your number and I'll prove it I can't have you walking around without being properly informed

[Opinion Owner]

Ew, pass

[BigRed1987]

Well I’ll put it this way, I’d prefer a car with far less miles on it than a vehicle that’s been driven a bunch of times. I’d expect a partner to feel the same way about the guy she’s dating as well.


I don’t think you’re asking the right question and I feel silly, but I forgot the second question (to be fair it’s 2:25am and I can’t seem to fall back to sleep…), anyway, I think most guys and girls prefer a partner who hasn’t had sex with tons and tons of people. I would never date someone who’s had sex with tons of people either lol…that’s gross. (Yes and for both genders)


So to answer, not necessarily virgins, but girls who aren’t whores. I hope that answers your question. (If the post asked about men, I’d answer the same way.)

[LazerBean]

It's wrong for a non virgin person to want a virgin, since they would ruin the virgins potential of relationship success. Very selfish for a damaged person to drag others down to their level.

[Mewzinc]

Well said.

[Noether]

Not gonna call non-virgins ‘damaged’ necessarily, but I agree that people should get with others with a similar amount of experience, otherwise it can make the less experienced personal get taken advantage of. In my neighborhood for instance there’s a guy who’s around 35 with a reputation for seducing much younger virgins of a very religious background specifically and then leaving them soon after they’ve had sex. He tried to start flirting with one of my friends (23) apparently but didn’t tell her how old he actually was when she asked, so she took fortunately took that as a red flag and then learned more about him afterwards from others

[Noether]

^(23), not (2😌

[Noether]

Twenty-three

[LazerBean]

He definitely fits the description of damaged lol

[Mewzinc]

@Noether how old is the guy?

[LazerBean]

35ish

[Mewzinc]

Oh oops, I just realized it was in her story. Thanks lol 😆

[LazerBean]

Np 😂

[Apple1996]

Exactly this! Virgins should only be with other virgins if they want a successful relationship.

[Sasha0426]

So, if a guy were in a relationship before you, that would be bad, right?

[LazerBean]

A relationship is fine as long as they didn't have sex. But a first relationship would be better.

[Sasha0426]

A relationship without sex? Yeah, good luck finding a guy like that. Unless, you find a Christian man.

[LazerBean]

Married one. That's what most of our friends have done. People with one lifetime sexual partner have the highest marital satisfaction ratings and the lowest rates.

[FriendlyCanadianGuy]

I like a women with a bit of experience. I took a girls virginity in university.
Shee lied and said she had sex many times before.

Anyway It was horrific, she didn't know what to do, and I tore her open, she cried in pain, ran out the dorm covered in blood, her girlfriends soon rushed in and kicked me out of the room butt naked...

Definitely the worst sexual experience I've ever had, and don't plan to get with another virgin lol.

[DiegoO]

Better plan to don't get back with a dishonest gal.

[FaithLeon]

That's hilarious,😂😂

[Apple1996]

When they are also virgins then yeah but if a man is slutty then he shouldn't be with a virgin

[Anemone978]

No I have not seen a guy prefer virgins besides from when I was a teenager, I had a friend who used to go for girls to take their virginity and then dump them.. he wanted mine but I was like fuck off LOL.. but he has always been super nice to me since we met, even now when ever I go back home he always jumps to see me which I appreciate since we aren't close friends..

[AaronKrieger]

Depends on the guy and their reasoning for it being wrong, but I'm going to find it weird no matter what unless they're religious. For me, I somewhat prefer someone who isn't a virgin, since it's an easier process, although it does not matter that much to me.

[Sonorous]

This is actually something that is very common. Men who are less sexually active tend to be like this. Skip to 21 minutes.

https://youtu.be/dMjwv98RQ-Q?si=5HW0bkQCJfI3eooO

[TheSpaceGnome]

He's talking about this like it's normal to have sex outside of a commited relationship, even though thats only a thing societal rejects do.

[Sonorous]

@TheSpaceGnome - I mean it is becoming the norm. You'd be surpat the ratio. Most people have sex outside marriage nowadays.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Outside marriage is common, outside commited relationships is not. Most people having sex are at least planning to keep the person they are humping (unfortunately not all do).

[Sonorous]

You'd also be surprised at how little the criteria has to be for something to be a committed relationship. All that needs to happen nowadays is for two people to find eachother sexually attractive. Then they date. Then they fuck. It's that simple.

[Honeysuckle12345]

@Sonorous yes it's normality among degenerate Western Society particularly Americans. You have no respect for anything, even your own parents.

Go to the countries and thank the heavens they are not losers like an increasing number of Americans are

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Honeysuckle12345 Its actually not the norm in the US, but people who do that claim that it is so they don't seem weird.

[Sonorous]

I think it might be becoming the norm everywhere. Especially now that birth control is so easy to get.

[Honeysuckle12345]

@Sonorous nope

[Sonorous]

@Honeysuckle12345 - There could always be a possibility that I am wrong. I'm just going off what I've heard scientists say over the years & by what I've observed through irl & online.

[UniquelyBasic]

I think it could do with the kind of person she is to be a virgin in the first place. She will probably live a certain kind of life and have values that a guy is looking for if she is a virgin. Some of it is just about her not having any prior experience because the guy may feel he might not stack up to the other men she's been with.

[GOOSEBOY78]

honestly? yes.

its a horrid aweful mess from the guys perspective too.

and the internet expects that every girl over the age of 30 to be a nun living in a convent and no kid (s)

because atheists are rife. a made up religeon by deluded skeptics

[TheSpaceGnome]

Some do, some don't.
I think its only wrong if the guy isn't also a virgin.
I'm a virgin, so I want a woman who's also saving herself for marriage.
This isn't a religious thing (I'm an atheist), its just a practical choice. It removes or reduces some of the risks involved in the begining of relationships.

[Mewzinc]

I heard guys can't be virgins. Like it's not the same as a woman where we have a hymen.

[Mewzinc]

Like men aren't losing anything when they have sex compared to a woman.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Mewzinc A virgin is someone who hasn't had sex yet. Even if you don't break your hymen, if you had sex, you're not a virgin.

[Mewzinc]

Yeah that's true. I heard of women who had vaginal intercourse and their hymen was still intact

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Mewzinc Yep, it happens sometimes if he's extra gentle with her.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I think so, probably most do want a virgin but most men don't expect a woman to be a virgin around 20 plus years old especially pretty women.

It's about being realistic in the real world.

Being a virgin or non virgin doesn't mean a woman is good nor bad.

[love_conquers_lust]

Well this guy prefers as virgin a pussy as possible with a cultured mind, not necessarily an experienced one. The sluts will tell you it's incompatible, they get this concept confused. The truly wise women know that it can and does exist either way, it's a matter of choice.

[Nikki1989]

A virgin seeking another virgin is reasonable, otherwise it is just damn creepy and a serious red flag.

[Anonymous]

If he himself is a virgin of course. Women can get laid way easier, and can rack up a high body count if they wanted.

It shows you don't give it up to just anyone. A more loyal trait. It is still acceptable to have a fair amount of previous partners, but he will be compared to all your previous partners.

[HelpfulWoman]

as stated before, while it is just a preference, it's worth noting the type to obsess over "body count" tend to be lesser quality of partners with potential abuse red flags.

[Anonymous]

Yes, otherwise they call you a roastie. But take it from a 23 year old virgin before i lost my virginity to my boyfriend and virgins are not good in bed, and you will have a lot to learn before you get good. Also the older you get the more it hurts when you lose it.