Uncertainty in relationship?

[Unknown8264]

My boyfriend and I used to always joke about what would happen if I were to have kids or he has kids, and sometimes he would say I wish we can have a baby girl together. Few days ago, we had an argument where I said something stupid and he also so we both apologized next day and we got back to normal. Yesterday I was talking about if he has kids, then his planes toys will be ruined by kids. He said this is not the topic now, it’s very far. Does this mean he doesn’t see a future with me?

[Paulalove98]

Yeah it does sound like he’s uncertain about it…he should be honest and not lead you on. Honestly he either wants to be a dad or doesn’t. Same with women, they either wanna be a mom or don’t. A baby is a serious matter and responsibility, it’s not like a toy where you’re having a bad day and just put it down. It’s a human being created that needs 18 years even more of care, respect, love, empathy, happiness, and patience. If he isn’t sure he shouldn’t be upset over the little things that can happen.

[Unknown8264]

Our situation is difficult, we are in LDR and it hasn’t been long since we met but now I am traveling to meet him to discuss our future together. But now I feel he’s changed maybe because i’m going to see him? He always says he’s excited and nervous to meet. He suggested I meet his mom, and he’s nice and sweet but now this uncertainty is happening which is making me worried. I don’t know if I should talk to him about this or not. I mean I know i will not move to Germany in one or 2 months and if we have kids it will not be now.

[Anonymous]

My ex used to say he wanted to have kids with me and I fell pregnant and he is nowhere.

Depending how long you have been together, is it possible he may already have a child out there that you don't know about? It is also possible this is a sign he doesn't see a future with you.

[Anonymous]

Where is your boyfriend from?

[Unknown8264]

Half German half Turkish
Anyway ex boyfriend