Plenty of men today either only want casual relationships or don't want a relationship at all. Setting those aside and what's left are "relationship men" - men who are at least seeking and would prefer a serious relationship, even if they don't have one right now.
Most relationship men want a serious relationship (as opposed to a casual one) because they want a family - to have children with their girlfriend/wife. There are exceptions for sure, but the majority want kids.
And for this reason, the vast majority of relationship men want a woman who prioritizes FAMILY over a career. In practice, this means that they would prefer that their wife stays home with the kids while they are young, essentially until they are in school full time, meaning 1st grade. I realize that isn't always possible, but to the extent that it is, that's what is best for the kids. Which means both parents have to make sacrifices, just different kinds.
You generally have about 40 years to work, and if you miss out of 5 to 10 of those to raise your kids, that still leaves you with 30-35 years of working time. It's not like you can't have a career, but if you put a career over a family, then neither you or the man will have a legacy, and for most relationship men, that's a deal-breaker.
I don't not appreciate it. I want my partner to be able to live however she feels would give her the most fulfillment and I have a career that allows me to cover her bills, if needed. If that means working, she should work. If that means being a homemaker, she should do that.
I don't have a problem with my significant other working. I have a problem when her career is all consuming and she can't participate in the relationship. Working twice as much as your peers doesn't make you "twice as devoted" while you try to climb the ladder, it makes you half as good as all the people who are doing their 40 and clocking out.
Absolutely yes. Western society has come a long ways. Women are equals and a successful woman is sexy. I'm raising two daughters, I would expect nothing less from them.
All I would ask is that if your a captain of your industry or leading the world, still respect me...
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Anonymous
(30-35)
1 mo
It’s whatever works for our dynamic.. I appreciate a girl that’s willing to build with me until I’m able to get to the point she can be at home. If they expect it from the get go, that’s a red flag cause of the alarming rates of divorce that women initiate. So my advise is, if a man finds a woman that’s not afraid to get her hands dirty in a clean way.. none of this popping the pussy on the internet or anything have a real respectable job and do what they can to help. Men will more often than not be loyal to you. Rather than giving a spoiled princess her hearts desires from the jump.
What makes men appreciate women is when they appreciate men for their natural role as a provider and support it. Yes she can work for herself but she cannot forget she still needs men.
If we’re just dating, she should have a job since I’m not paying her bills lol. I will cover the date when we’re out together. If it becomes a relationship, it really depends on what she wants. If she doesn’t want to be cooped up at home and wants some kind of job, I’m cool with that. If she doesn’t want to work and wants to take care of the house, I make enough to support us.
if only it were that simple. mixing traditionalism with feminism is like mixing chocolate milk with orange juice
it doesn't work and has essentially boiled down to
his money = their money
her money = her money
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Anonymous
(25-29)
2 mo
My boyfriend prefers me to work part time and I partly contribute/partly keep for myself and save. The agreement is that I work and contribute less but do more housework while he works and contributes more and does less housework.
When I was younger and had a mortgage the extra income was nice. Now that I'm older with a paid off house and some disposable income I would rather have someone look after the house
Considering the immense majority of men around the world especially those who live in poor countries and economies have no choice but to have a woman contribute to the household lest the family gets screwed.
Taking care of a home is work its self. If you expect your spouse to help bring in the $$ then you should also work at keeping the home going. Cooking, Dishes, laundry, cleaning, inlding the bathroom.
I would never have a relationship with a woman who does not work, I am not going to keep housewives, in fact I would not have a relationship with a woman who has a bad university degree or who has a lower salary than mine.
Of course and there's no way around it where i live either she has to work. its not possible to live here just off one income... unless they are making millions lol
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