Why do guys say they want a woman that respects herself but get mad when we don't put out or send nudes?

[Anonymous]

[Pοrnytail]

Well, it's kinda like this. See, when guys say they want a woman who respects herself, they usually mean they want someone who has high self-esteem and values her own worth. It's attractive to them because it shows that the woman knows what she wants and isn't afraid to stand up for herself.

However, some guys can be pretty dense and misinterpret this as meaning that a woman should always agree with them or do whatever they want. So when a woman says no to sex or sending nudes, these guys feel like their desires aren't being respected, even though the woman is actually just respecting herself by setting boundaries.

It's a classic case of miscommunication and misunderstanding. But the bottom line is this: a woman who truly respects herself will never compromise her values or do something she's not comfortable with, just to please a guy. And any guy who can't respect that probably isn't worth your time anyway. ﾠ

[Asker]

love this

[Реrverted_Сreeр]

Please keep in mìnd that individuals are complex, and not all guys will have the same opinions or behaviors. However, there might be a underlying issue at play here.

When guys say they want a woman who respects herself, it typically implies that they seek a partner who values their self-worth and has boundaries. They want a woman who knows her worth, sets personal limits, and maintains self-respect. That's a reasonable expectation to have in any relationship.

Now, the confusion arises when some guys express frustration when a woman doesn't engage in certain physical activities or share intimate photos. This may stem from societal pressures, unrealistic expectations fueled by media, or even personal insecurities.

Some guys might struggle to strike a balance between having a respectful partner and their own desires. It's essential to acknowledge that everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to physical intimacy and sharing explicit pictures. These boundaries shouldn't be disregarded or perceived as a lack of self-respect.

Sometimes, individuals may confuse the idea of self-respect with their own sexual desires or expectations. They may unintentionally undermine the concept by pressuring someone into actions that make them uncomfortable.

It's crucial for both parties to communicate openly and honestly about their boundaries and expectations to avoid misunderstandings. Mutual respect and consent are fundamental in any healthy relationship. If a guy truly values a woman who respects herself, he should also respect her boundaries and decisions, even if they don't align with his desires.

In conclusion, while it may seem contradictory at times, it's not uncommon for guys to express wanting a woman who respects herself but then exhibit frustration when certain intimate actions or explicit content aren't shared. Remember, we're all unique beings with our own desires and boundaries. Open and honest communication is key to understanding one another and maintaining a healthy, respectful relationship.

[Pegases]

This is a very good response. Well said.

[MrOracle]

You're conflating two very different types of men, OR, the women in question are "advertising" (in dress, behavior, and attitude) themselves with their sexuality, rather than as a relationship partner. Of course, it's much easier for a woman to get lots of attention - and attention from more attractive men - by using her sexuality, but these won't be the men who are looking for respectable women, but rather women who they can bang quickly and easily.

This is like wanting to catch ocean fish, but only going fishing in your backyard swimming pool. It doesn't matter how good your gear is or what kind of bait you use, you're never going to catch your target because your target isn't in your operating area.

It's "relationship men" who want respectable women - but most women don't want THOSE men - they want the hot, popular, high-status guys, and those guys only want to fuck. And that's never going to change. Yet, most women chase these men almost exclusively, because they "refuse to 'settle' for less than they deserve." And as long as they keep doing this, they'll keep getting the same results, because they're fishing in a swimming pool instead of the ocean.

[Pegases]

I can see why this would be hard to understand. From the surface it seems counter intuitive, and it actually is depending on the man. Here's the thing, we want women that respect themselves, but not prudes. In other words, a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets. All men love sex, nudes etc, and what makes promiscuous women so attractive is their sex appeal and sexual opneness. But most men realize that promiscuous women are mostly incapable of being satisfied by one man. No different than a man with no self control is incapable of being satisfied by one woman. So a woman that has the sexual openess of a hoe, but the self respect to only give that side of her to men that she knows she can trust, is what we want most. It's the best of both world essentially. Just like women want a man that is emotionally available that validates her feelings, but also isn't afraid to push her up against the wall and you can just imagine the rest.. We all yearn for that type of of passion. Its the best of both worlds. That's all this is.

[Asker]

that is way to much i dont wanna read al that but hope ou have good intentions.

[Radiate143]

Can I clone you?

[Pegases]

@Radiate143 I don't know, idt you can handle two of me.

[Radiate143]

No I don't want two. Just one guy for myself who is reasonable.

[Pegases]

@Radiate143 You seem refreshing. Message me.

[Radiate143]

Yes, I'm a tall drink.

[coachTanthony]

If the guy is saying he wants a woman that respects herself but then tries to smash or asks for a photo then that guy is full of shit. There will always be guys full of shit. You need to find the ones who are true to their word not worry about the few that are not.

[SueShe]

Because self respect always ends when people want something that goes beyond that boundary of self respect.

Guys are unfortunately dominated by their testosterone and have a very hard time controlling their hormones. They are rather the slaves of them but will never admit it.

Just look at about every 3rd post or so about a sexual (pornographic) topic and you will get replies by the one or the other man that cannot keep his libido under control

Self respect yes but only with other ones. As soon as it impacts on the expectations, this self respect is supposed to disappear.

[Finchie40]

Because most men want a girl that is submissive to just him , if she doesn’t send him nudes or she doesn’t make him feel valued and wanted he will assume she is not really interested in him and that she is probably investing her time into someone else. And more than likely he will start losing interest in her because she wasn’t boosting his ego , Most Guy’s have ego’s and most guys’ want a girl that only values him , so he more than likely will get upset with her if she isn’t boosting his ego and thinks she is just weighing her options , Most guy’s are very territorial over a girl that he feels appreciated and wanted by , He will do his best to protect her and try to keep her all to himself , Most Guy’s don’t want a girl that he feels doesn’t want him back the same

[Lionman95]

Because some guys discard themselves that way. They are not mature enough for a relationship and show that by saying something that´s not in line with their actions. If a guy gets angry it´s because he says something he thinks a woman wants to hear (he prefers women that have self-respect) but his actions show his real intention (he just wants pics to masturbate and isn´t looking for a relationship).

[AnusNdaPainus]

Well if he is doing his job as a man playing his role of providing and protecting and you don’t want to give him “ BUTT”

then you shouldn’t be with him

never accept gifts or even dates from a man you can’t see yourself having sex with

because when men see women we like and want to date it’s because we see ourselves having sex with them

every man that likes you that approaches you has imagined himself having sex with you so if you can’t see yourself having sex with him then reject him

[BarryLiverstone]

Guys who get mad are used to other girls sharing and when you don’t it doesn’t meet their expectations. Also it’s a known way of pressuring you to do something you don’t want to do.


Guys do want someone who respects herself and that includes not backing down a boundary when confronted with anger from someone you don’t trust.


Make sense?

[BarryLiverstone]

I’ll also add that some girls like to play games like playing hard to get. Wanting the guy to not take no for an answer and try harder. This is bad behavior and reinforces the thought as a guy that if you meet resistance you just get mad and she will change her mind. It’s another reason why playing games is immature and can lead to toxic behavior

[Asker]

not really but yes my mom always told me guys like a challenge, but it doesn't seem like it

[BarryLiverstone]

There is a clear difference between being a challenge and playing a game with a guy. You know the difference right?

[Asker]

yes if a guy is getting mad bc i dont wanna give myself up then im outa there yk

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes. If someone can’t accept your healthy boundary and gets upset. Then leaving them be and focusing on someone else makes sense. Why would you trust him if he keeps violating your boundaries?

[Asker]

i agree

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you. Hope I helped

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way did a guy get mad at you recently?

[Asker]

no i just was reading someone else question and what like whatt?

[BarryLiverstone]

Gotcha

[A_Bell]

Too many women have lowered the market rate on virtue, so many guys think your sexuality is just a fungible commodity to trade on the lucrative sex market for his dinners and luxury items, or now just a Netflix account, cheeto's and a ratty couch. (Deflationary economy.)

But if you make your goods rare, exclusive and branded for only loyal customers, you'll be happier in the long run.

[Yunakim]

Basically what men want or desire is the self respecting lady be visible to the world while she being the complete bed goddess for him without objecting.

And the same is for women, they want the cold personality to be poued out and saving all the nice , humble kind, also sexsy things for herself.

At the end , its that , only, 'your only one' must know what you taste like.

[brownup]

I was just figuring out how to put out my thoughts, and u said it brilliantly

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

If you've been consistent with different guys and are with a gentleman (not the fedora-wearing kind), then he'll respect the fact that you're sexually patient.

If you're with a playboy... well, don't expect to be treated like a lady. I don't really notice many f**kboy types saying that they want women who are selective or reserved about giving up the goods.

[sheikalana]

Mad for not sending nudes? That's so childish. You don't have to send your nudes to anybody. My husband never asked me for such thing even when we were dating. Don't ever feel that you have to show your body in exchange of anything.

[backdoorman]

Because some men want a woman that respects herself and others want a woman who puts out and sends nudes. Also, some men when they are young and immature want a woman who puts out and sends nudes, but then when they are serious about finding a bride they want women with morals and who respects herself.

It's really no different than women who want to have fun and date bad boys when they're younger but most of those women don't want to marry a bad boy.

[cosmosis181]

What I don't get, is how many women don't understand how easy guys like that make it for you... if you DO have self respect, you'll move on permanently without him. Many choose to forsake their self respect, then complain afterwards. Guys like that, are putting the ball in your court. Now it's your choice.👉

[love_conquers_lust]

Stay away. They’re being controlling. They want a virtuous girl for themselves. The more virtuous you are, the more attractive you are. The demanding nudes/sex is horse crap. You DO need to respect yourself and don’t reward that behavior. If they cared for you, they’d let you volunteer it. Not bitch and moan. This is where you control yourself, that’s all we can do anyway.

[Nifrayu]

I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. Or even connected. You can send nudes and respect yourself. You can have sex and respect yourself. You can do neither of those things and not respect yourself. There is nothing inherently shameful or degrading about nudity or sex. And self respect is just a way in which we judge our own character. How we see ourselves is up to us. Outside opinions on that should ultimately not be a factor.

[Guanfei]

Guys want nudes, but only for themselves. You know, doing sexy things but only with the guy you're with, and not with half the internet.

[Asker]

im talking about when you barley met a guy

[catarecute]

i dont get this experience because as soon as a guy asks me for nudes i immediately block him. women should send nudes to who they want men shouldn't be asking for them seriously some men think the world owes them luxury.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Honestly yeah. No sense in dealing with a guy that asks for nudes

[LiamJHayden]

If it's the same guys doing both, they are hypocrites and/or manipulators.

If the guys are members of disjoint groups, it is due to the fallacy of equivocation of meaning.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Because they think you're eventually gonna send them to some bum with no job who smokes a ton of weed. That and their friends are all getting laid.

[OlderAndWiser]

All men do not have those expectations. If you believe otherwise, then you need to find a different group of guys to have in your life.

[blueonblack22]

Because you are talking to the wrong guys. Period. Of course funny asshole types will inevitably ask for that.

[ChiTown33]

Because you're talking about 2 totally different types of guys. Despite what you might think or claim we are not all the same.

[dynamicyandere]

Yup.

A guy looking for a girl to have a serious relationship with is going to act differently than a guy that just wants to solicit porn from girls he barely knows.

There are virtuous guys.

There are thirsty guys.

Very different camps.

[dynamicyandere]

Oh yeah, and the thirsty guys that pretend to be virtuous guys who call themselves “nice guys” but that facade comes crashing down when they don’t get laid.

[ChiTown33]

@dynamicyandere the fact that she has guys asking her for nudes kind of already tells her selection of guys.😆

[ChiTown33]

Look for better girl.

[dynamicyandere]

@ChiTown33 Yeah, she definitely has thirsty guys hitting her up if she’s noticing a lot of guys asking her for nudes.

The profile picture of her laying down on a bed with her cleavage showing would attract that crowd though.

If she wants to appeal to non-thirsty guys, then she will repel the thirsty ones.

Opting to not show nudes will only anger the thirsty ones, but the virtuous ones will understand.

Good character recognizes good character.

Horndogs on the other hand will be oblivious and that concept will go over their heads and they’ll just get angry that they aren’t getting their fap material that they think they’re entitled to.

[nawtee_me]

Because those people are talking about other girls, not the one they want something from. A double minded man is like a wave in the ocean tossed here and there. They are unstable in all of there ways.

[Apple1996]

Typical boy math. They want a pure girl then gets mad when she doesn't put out

[DreamLife7]

Sounds like the problem is you. Maybe you should stop interacting with those types

[MJtheCoach]

Not guys these are l0zers you’re talking about.
These type of betac##ks were bunch of useless eaters. These do this to all girls until one of them says yes right it usually a girl that every guy can get.

[scooogy]

I used to chat with women of whom some had offered nudes at some point maybe because they started to like me. But on the other hand I've had at least one woman ask me for nudes of myself while she was actually married.

[Screenwriter]

Words mean little. How men want you to ACT or how they act speaks volumes.

[inhua]

you must be conflating two different groups of guys

[genericname85]

because when you're horny and just want to see tits and pussy, you don't really think about the long term.

[LogicBomber]

Men want women with dignity and self respect, boys and pigs want a girl who they can use for sexual entertainment

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause he doesn't want a woman that respects herself he's saying that cause it sounds good. Dump him he's not Wirth you time and don't do anything that you don't want to do. Especially not nudes

[Christoff92]

Double standard Jiminy crickets 😏

[AmeerX]

Not all guys do it. And You should not send nudes even if a guy seems. Disinterested afterwards. It means he had that in mind only.

[LoverOfBooty23]

Us guys are just ridiculous. We like a woman that respects themselves but then we wanna see the goods too… sorry we are difficult.

[KostasKouvalis]

They want a self respecting woman for marriage, a nude sender for fucking

[KostasKouvalis]

Maybe he still respects her if she only sends nudes to HIM

[JaydenKays]

A real man will never ask you to send him nudes no matter what

[Chthou95]

Being submissive to the man you date or marry. Not sharing everthing to the Internet or the world. Make sense?

[TallAnon]

Guys want to be special, be the exception, the one you'll break your rules for.

[Radiate143]

And then shame you for it and assume you will do it for anyone in the sme breath.

[TallAnon]

That's a 50/50

[Radiate143]

Not so sure. Mennpretty much always trest women with less respect after they have slept with her. That is why all societies up until recently wanted tonguarsntee marriage for their daughters so they wouldn't be abandoned after the act.

[TallAnon]

Bit of an oldschool take there, we've mostly moved past that

[Radiate143]

If only.

[TallAnon]

What country are you from? Of course it depends a bit on the culture

[grega239]

They want those things for themselves, Not everyone else too.

[BigManSAB]

The reason why he gets mad is because he knows she sent nudes to many guys before him

[he-takes-a-part]

By your profile it seems you've shown bones but not given them to eat

[urpapi69]

I only hate it when promiscuous girls who send nudes to others, act prude when it comes to the guy they want a relationship with.

[abbyjgriffin98]

Girl, run away that guy.

[Anonymous]

I like girl who don't respect herself

[Asker]

go figure

[Opinion Owner]

Where?

[DreamLife7]

Says the guy who doesn't respect himself so he steals profile pics🤣

[Asker]

@DreamLife7 damn

[Opinion Owner]

@dreamlife7

You don't like me and still watch everything I do ma'am you're my fan. 😘

[DreamLife7]

@bros26 I don't know u yet u continuously pop up on my post w/ur fake profile pic. Work on ur self-esteem

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know you either and you pop-up on my comments you didn't even exist for me sweetheart. 😘

[DreamLife7]

Then stay in ur lane weirdo 😉 who can't reproduce

[Opinion Owner]

It's you comment on my comments to get my few seconds attention 😘.

I'm so special that i can't reproduce you know my worth sweety 😘

Thanks for compliment.

[DreamLife7]

Aww an essay for your tears 😢 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely you're Emma Watson and getting few seconds attention from you is like dream comes true moment for me.

I'm humbled tears fall from my eyes 😭

[Unit1]

Hypocrisy! Pure hypocrisy!

[DarkWinterNights]

Are you sure it’s the same guys saying both?

[Anonymous]

he's a lying horn dog

[Ava1993]

Cause they talking out both ends.

[Staximus]

Only a shit bag guy would be mad about that

[shades777]

is this the logic of a 18yr old?

[ronaldo75]

*Some* men. Stop asking loaded question.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Different guys probably

[fuddly]

Put out... Love that expression

[Luckycharms12]

They do but also want that girl to be there slut

[WhitneySnow]

Hypocrites

[Bigjake1995]

Double negative