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Why do guys say they want a woman that respects herself but get mad when we don't put out or send nudes?
Well, it's kinda like this. See, when guys say they want a woman who respects herself, they usually mean they want someone who has high self-esteem and values her own worth. It's attractive to them because it shows that the woman knows what she wants and isn't afraid to stand up for herself.
However, some guys can be pretty dense and misinterpret this as meaning that a woman should always agree with them or do whatever they want. So when a woman says no to sex or sending nudes, these guys feel like their desires aren't being respected, even though the woman is actually just respecting herself by setting boundaries.
It's a classic case of miscommunication and misunderstanding. But the bottom line is this: a woman who truly respects herself will never compromise her values or do something she's not comfortable with, just to please a guy. And any guy who can't respect that probably isn't worth your time anyway. ﾠ
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Please keep in mìnd that individuals are complex, and not all guys will have the same opinions or behaviors. However, there might be a underlying issue at play here.
When guys say they want a woman who respects herself, it typically implies that they seek a partner who values their self-worth and has boundaries. They want a woman who knows her worth, sets personal limits, and maintains self-respect. That's a reasonable expectation to have in any relationship.
Now, the confusion arises when some guys express frustration when a woman doesn't engage in certain physical activities or share intimate photos. This may stem from societal pressures, unrealistic expectations fueled by media, or even personal insecurities.
Some guys might struggle to strike a balance between having a respectful partner and their own desires. It's essential to acknowledge that everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to physical intimacy and sharing explicit pictures. These boundaries shouldn't be disregarded or perceived as a lack of self-respect.
Sometimes, individuals may confuse the idea of self-respect with their own sexual desires or expectations. They may unintentionally undermine the concept by pressuring someone into actions that make them uncomfortable.
It's crucial for both parties to communicate openly and honestly about their boundaries and expectations to avoid misunderstandings. Mutual respect and consent are fundamental in any healthy relationship. If a guy truly values a woman who respects herself, he should also respect her boundaries and decisions, even if they don't align with his desires.
In conclusion, while it may seem contradictory at times, it's not uncommon for guys to express wanting a woman who respects herself but then exhibit frustration when certain intimate actions or explicit content aren't shared. Remember, we're all unique beings with our own desires and boundaries. Open and honest communication is key to understanding one another and maintaining a healthy, respectful relationship.
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You're conflating two very different types of men, OR, the women in question are "advertising" (in dress, behavior, and attitude) themselves with their sexuality, rather than as a relationship partner. Of course, it's much easier for a woman to get lots of attention - and attention from more attractive men - by using her sexuality, but these won't be the men who are looking for respectable women, but rather women who they can bang quickly and easily.
This is like wanting to catch ocean fish, but only going fishing in your backyard swimming pool. It doesn't matter how good your gear is or what kind of bait you use, you're never going to catch your target because your target isn't in your operating area.
It's "relationship men" who want respectable women - but most women don't want THOSE men - they want the hot, popular, high-status guys, and those guys only want to fuck. And that's never going to change. Yet, most women chase these men almost exclusively, because they "refuse to 'settle' for less than they deserve." And as long as they keep doing this, they'll keep getting the same results, because they're fishing in a swimming pool instead of the ocean.
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I can see why this would be hard to understand. From the surface it seems counter intuitive, and it actually is depending on the man. Here's the thing, we want women that respect themselves, but not prudes. In other words, a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets. All men love sex, nudes etc, and what makes promiscuous women so attractive is their sex appeal and sexual opneness. But most men realize that promiscuous women are mostly incapable of being satisfied by one man. No different than a man with no self control is incapable of being satisfied by one woman. So a woman that has the sexual openess of a hoe, but the self respect to only give that side of her to men that she knows she can trust, is what we want most. It's the best of both world essentially. Just like women want a man that is emotionally available that validates her feelings, but also isn't afraid to push her up against the wall and you can just imagine the rest.. We all yearn for that type of of passion. Its the best of both worlds. That's all this is.
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If the guy is saying he wants a woman that respects herself but then tries to smash or asks for a photo then that guy is full of shit. There will always be guys full of shit. You need to find the ones who are true to their word not worry about the few that are not.
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Because self respect always ends when people want something that goes beyond that boundary of self respect.
Guys are unfortunately dominated by their testosterone and have a very hard time controlling their hormones. They are rather the slaves of them but will never admit it.
Just look at about every 3rd post or so about a sexual (pornographic) topic and you will get replies by the one or the other man that cannot keep his libido under control
Self respect yes but only with other ones. As soon as it impacts on the expectations, this self respect is supposed to disappear.
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Because most men want a girl that is submissive to just him , if she doesn’t send him nudes or she doesn’t make him feel valued and wanted he will assume she is not really interested in him and that she is probably investing her time into someone else. And more than likely he will start losing interest in her because she wasn’t boosting his ego , Most Guy’s have ego’s and most guys’ want a girl that only values him , so he more than likely will get upset with her if she isn’t boosting his ego and thinks she is just weighing her options , Most guy’s are very territorial over a girl that he feels appreciated and wanted by , He will do his best to protect her and try to keep her all to himself , Most Guy’s don’t want a girl that he feels doesn’t want him back the same
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Because some guys discard themselves that way. They are not mature enough for a relationship and show that by saying something that´s not in line with their actions. If a guy gets angry it´s because he says something he thinks a woman wants to hear (he prefers women that have self-respect) but his actions show his real intention (he just wants pics to masturbate and isn´t looking for a relationship).
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Well if he is doing his job as a man playing his role of providing and protecting and you don’t want to give him “ BUTT”
then you shouldn’t be with him
never accept gifts or even dates from a man you can’t see yourself having sex with
because when men see women we like and want to date it’s because we see ourselves having sex with them
every man that likes you that approaches you has imagined himself having sex with you so if you can’t see yourself having sex with him then reject him
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Guys who get mad are used to other girls sharing and when you don’t it doesn’t meet their expectations. Also it’s a known way of pressuring you to do something you don’t want to do.
Guys do want someone who respects herself and that includes not backing down a boundary when confronted with anger from someone you don’t trust.
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Too many women have lowered the market rate on virtue, so many guys think your sexuality is just a fungible commodity to trade on the lucrative sex market for his dinners and luxury items, or now just a Netflix account, cheeto's and a ratty couch. (Deflationary economy.)
But if you make your goods rare, exclusive and branded for only loyal customers, you'll be happier in the long run.
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Basically what men want or desire is the self respecting lady be visible to the world while she being the complete bed goddess for him without objecting.
And the same is for women, they want the cold personality to be poued out and saving all the nice , humble kind, also sexsy things for herself.
At the end , its that , only, 'your only one' must know what you taste like.
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If you've been consistent with different guys and are with a gentleman (not the fedora-wearing kind), then he'll respect the fact that you're sexually patient.
If you're with a playboy... well, don't expect to be treated like a lady. I don't really notice many f**kboy types saying that they want women who are selective or reserved about giving up the goods. - 1.3K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Mad for not sending nudes? That's so childish. You don't have to send your nudes to anybody. My husband never asked me for such thing even when we were dating. Don't ever feel that you have to show your body in exchange of anything.
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Because some men want a woman that respects herself and others want a woman who puts out and sends nudes. Also, some men when they are young and immature want a woman who puts out and sends nudes, but then when they are serious about finding a bride they want women with morals and who respects herself.
It's really no different than women who want to have fun and date bad boys when they're younger but most of those women don't want to marry a bad boy.
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What I don't get, is how many women don't understand how easy guys like that make it for you... if you DO have self respect, you'll move on permanently without him. Many choose to forsake their self respect, then complain afterwards. Guys like that, are putting the ball in your court. Now it's your choice.👉
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Stay away. They’re being controlling. They want a virtuous girl for themselves. The more virtuous you are, the more attractive you are. The demanding nudes/sex is horse crap. You DO need to respect yourself and don’t reward that behavior. If they cared for you, they’d let you volunteer it. Not bitch and moan. This is where you control yourself, that’s all we can do anyway.
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I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. Or even connected. You can send nudes and respect yourself. You can have sex and respect yourself. You can do neither of those things and not respect yourself. There is nothing inherently shameful or degrading about nudity or sex. And self respect is just a way in which we judge our own character. How we see ourselves is up to us. Outside opinions on that should ultimately not be a factor.
- 1.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Guys want nudes, but only for themselves. You know, doing sexy things but only with the guy you're with, and not with half the internet.
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i dont get this experience because as soon as a guy asks me for nudes i immediately block him. women should send nudes to who they want men shouldn't be asking for them seriously some men think the world owes them luxury.
- 843 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
If it's the same guys doing both, they are hypocrites and/or manipulators.
If the guys are members of disjoint groups, it is due to the fallacy of equivocation of meaning. - 566 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Because they think you're eventually gonna send them to some bum with no job who smokes a ton of weed. That and their friends are all getting laid.
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All men do not have those expectations. If you believe otherwise, then you need to find a different group of guys to have in your life.
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Sounds like the problem is you. Maybe you should stop interacting with those types
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