Am I wasting time with a guy that's cynical about women even though I'm not like the women he complains about?

[Bethany22]

He treats me well, but he makes me feel unappreciated for how much less dramatic I am compared to other women. I never demand where he's going, I never demand why he's later coming home than usual, but he still likes to rant about how women jump to conclusions when their partners act unpredictably, and that marriage is a trap because then he would no longer be able to do whatever he wants. It's as if he doesn't notice or feel relieved that I'm not like those women. What should I do?

[crystalline0909]

He is with you cuz you are conveniently consistent with him. He wants to be open to play the field and keep his options open, therefore no commitment.
He rants so that you don't question him or interfere with his lifestyle due the fear of him leaving you. He knows that you are being convenient.
You questioning it on this platform is the proof of you not being okay with his behaviour.
And the other girls he talks about are not dramatic or psychotic. They were fine just like you.
Usually a Narcissist tends to call there last partner mad or dramatic to hide there deceptive behaviour.
He is manipulating you and training you into being this way.
So now if you question him, you become a bad dramatic person and he becomes the victims. Or at least that's how he'll portray you infront of others.

Clear you concerns to him... and if he has issues break up.

[johnnydeeeep]

You have a really pretty face and gorgeous tits...

[TooHot2Care]

. . . . . . Yo, crystalline, you need therapy. No cap.

[crystalline0909]

I just state facts. And seems like I touched your nerve. If this shoe fits you, wear it cinderally

[provokeesmokee]

Lol, why are you even dating him?

He either doesn't see you as a woman (thus making you what? An object?), and he complains about other women when he already is dating you?

Cut him out and let him be miserable. Clearly he prefers that and you have zero duty to save him. He's a grown ass man. He can save himself.

[johnnydeeeep]

Is this the same guy you talking about earlier this week that is constantly in a bad mood around you at the outset of your relationship. If so and now your finding this out and your still unsure if you should stick around... you may just need to learn this lesson the hard way and let him destroy yourself esteem and sunny view of the world and have him leave you wondering why your not good enough to be loved, cause it seems like you're unwilling to accept any of the hints that your clearly that life is providing for you and that you are noticing but are clearly unwilling to act on for some reason, I assure you there are other men with big dicks that can get you off even harder believe it or not

[johnnydeeeep]

Not for nothing but if it's just good dick you need often and someone to pay you all of the attention you need until you are able to hopefully find that lifetime replacement, I can fly wherever domestic at ease every two weeks and gladly able and willing to give a worthy woman what she needs in both capacities and most any other of a similar nature to prevent a good woman from becoming just another old girl miserable and put out to pasture after knowingly put herself through it because she is tired of not getting what she wants. Message me and let's at least have a logical conversation, you seem like you have too much to offer to casually throw away a good future, and that may sound dramatic, but it's not, it's actually just how it happens baby girl

[Bethany22]

Thank you!

[IceCreamSandwich]

Yes, most likely. Guys who don't like women won't like you because you're different—they still see you as a woman. They'll just string you along because you cooperate better. My advice would be to leave, find someone who likes you.

It's the same as a guy trying to get a girl who thinks all men are pigs to make an exception and give him a chance because he's a nice guy. Maybe he is nice, but he's still a man, and that girl doesn't want him.

You're best to leave people like that alone. They usually aren't good partners while they're in this mindset anyway.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You should directly ask him "do you see me like that?" when he mentions such behavior. Not in an accusatory tone, an inquisitive one like "do you think they use frozen hamburger at that restaurant on the corner?" If he doesn't, then he recognizes your superiority to the ones he is complaining about, and I'd argue that will result in him being even more appreciative and loyal than some random guy. If he can't answer that then I'd say you should probably move along.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you should pipe up and say something, like..."Aren't you glad I am not like the girls you speak of?"

I think he needs to realize you aren't the typical girl he seems to imagine and that he can give his cynicism a break.

If what he is saying doesn't apply to you then why bring it up. Either that or he should start with..."I sure am glad you aren't like most girls..." and then continue on with his point.

[DB1973]

Never date a guy who complains about other “women”. He will ALWAYS find something to complain about you to others when you are not around. Been in many different jobs and situations with Men. That is the sum of what I have collected in knowledge when it comes to that.

[LazerBean]

As my dear father once told me, when a woman complains about "men", and when a man complains about "women", its because they're a loser. I won't get into what my dad thinks about dating losers, as it's fairly predictable.

[007kingifrit]

i dunno everyone complains about the other side sometimes

[LazerBean]

Not really. There's a difference between complaining about one gender and and complaining about certain groups in that gender.

[RealMarek]

I think you should tell him that his cynicism is a yellow flag. He needs to get a grip. You don’t behave that way and you give him your trust, so why is he always talking complaining about it?

[Billlewis]

I think that's a definite possibility. Have you talked about this with him?

[Sasha0426]

Get out now. If he views women like that, he’s going to start viewing you the same way. Seems like he’s got his mindset that he has no intention taking your relationship further.

[Sasha0426]

Also, if he finds out you want marriage, he’s going to bad mouth you too. Not saying you want marriage but that’s IF you want to married one day.

[Likes2drive]

Just tell him you’re not the same as other women that he thinks you’re like, he should know that by now

[Slim57]

Not necessarily, I'm pretty cynical about most things, including a select type of women, but I've never thought of my girlfriend that way, people can dislike toxic things in people, I'm not sure why some women can't take anyone hating on women even if they're toxic as fuck.

[007kingifrit]

no he isn't complaining about ALL women. aslong as he appreciates you

[Sasha0426]

Thing is though, if she wants marriage, he’s going to think she’s only doing it to trap him and control him. You saw what he said about marriage, right?

[007kingifrit]

@Sasha0426 well being in a relationship DOES mean giving up some freedom so he needs to get over that. but eventually you learn that being alone is worse than losing a bit of freedom

[Sasha0426]

Seems like he has no intention giving up his freedom for marriage.

[007kingifrit]

@Sasha0426 of course he doesn't NOW, you have to win people over

[Sasha0426]

Fuck that. Once someone says that shit, I’m out.

[Lara_Croft]

Bruh, leave. You clearly see he's a walking red flag

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, by all means if things aren't good, then move on. Why waste your time with him?

[Anonymous]

A misogynist is a misogynist, he will find a way to reduce you to being just like the others unless he acknowledges the problem and addresses the source... Freud would ask how his relationship is with his mother... and does he smoke cigars

[shortster]

Stop wasting your time with him; if he doesn't appreciate you. You deserve to be appreciated for who you are.

[BLP11520]

Don’t commit to him because he is not ready for a serious relationship

[OddBeMe]

Is that the only way he unappreciates you?

[Lfkttjt]

Girl you’re next one he’s gonna whine about

[Anonymous]

just leave him