Why he didn't apologize?

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We are classmates. we had a minor argument in which he was clearly in the wrong. Others agreed, but I apologized to him because I didn't want any lingering resentment between us. I go to him and say sorry he look at me with shock face and say what, i say for talking rudely, he say its okay. I feel little embarrass so i went from there very quickly. He come to me almost running and say dont need to say sorry, i didn't mind, i didn't say anything and went to class. I only say loudly because he was not able to listen because of noises (lunch time). when i say loudly. He stand and try to argue but i didn't say anything. He gave me death glares for almost 2 days i feel weird and guilty so i decide to apologize. But i think he didn't feel guilty. He was one who stare at me for almost 2 and 1/2 years. He make consistent eye contact, support, and protective behavior. If teacher ask any question (not individualy) and i give answer he also say the same as it was one of the most appropriate one only. He is an extroverted and confident individual. he stare at me with a straight face and don’t look away until i did (he gives me a silly smile only a few times not always) because i never pass him a smile too.  If any other boy stood in my way or prevented me from passing without notice me before i excuse them, he would shout at them and ask them to let me go. He even pushed them once. In class, he only spoke to me once to ask for my notes. One day, we accidentally bumped into each other, and we both apologized simultaneously. After that, he asked me if I was hurt or okay. If he really care that much or anything why he didn't apologize afterall its his mistake because of that i scold him. Please share ur opinion and advice. thank u🙂

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Dang, that is super weird that he didn't apologize. Like you said, it was totally his fault in the argument but he didn't even say sorry? That's pretty lame of him.

And it's extra weird since it seems like he's been really nice to you and protective of you in class for so long. Like staring at you and making sure other guys leave you alone - he definitely seems into you.

I don't know, maybe he's just too proud to admit he was wrong? Some guys can be like that, especially confident ones. Or it's possible he likes you and didn't want to look stupid in front of you by apologizing. Boys can be dumb about that stuff.

I'd just try not to let it bother you too much. You did the right thing by apologizing to bury the hatchet. And he said it was okay so hopefully you guys are good now. Don't lose sleep over one guy's pride, you know? Just stay cool with him in class and see how he acts from now on. Maybe give him a little smile to let him know no hard feelings. I'm sure it'll work out!

Holsen · Accepted Answer

I can relate as I too am the type who could go for long periods of time without major interactions and with only stares or random talk even though I would have a crush on the girl! As for the apology, you were propably thinking too much of it!!

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

Like you said, everyone including yourself noticed he’s not correct. You did your part. Don’t let it upset you more that he didn’t apologize. Some people have a hard time apologizing even if they are aware of their faults.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

It sounds like you guys have a crush on each other. Don’t overthink it.

bededazzle · Answer

because he still needs to grow enough to learn the lessons about apologies. it’s normal for you to want more from the situation. but we can’t control others. just treat yourself with the respect you deserve :)