I met a guy on a dating app and we added each other on Snapchat. he's 3 years older than me. We didn’t really talk at first until he continuously slid up on my story so one day we had a conversation and he asked me out on a date. We went date was amazing and I really liked meeting him. He asked for a second date but his car broke down so we didn’t go, he fixed his car and hasn’t asked me out but is continuously texting me. Although he will text me and mid conversation leaves me on seen, doesn’t tell me goodnight or nothing. He told me he thinks I showed lack of interest (I think that’s a lie I would continuously flirt with him). I told him I was interested in him and he said he needs to see more flirting from me to know that I want to date and that that’s the reason we haven’t been on the second date. It’s been a month since our first date and we are just texting, I don’t like that so I cut things off and told him I feel like we’re texting buddies and I want to get to know someone and if he’s not looking for that or maybe he’s not looking at me for that that we should just move on no bad blood. He told me ouch and to be his texting buddy. I told him I wouldn’t be consistent because I’m not looking for that and in order to be a friend my feelings have to go away first. He left me on seen and hours later unfriended me. Why would he show interest and reach out to me everyday if acts that way? Why would he take so long to ask for a second date? Did I do the right thing? Part of me wants to re-add him but I don’t want to be a fool either.
Sorry but everything I read makes him a huge asshole and your probably the 20th woman he has dragged along like this!
Dump him ghost him and block him on everything!
He deserves way more then that!
You did amazing and he was just using you for attention and probably hated your amazing date!
Did he ever try and sext or just talking? Guys are weird they sometimes just adore the attention and drag like 5 women along romantically so they constantly can get attention and text.
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It wasn't working for you, so you cut things off, now you're unhappy that he's not walking through fire to get to you? Sometimes you just don't synch up. You seem higher maintenance than he was willing to deal with and he seemed less invested than you are willing to deal with, so chalk it up as an incompatibility and move on your merry way to any of the other of the 8 billion people in the world.
You two are at separate places in life. One's not right or wrong, but they ARE different. I'm sure you're a great lady. I wouldn't have time for you either and I'd have zero interest in NOT "letting you go that easily" as you put it, because you made it clear what you want and I'm not going to give it to you. Okay, no harm no foul, hope you find someone else who WILL/CAN give it to you.
He sounds like an insecure kid.
I'm happy to hear you stood up for yourself. I know it is hard, especially because you felt you liked him.
It sounds like you tried your best and he was sitting on a fence trying to make you jump over it for fun. Like he wants someone desperate.
He probably likes you, but he isn't worth your time. He will want you to always make the moves and decisions. The relationship would probably be manipulative and you'd always be required to go the extra step without any return.
He would keep asking things of you, things that would be increasingly difficult until it became dangerous or impossible.
Just my opinion based on guys I know that are like this.
To me he is playing mind games, attachment games, controlling games, put yourself in the players shoes do the same, change roles lol.
Do you really wanna wasted your feelings like that, letting him playing with you that much. You got time hun!
He is insecure, he has trust issues, you won’t be able to fix him, he needs to learn on his own. You might get hurt in the process trying to fix him. Just stay friend, if he wants to you might get reconnect with him. Hope it’s not too late once he realized he lost someone that was truly interested in him.
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He needs a hard lesson.
But I got a feeling he might be a former nice guy and now “converted” asshole. He was likely a much nicer kid when he was younger and that didn’t work for him. So now he’s indulging the “challenge” front with women. It’s initially brought him some success but he’s way overdoing it and ruining good opportunities.
I went through a brief phase in my life when I was like this. Not proud of it. But I was so callus and exasperated by women exploiting me and treating me like sh*t when I was younger I was ready to do a 180. It worked for a while but I ended up ruining a really good thing with one girl I dated for a year. Still regret how I handled it.
Anyway not to drum up sympathy for this kid. But I don’t think he started off this way with women. He needs to find the middle ground.
Only you can decide if you did the right thing. Random strangers on G@G may comment but it's up to you to decide.
You told him " I'm interested" and he wants to see more filtration from you as a sign you are actually into him?
Dude is stupid. You did the right thing.you did the right thing
Yes, i think you made the right decision
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