I don’t know how I feel about the first meetup with this guy…?

[Anonymous]

We have been talking for 2 weeks and I put him in a complete spiral with my emotions. It was a crazy roller coaster… I didn’t want anything serious but I didn't want sex. He seemed to eventually want something serious. He’s never mentioned sex or anything.

We almost stopped talking for good and he said that I needed to take time to work on myself. We decided to meet up today to talk and he wanted to see who I am bc he feels I’m unstable emotionally.

We met at a coffee shop. He was nice and he opened the door for me. He bought me coffee and treats. He was a perfect gentleman.

I noticed he wanted to the last time I was intimate and since I said it’s been a year he asked if I struggle…he joked and said ‘o you have a collection.’

he also offered to take me home since I didn’t drive there and he offered to pay for my lyft

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that first meetup sounds kinda weird and all over the place dude. On one hand he was being polite and buying you stuff, but then bringing up personal questions about your intimacy and making jokes about it seems kinda inappropriate for just meeting for the first time.

I'd be careful moving forward with this guy. It sounds like you were sending mixed signals online which probably didn't help, but he shouldn't expect anything from you until you both get to know each other better in person. Offering to take you home already is also kinda strange, like he thinks you owe him something now. Slow your roll man!

My advice would be feel it out more and set some clear boundaries. Make sure you're both on the same page about what you want before getting more invested. Hopefully he respects that you need to take things slow and isn't pushy. But don't be afraid to dip out if your gut says something seems off. Trust yourself - you don't wanna end up in another crazy situation!

[Asker]

Hey so this is the aftermath … you commented on my post about this guy before.

He offered to drop me off at my place not his… or he said he would pay for my Lyft

[Asker]

I truly do think he was looking for something serious …. I think I made him believe I was a whore.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, sounds like it went okay then if he was cool dropping you off home and not trying anything sketchy. That's good he respected your boundaries too.

And don't be too hard on yourself. We've all put our foot in our mouth before or misrepresented ourselves when we're not sure what we want. Important thing is you realized it and are working on yourself like he said, ya know?

As for what he was looking for, hard to say for sure but at least he seemed like a gentleman about it. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for now. Maybe just be real honest with him going forward about wanting to take things slow. Nothing wrong with that.

And hey, if he's really into you then he'll respect your needs and pace. Don't feel pressured to rush into anything serious either if you're not ready. Take it easy, keep communicating, and see how it goes from here. You got this!

[Asker]

Even tho the coffee meet went okay… I think he is hoping for sx eventually. Or maybe he just isn’t interested

He didn’t mention meeting again or anything

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Why would you be interested in a guy that tells you that you need to work on yourself and he thinks you're unstable?

[Asker]

It’s a long story… and he was being honest. He doesn’t know I struggle with mental health

[Gent207-2]

I see nothing wrong

Professional help can be beneficial

[Asker]

No did you lead the last part… he was kind of asking about when is the last time I was intimate

[Anonymous]

If he is gentleman then why asked you when was the last time you intimated? 😂

[Asker]

As far as opening the door and paying for my stuff

[Opinion Owner]

I'm fuckboy n i pay for my girls stuffs n give them expensive gifts it's doesn't mean I'm gentleman.

Grow up girl

[Asker]

He’s never mentioned sex. He didn’t even want anything casual but he prob just wants sex

[ThrillSeeker01]

You were both looking for different things.