I’m in a LDR with my boyfriend so with the distance it’s even more difficult with being apart from each other. I’ve noticed on more than one occasion now when we are apart from each other, he will bring up a female colleague he works with and tell me that other people have made comments about him flirting with them, or he will specifically bring up a name of one of his female colleagues to me and text me saying how well they are getting on together and how much she’s told him that she loves working together with him and how sweet he finds her. I tend to just respond and be supportive of him as I don’t want to play into these games and come across as the insecure one in the relationship. He will also randomly come up with female colleagues in conversation. He will say ‘I just want to ask you how you feel about me hugging my female work colleague Sabrina today, but don’t worry, there’s nothing going on between us’. I felt confused by this. Another time I was on the phone to him and he put the phone on loudspeaker and started talking to his male colleague about one of his female work colleagues and I got so upset that he would try to hurt me by this that I hung up the phone. A separate time he told me a story of how he was flirting with a female work colleague and that one of his male friends said ‘you guys flirting made me fall pregnant’. I just don’t understand why he feels the need to say these things to me. He will also say weird things to me like ‘I wish people walked around naked at work, and we wouldn’t get any work done at all!’
So why is he always trying to provoke me and make me jealous?
