Boyfriend only initiates get togethers once a week. Does that mean he isn't all that attracted to me?

[Bethany22]

If I suggest we do something that leads us to do things more than once a week, he will always say yes. But left up to him, he's fine just seeing me once a week. He also is uncomfortable about me moving in with him, even though I give no evidence that I would be difficult to live with. Is he a self-confirmed bachelor that I should run away from? He's known me a long time. You'd think he'd have more trust and excitement towards me, right?

[caring__1]

He has some issues, but we don't know if those issues are from his past or a reaction to something he's experienced with you. Based on how you're describing this relationship, is it something you want to continue indefinitely? Look at the total package, not snapshots in time. Until all the facts are on the table, the decision to stay or go will be difficult to make. In order to understand how he views relationships, ask him the questions I've presented in this recent question: What are the best questions to ask your boyfriend to see if he is serious with the relationship? That will give you a deeper understanding than sitting around and guessing, or asking strangers for their opinion.

Until his concerns are addressed, he'll continue to limit his investment in this relationship. You want to understand his picture of a relationship, not push your picture onto him. It's not about molding guys into your ideal. It's about finding a guy who is already like what you are seeking. The more guys believe they're being molded, the more resistant to change they'll be.

[RealMarek]

I think you’re reading way too much into this. If he’s wanting to wait for you to move in with him, waiting a bit longer does not hurt at all. As for frequency of meeting, he might be busy with work but willing to meet you when you bring it up. I don't know. There are a lot of reasons other than lack of attraction.

[lightbulb27]

At that age, can have a lot going on. May be introverted, not very socially skilled.

Question is.. what is his reason for wanting to get together with you? What are you adding to his life?

[HortAgent56]

Someone you have known for a long time who seems this uninterested and needs constant prodding to do things off of the usual calendar interval would seem to have no more than a habitual interest in you. You sound more like platonic friends than romantic partners; at least on his side. I'd confront him with your concerns and ask why this has been the case. If the inquiry leads to hedging or simply nowhere; that would not seem to be a good sign.

I know a married couple that's been together for nearly 60 years. The woman has been pushing and pulling for 55 of those years to try to get him motivated for anything other than his hunting, fishing, sports and hunting and fishing and sports. That's fine if it suits his wife but it doesn't and because she is of a generation that was not quick to divorce, it's been an empty marriage for 55 years. It might be what others here have suggested but you will never know if you don't have an in-depth chat about it.

[Curmudgeon]

IS he busy, you know...
... working? A side hustle as well as a day job?
... going to night school?

And to be honest, it IS a big step to have the girlfriend move into your domain as a guy, or move into hers. This probably calls for a larger discussion about where you two go from here and all that.

Another question: Who owns property and who rents? Is he striving for a home of his own and "his own dirt"?

[exitseven]

You answered your own question. He is a confirmed bachelor.

[RavVid]

Most men would want more sex than once a week I'd agree. He might value his own time highly.

[ThrillSeeker01]

That's a lack of enthusiasm for your relationship. It wouldn't be enough for me... sounds like he's not ready to be serious.

[HouseMoat]

No, could just mean he's that busy. Have you guys though about moving in yet. I don't condone unmarried people moving in together but, that doesn't mean it doesn't happen

[worldscolide]

No, it means you your self should make some effort as well.

[AngryCarl2]

Sounds like you're a "booty call".

[Billlewis]

Have you asked him about this?

[Anonymous]

Probably interested in someone else.

[In_Trance]

Maybe he's busy?