What are the best questions to ask your boyfriend to see if he is serious with the relationship?

[lemonette]

Do you have any examples...

[ichanne]

Oh, diving into the deep end, are we? 😄 It's great that you're thinking about this because communication is key in any relationship. Asking the right questions can definitely give you a better idea of where your boyfriend's head is at. Here are some thought-provoking ones:

Future Plans: "Where do you see yourself in five years, and do you see us together in that vision?" This is a classic because it's not just about whether he sees a future with you, but also about his own life goals and aspirations.
Feelings About Commitment: "What does commitment mean to you?" This is a biggie. It's one thing to be in a relationship, but understanding each other's perception of commitment can be eye-opening.
Handling Conflicts: "How do you think we handle disagreements, and what can we do better?" This question can shed light on how he views conflicts in your relationship and if he's interested in working on them.
Relationship Needs: "What are the most important things you need in a relationship to be happy?" This gives him a chance to reflect on his needs and also share them with you, which is crucial for a serious relationship.
Thoughts on Love: "What does love mean to you?" It's a bit of a broad question, but it can reveal a lot about his emotional depth and how he views the concept of love.
Past Relationships: "What have you learned from your past relationships?" This isn't about digging into the past for the sake of it, but rather understanding how he learns and grows from experiences.
Your Relationship's Importance: "How do you prioritize our relationship in your life?" This can give you an idea of where you stand amidst his other priorities.
Feelings About Family: "How do you feel about family and its role in our relationship?" This is crucial if family values are important to you.

Remember, the way these questions are answered can be as telling as the answers themselves. It's not just about what he says, but how he says it. Does he avoid the questions, give vague answers, or is he open and honest? Also, it's not an interrogation, so try to keep the conversation flowing naturally. 😉 What do you think? Are these along the lines of what you were looking for?

[RoseySarah]

Great question?

Only answer is none! People lie and will say anything to make you happy and keep it just how things are.

I guess talk about the future together? If he agrees to much red flag there should be some things he wants that are diffent.

[caring__1]

It's true that people will often tell you what they believe you want to hear or what will get them what they want. That's the reason we want to show interest in understanding others first rather than state our preferences from the start and let them respond with "ditto." A "Me too" response does not give us a true understanding of the other person's perspective.

[caring__1]

When you were young (8-10 years old) and saw people in relationships, what did you believe were the reasons they chose to be in those relationships?

After you had relationship experiences of your own, how did that picture change?

What did you discover about yourself and potential partners as a result of your relationship experiences?

What did you learn from your relationship experiences?

What changes did you make in yourself as a result of that acquired knowledge?

What would be your reason for wanting to be in a relationship? In other words, what can you get from being in a relationship that you can't get by not being in a relationship?

What do you expect of a partner in a relationship?

What can a partner expect of you in a relationship?

Relationship-wise, how do you see your life 20 years from now?

[Nikki1989]

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[caring__1]

@Nikki1989 It's interesting how people use AI to convince themselves someone else wrote something using AI. I have previously posted these same questions that I have used over decades in my previous practice. I posted them again, as the question was asked again. I have retired now, but that's no reason for me to rely on AI rather than my multiple graduate degrees and over 44 years of professional experience. If you'd prefer hearing the stupid answers like "I have no idea" or people pushing their own closed-minded agenda onto others, or other simplistic comments so common on this site, then I might as well stop posting here at all. I'm glad you have the time to waste checking any well thought out response using your AI tool.

[caring__1]

@Nikki1989 Admin suggests I can block you to prevent this from continuing. Let me know if you believe that is necessary.

[Nikki1989]

Ha, go right ahead.

[caring__1]

@Nikki1989 Which means what? Are you saying you'll continue to flag my posts as AI using your AI app? Though you froze my account, Admin unfroze it.

[Tren58]

These are awesome questions!

I’m ignorant and curious, why it’s a big deal if they were done in chat ai programs? Why would someone flag it if it’s solid advice? I noticed that there are points and such given on here. Are people actually using them and getting competitive? I just came to be able to ask questions and get answers. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[caring__1]

@Tren58 The moderators are more interested in promoting their own agenda than giving people quality answers. They are perfectly fine with the stupid comments people make, but it's interesting how they choose an app that uses AI to determine if someone posted something written by AI. Not that I've ever used AI to write anything, but it's OK for them to use AI. Isn't that the pot calling the kettle black? My account was frozen based on assumptions, without even verifying their veracity. Are we going to execute everyone who looks like a criminal?

I'm glad you found my questions helpful. That's my only purpose in being here.

[NathanDavis]

how serious are we... with this relationship

- VERY IMPORTANT to say "we" and not just him... or he might feel like you are questioning him and doubting him, even if you are, lol... make it about the two of you because he might feel targeted

and then, do express yourself... and maybe do it first, explain to him about your idea of what a SERIOUS relationship implies, and which of these considerations are you willing to commit to

-and last, probably do check if what he says and thinks actually apply to the way he acts

[loveslongnails]

Before you ask HIM anything, you must ask yourself the same question - how serious are YOU about this relationship? Do you have the same or similar goals, and do you know specifically what they are? Do you want marriage, kids, and if so, when? All those fun questions need your own answers first.

I imagine the most important question is " Is this the man I want to spend my life with IF we both want the same things?" Whatever your answer is, your path should then be clear.

[MissStrawberry912]

What is love to you? Why do you love me?
Where do you want our relationship to be in the next 6 months to a year? Or better yet, what goals do you have for our relationship?
Where do you think we are right now in our relationship? What are somethings you like about it, what makes you proud of it, what are things you feel that we can grow in, or do you feel like we are a strong team or what else can do we better as a team?
What strengths do you think we have in our partnership?

[strateguy632]

candace asked that to Jeremy in series phineas and ferb but he liked "you".

[Nerdvana]

Actions speak louder than words

Have you meet his parents, siblings, family members?

Have you been to his job?

Have you meet his closest friends?

How much time does he want to spend with you.

Do you know how he spends his money?

Is he ok with you using his phone?

[HouseMoat]

Do you want kids

Do you want marriage

Do you want a house with a white Pickett fence

You're basically just seeing how he feels about his future, not necessarily with you, but his future in general.

That's the whole point of life right? TO PROCREATE

But be careful asking these things to him, especially out of the blue. He might get defensive about any of them

[IslaTheWitch]

The problem is words mean totally nothing, need no effort to be said and bring no feeling of responsibility.

I don't think there is a better way than just to be with a person and, by their actions, learn essential things for us.

[Paul09]

Don't have any sex first few 3-4 months. One if the best ways to start building a mental relationship.

[AmeerX]

When does he plan on marriage/engagement. Does he even want to marry you?

Does he want children with you?

Does he want to see a future with you.

Do you want to introduce me to your family?

Meet my family.

[BoopBoopBeep]

"Are you serious with the relationship?"

[sheikalana]

Expectations for the future. Where do you see our relationship going in 6months-1year?

[Andres77]

i'd focus more on what he does more than what he says

[888theGreat]

Marriage , Kids? House? If you ain't getting married , it ain't serious. It is playing house.

[collie22]

Would you like to come to dinner and meet my Dad and my brother?

[MichaelThompson]

Ask him direct, tell him your a direct person

[bowenw]

Where do you see us in a year and 5 years?

[sage2021]

Did I tell you that you got me pregnant?

[Yannae]

The future plans. The End Goal.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Ask him to spend a lot of his time with you.

[TallAnon]

None, actions speak louder than words

[Anonymous]

Ask him about his feelings.

[whistlingwh0res]

Guys are jackass will never be ready

[BLP11520]

Mention kids