Why does a guy I’m newly talking to keep making references about a trip I’m thinking about planning?

[barbie2525]

This guy I’ve been seeing for the past 7 weeks knows I’m planning to go to visit my cousin in Arizona in the next month or two. He has asked when I plan to see her randomly 3 or more times now. I just told him I wasn’t sure yet because she will be back “home” around Christmas so I feel I should wait till January or February. Last night he mentioned that he would love to go to go golfing etc. We haven’t established that we are in a relationship yet but I feel like we are pretty much. Why so early on is he suggesting traveling together?

[spartan55]

I don't think that is what he is suggesting. You are reading into it too much.

[barbie2525]

Ok then what is he suggesting then? He got his phone out to look up golf courses near my cousins place. We both enjoy golfing

[spartan55]

So you can't just talk to him about it? Seven weeks together is enough time to have a discussion like this. If you don't want him to go because you feel it's too soon, than just ignore his stupid comments. Tell him you need a commitment before you do things like travel together. You are worried about something that should be WAY down your list of concerns. Who cares why?
You said you feel like you are already in a relationship with him. Don't you think that is an even more important discussion to have? I guarantee he doesn't think it's as serious as you do. Why would he? You're giving him everything for free.

[midnightmoon05]

Good answer

[spartan55]

For the record, I think he is way out of line because it seems like he assumes he is invited. Communication needs to improve if your relationship is going to move forward.

[midnightmoon05]

Why not?
do you want to be in a committed relationship with him?
enjoy the process of falling in love…don’t question too much.

[Anonymous]

He wants to go