Hello,
I guy I've met a couple times told me he finds me attractive. He likes meeting me and spending time together but he told me that we don't quite click which is why we would not work out.
What does it mean? Am I that boring?
What do guys mean when they say that they click with someone?
He is never sexual towards me amd being a true gentleman. We even stayed in his place together once and he has to done anything.
Why does he want to continue meeting me?
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I don't know. What's clear is that he's not down for sex with you, and from your description, probably not down for it with anyone for the forseeable future. There can be many reasons for this. If you want to find out from him, genuine and gentle curiosity sounds like a decent approach to me.
I'm not sure.
I don't want to push him in terms of sex as I don't want this from him.
What I'm confused about is why he wanted to keep communicating with me if he didn't want that.
Since we haven't clicked - what was the reason?
I'm feeling a bit down because thought that it was the opposite! I thought he didn't find me attractive but interesting instead lol
I'm not the most interesting person.
In any case, he is a good person so I don't feel good being mean /pushing hin too much so kind of at loss as to how to ask him anything at all...
There is an often unused way to ask a question, which is to tell them you'll give them as much time as they need to answer it, and are ok with them not knowing. That way, it would have no pressure coming from you, as long as you're honest about it.
Problem is I don't even know what I would be asking him.
Why did he keep meeting me.. If he thinks we haven't clicked then it means he only likes my appearance but i don't know how to ask this without being crass...
If I may ask, is a more refined form of your question to him, "Was there something specific you wanted from me while we met last?"
I'm too afraid to ask him that.
Reason being us that we already had a heavy chat... Don't want to overdo it.
But I've decided that this is yhe last time we're meeting.
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Not clicking doesn't necessarily mean boring. I'm boring and don't click with all kinds of people, but some I do. That's why you meet with them. And just because I wouldn't have these people as partners doesn't mean they aren't good people or they wouldn't make good friends.
Yep, I think at some point though you have to stop forcing it.
I liked this guy, still find him incredibly interesting. He said we don't click and should stay in touch but in my view if we've interacted many times and it has been awkward we should stop.
Knowing that someone is talking to me but the conversation does not give them 100 percent satisfaction is a no no for me.
I think I'm not a very interesting person and now will be taking a mental break... Thank you for the advise...
Think I will distance myself from this person to save both of us time and energy and get some peace