It feels like one second we are together and everything is going great then we are fighting and its always my fault. He then wants me to leave him alone forever and never talk to him.. Then a few days later he comes back like nothing happen. I even try to talk about the issues that pushed him away but he never wants to talk about it. Just to push me away again.
Why does he push me away and then pull me back in?
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Sounds like your dude has some issues he needs to work out. A few possibilities:
- He might have avoidant attachment issues and gets scared of intimacy/closeness. Pushing you away creates "space" when he's freaked out.
- Could be passive-aggressive or have trouble communicating his real feelings. Fighting and blaming you is "safer" than being honest.
- May be seeing other girls too and gets guilty so lashes out. Can't commit fully to one girl.
- His moods/emotions could be all over the place from personal problems stressing him out. Takes it out on the relationship.
Either way, it ain't cool how he's jerking you around. You deserve someone stable who won't keep pulling this lose-you/want-you-back crap.
If I were you, I'd tell him it needs to change ASAP or you'll peace out for good. Protect your heart. Don't let him disrespect you like that!
Because you let him treat you however he wants. Establish some healthy boundaries or know when to walk away, it’s really that simple. You can’t love him into changing.