When is the right time?

[Anonymous]

My coworker and I had a discussion today. He has been in a relationship for over 10 years. He said he will marry her but just doesn’t know when. It’s not any of my business for him but when exactly is the right time? This is isn’t the first time I’ve heard this and as someone who has never really had a serious long term relationship I just want to know from a man’s perspective when is the right time for them

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a tough one luv. I don't think there's really ever a perfect "right time" when it comes to marriage. A lot depends on the individual relationship. But in general, here are a few thoughts on when might be good times:

- If you've been together 5+ years and are really committed long term. Enough time has passed to truly know each other.

- When you both feel financially stable and independent enough to take that next step and potentially start a family if that's in the plans.

- When you both feel like you've grown into fully mature and communicative partners who can really tackle life's challenges together.

- If you've hit major relationship milestones like living together long-term, meeting each other's families, taking vacations together, etc.

- When you truly can't imagine your future without that person and they feel like your soulmate.

- If one or both of you wants the legal/financial benefits marriage provides like taxes, medical decisions, inheritance, etc.

Ultimately it comes down to open communication with your partner. Make sure you both want the same level of commitment eventually. 10 years does seem kinda long but every relationship is diff. Maybe he just needs a little nudge to take that next step if she's ready!

[NathanDavis]

it will be different for every couple...

and it will be for the two or them to decide and to find out for themselves

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The right time to get married is when you are both ready & there is no time frame. Two of my friends have been in a relationship for over 20 years in the same situation.

[spartan55]

That's code for: never.

[laly520]

once they r ready to take that step
easy

[Danny_dan92]

When you’re ready