Ideally everyone should make a move for the person they want.
But a lot of people (meaning women) do stick to tradition and have those gender role expectations.
I used to be hung up on this. Making the first move and thinking about who pays on dates. I ended up wasting so much time and it got to no dates with that mentality. But now I just make the first move to any girl I find attractive on dating apps. I'll be the first to approach and ask them out. I'll pay for the first date. As a guy, you don't know if a woman will be turned off if you ask her to split or if she's okay. So you can swallow your pride, or not. But i see it as an investment.
I've had women make their moves on me. Usually they're pretty subtle about it outside of dating apps. I haven't always caught them in time to understand or make a move because I was really shy back then. I'm always flattered though.
Anyhow, the way I see it.. I like that I have the power to choose who I pursue and when, instead of sitting and waiting and missing out on a lot of potential relationships that never happen. It's really liberating.
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I always preferred it was me but I liked women who were flirty, like ones who passed me their numbers when I was a bachelor [*].
[*] by the way, what do women do nowadays? Do they still write their phone number and pass it to you even in this smartphone era?
I prefer to initiate these things on my own terms. It gives me a heads up taking the lead and keeping it. But it definitely helps if a woman lets me know that's what she wants me to do.
Same with sex. I like when my wife does the metaphorical equivalent of passing me her phone number. Then I get to lead.
Either. I've made the first move and others have. I'm good either way.
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Either gender it really should not matter.
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