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I'm rising 52 this year and married with a 5 year old son.
My wife is sick and there's a strong possibility she may not recover. If she were to pass away I don't see why I shouldn't date and find someone else to share life with. Hopefully that won't happen, but it's a possibility I live with daily.
The guys my age I know who've been put back into the dating arena have all come from one of two places: widowers who lost the love of their life young and guys whose wives cheated on them.
I recognise there's a third group - guys who cheated - I'm just fortunate to not know any.
Widowers usually date younger to try to reduce the possibility of living through the pain of losing two lives that way.
Guys who were cheated on - in my experience - are more cynical. They aim younger these days because the current culture of hook-ups is attractive to them because they don't have to commit to someone that's going to put them through the hurt of a divorce again.
Both groups might look like they're trying to be "players". It's simply a matter of understanding where they're coming from.
The ones who are guys I'd avoid are the third group - guys who cheated. I don't want to be around an overgrown adolescent.
By the same token I'd avoid women over 40 who talk shit about their ex. Actually I'd avoid any woman who does that regardless of age. It's low class and a red flag - if she's talking that way about her ex she'll do the same about me. With one exception: several exes but one that was abusive. If she only says negative about a guy who was abusive and not the others then that's different.
In my 30s and even my early 40s I wanted more than one child. Not so much now because of my age. I could understand why a guy who realises he wants kids would date younger women. Over 35 a woman's ova are less healthy and more likely to produce a handicapped baby - usually chromosomal but there's a variety of issues. Under 25 if the guy's over 50 is socially awkward to say the least. So those guys look 25-35. Not as players, just for the mother of their children.
Lots of reasons why guys can appear to be players or trying to be. We're not all Andrew Tate (king wanker).
I’ll start this by saying my happily married and not at all sympathetic to the player lifestyles.
Nonetheless I know a few guys on the dating scene who are north of 45 years old. The reasons vary greatly from divorced, to finally able to dedicate themselves to a woman, to widowed. While none of them even remotely qualify as players they reasons they are single are not out of some craving to bed as many women as possible.
It’s the same as anybody who wants to have someone to share their lives with. If a guys is a player - then by all means, regard him as you will, but you’re more likely to meet a guy over 45 who is NOT a player, than who is. By that time you usually have a pretty strong idea about what it is you’re looking for in a relationship, and are probably less likely to play games. Add to that some maturity, a stable income, some life experiences, and a willingness to be honest about their goal’s & priorities, and you’d be surprised how many women are interested. So I’m told anyhow.
theyre coming to the end of their reproductive life. its like at the end of the month, you want to use up all your data. thats what theyre doing, because once theyre older, they won't be able to anymore
Because they didn't get to be players when they were younger. But I do think it's dumb at 45 they are old men and should be going golfing and fishing. Not focused on women
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I don’t know. I just don’t worry about what people other than me are doing. If a guy tries to be a player at 45-plus, my life stays the same. I try to only put emotional energy into things that would directly affect me.
I’d say it’s probably tough to pull off, but I also don’t believe age should dictate one’s behavior. Follow your organic soul wherever it leads you. Maybe they crash and burn, but they might not be on the same journey as you or I, and it’s not any outside person’s place to make judgements about other people. The sun comes up every morning the next day, regardless, so I just can’t even expend any energy on it, haha
I wouldn't consider myself a player , I just consider myself pretty wise when it comes to females , thrpugh the years of girls’ and relationships , I realized most females can be players as well , I had my fair share of married women and girls’ that were already in a relationships with a guy lie to me and told me they were single , that ended up on bed with me to find out after the fact they lied to me The whole time. Nowadays most girls’ today are players’ that jump on bed with random guys’ like it’s no big deal , it ‘s dirty and degrading in my eyes , that a girl can go that route on her life. So bottom line guys and girls’ can both be players
I don't know anybody who lives to be a hundred years old. That's just news stuff. 45 is the easiest time to get all women. That's when young girls said to me "I've never had a man fuck me." I've always been a bit awkward and not really the settle down type. I am just fine independent unless I'm eating really well and working out a lot with supplements. That's what drives me to talk to women.
And by the way I'm not even close to nursing home age. Wait until you turn 40 and you will discover what a spoiled brat you are. You will remember this I guarantee.
At 56, I have zero intention of settling down. No marriage or long term relationship need apply.
I work out twice daily and have all my life and enjoy my hobbies without any complications or interference. I retired early and very comfortably.
So why would I be stupid to complicate my life by settling down and inviting someone's drama and trauma into my life? No thank you, I'll stick with casual dates.
If they want to be players, that's their choice. I know players in their 70s. That's their choice also. There is no reason for them to not be players if that's what they want.
Keep in mind that there are plenty of women doing the same thing.
You might be surprised how much sleeping around some old people do.
Because you're never to old to be a "player". Of course, "player" is an ambiguous term which means different things to different people.
I'd argue I met a 64 year old "player" back in 2019 at a local pool. He had never been married, never had kids, and told me he still got drunk every weekend, and would meet random women, and even hooked up sometimes lol.
You may have noticed alumni license plate holders on cars owned by old ass men, and such other indicators like making sure that everyone knows that they are sports fans, they either have fast, sporty cars (which they drive too damn slow in) or “pecker extension” pick up trucks, you know, the bigger the better. All without either knowing, or caring that they’re really advertising their lack of confidence and their insecurities. I’ve personally found that most of them were jocks in high school. They get treated like heroes because they can run 6 feet with a ball, then when they realize that their glory days are over at the ripe old age of 23, they tend to spend the rest of their lives trying to relive them.
Definitely a geographic thing... You'll see that in party cities in usa and some parts of south America but non party cities I don't see it so much. Some of them are divorcees that never partied, I understand that to some degree. Others are immature, lost, etc. I partied way too hard through my 30s. and definitely have repercussions from it now.
Most of the things that make men attractive to women such as money, status, and confidence take time to acquire, so a man who has likely struggled with women finally acquires these things he wants to enjoy them. You are speaking from a place of privilege because unlike men you can easily find sexual partners. You are basically a trustfund kid telling a self-made millionaire how he should spend his money.
Most men don't hit their stride until later in life. Early 30 through mid 40s is when many of us then start actually getting noticed by the opposite sex. You're in no position to judge. You sound like those red pill dorks who insist women should settle down at 21.. when they have thousands of guys lining up for them.
No, at 45, or 75, you should be doing whatever the F you want.
You can keep your simplistic rules for yourself; don't expect others to conform to them.
It's their life. If they can do it, all the power to them. Just to note something, Mr Ramajit Raghav was 94 years old when he fathered his first child in 2010.
probably making up for lost time.
Just think about this, you will probably spend more of your life over 30 years old vs under 30 years old!
There are guys who still se themselves as 25 years old. They do not realize that the rest of the world sees them as paunchy, middle aged guys.
What frustrates women about this is they would like to believe that there us an age when men stop wanting other women.
Maybe they were late bloomers in their younger days with limited female attention now they're needing gloryhole action before ED arrives
Probably because they are divorced and don’t want to get into a serious relationship again.
I'll be 140 and still playing around if I can lol.
What's wrong with that?
To pretend they are not getting older.
I agree... they need to chill out
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