Do all guys form relationships based on physical features/popularity first and then personality etc?

[MinMinBabe]

have you ever done the same and it did/did not turn out good?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I did a lot when I was in my late teens and early 20s and it brought me a lot of trouble. Most of my earliest dates came from parties, bars, and nightclubs so there wasn't much to go by except looks and some basic form of charisma.

I started changing things for the better around mid-20s. I still wanted a woman I found physically attractive but she didn't have to be the most attractive woman in the room (actually she never had to be for my tastes, but there wasn't much else to go by in noisy nightclubs).

Then I focused on compatibility, chemistry, and connection for the rest. After that my relationships improved dramatically and I found my wife not long after.

[MinMinBabe]

this is interesting, seems like all guys go through that phase, i wanna know how you met your wife if you dont mind?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

After I got burnt out trying to look for serious relationship material in the likes of nightclubs, I just started to mellow out and look for friends and good times. So I started to find some (both sexes, hanging out in one large group) and we did a lot more wholesome "daylife" activities instead of nightlife like camping, hiking, barbecues, picnics, things of this nature along with lots of home parties at each other's homes (nothing too rowdy).

I met my wife that way at a picnic. She was a mutual friend of one of my friends. Then we actually just hung out together in the group for almost a year but we were really drawn to each other the whole time, often ditching the rest of our friends to talk at the edge of the party, like at the balcony of a friend's house until our friends would show up and say, "Hey, you two are missing the party!" Then we'd rejoin but always end up working back to the edge.

Finally, one day we were at a bar and our friends all had to leave early for work leaving just the two of us there. So we danced and she kissed me in a flirty way (just a peck on the lips), I kissed her back, then asked her out.

[MinMinBabe]

wow!! thats nice

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

For the initial connection into the network of friends, I met this really nice and pretty girl at a bar who was so pretty: Indo-American from Brooklyn but with her parents from India. I actually quickly sketched her portrait since she looked to me almost like a Disney character:


We became friends after and hung out together. Then later I asked her out but she turned me down saying she only dates Hindu guys. 😅 Damn. But I asked her very casually and it was no big deal, so we continued hanging out all the time and I started to meet her friends and introduced some of mine into the group and the group kept getting bigger and bigger that way.

My wife was one of the new friends she made and introduced to me at that picnic.

[Nikki1989]

No, not all.