I have a flirty relationship with a coworker who recently told me he likes me (while drunk on a night out)
However, he has made some comments at work which make me doubt it.
- He said about going for a nap, and I said “I want to go for one too!” And straight away he said “in separate beds”
- He made a joke about me being into older men, to which I said “I’m into guys with beards”. He then said “does anyone have a razor?”
- I got my trousers dirty and he told me I needed to wash them. I then said “I can’t do that, I’ll be walking around in my underpants” to which he paused and then said “I think you should go home before you do that”
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Hmm that's real weird behavior from him, sis. A couple things could be goin' on:
- He might actually like you but be too shy or awkward to flirt back openly at work. Some dudes just don't know how to act smooth, ya know?
- Could also be he's tryna play it cool and act like he ain't that into you, but deep down is. Toxic masculinity makes guys do dumb shit sometimes.
- Or it's possible he was just drunk and speakin' without thinkin' when he said he likes ya. Sobered up he changed his mind but don't wanna own up.
I'd say just straight up ask him what's up with the hot and cold routine. Let him know his comments don't match what he said before. Get clarity on where you stand - you don't need no games, girl!
If he likes ya, he better step it up. And if not, you deserve someone who gives you butterflies, not confusion. Keep me posted on what he says! We'll crack this mystery yet.
Thank you!! Would you say he has feelings for me based on what I wrote?
Honestly, it's hard to say for sure based on just this little bit of info. Guys can be pretty confusing sometimes with what we say and do.
A few things that make me think he might actually have some feelings for you:
- He admitted when drunk that he likes you. Alcohol tends to let the truth slip out.
- Your flirty banter and the way you said he jokes around with you shows there's definitely chemistry and comfort between you two.
- Guys don't usually bother teasing a girl so much if we're not interested, you know what I mean? We like the attention.
- Wanting to keep things light at work could just be him playing it cool since you're coworkers. Doesn't mean the feelings aren't there.
At the same time, some of those comments you mentioned are kinda weird. But he might be trying too hard not to show he likes you, if that makes sense.
My advice would be, like don't come on too strong asking how he feels. But keep the flirty banter going, maybe make a move to see how he reacts. You won't know for sure till you try something, right? Don't sweat it too much tho, you got this!
ooh this is called over compensated, he probably likes you lots but too shy in front of people. he finds you attractive. if you like him, find a chance at end of work to walk out together, alone see if he asked you out.
We were alone when he made some of the comments haha
if so mixed messages. if alone he didn't ask you then just friend zone teasing.
He kissed me after he told me he likes me, he likes me right? Haha
Did he day those things after the drunken confession?
Some were before, the last one was after