We've been together for 5 years with 4 kids ( 2 from his previous and 2 together) and are very happy. We work well together, are each other's best friend, communication with one another is healthy and sex is great. Overall, we have a beautiful relationship, except for this 1 thing.. I'm not his physical type. We've talked about this, and he says he finds me to be stunning and that he is very much attracted to me. I do believe this as he says so often and his actions back this up. He says he found me to be super attractive before knowing me ( we would see each other often as we worked together) and that the more he's gotten to know me over the years, the more attractive he finds me. He often tells me that I'm the most beautiful woman to him and to a certain extent, I believe him. I know emotions play a huge factor in this and when you are truly in love with someone, you feel this way. Now, I know he is going to find other woman attractive. He's not blind. I have no issues with this and don't mind my man looking at an attractive woman as she walks by. I will add that he is extremely respectful about this. My issue is, I recently found out that he has quite a thing for blondes who are slimmer. I'm not "slim" but I'm not overweight and care for my health. I'm his ideal physical build (smaller waist, big booty and thighs) however he seems to prefer more toned woman than I. It's hard to explain.. I don't except him to only find me attractive and as I said before, it never bothers me for a guy to look at other beautiful woman around, however it seems to bother me that those women are quite different than myself. I know it's normal for men to like variety, however it seems like all other woman he finds attractive outside of our relationship are that of a very similar look, one that I do not have. I try to find comfort in our relationship and his love for me but I can not seem to not feel hurt in some way by this.
2 mo
Guys, Not his physical type, what does that actually mean?
