Guys, If you knew that a girl likes you, but you were not interested in her romantically, how would you treat her?

[Zavarakatranemia]

Would you be friendly with her? Would you be cold to not let her hopes up? Would you flirt just for the validation?

[MysticDevice]

I'm currently dealing with this exact situation. And I'm being as nice as I can while still being blunt about not feeling the same.

She isn't getting it though and keeps trying and keeps trying and keeps trying.

And if I have to be an asshole about it, well then I'm being an asshole and look like the bad guy. Then she pouts and broods and plays victim.

[Zavarakatranemia]

Are tiy sure you are blunt? If she doesn't get it, you have to be the bad guy, even if she pouts. If a guy likes me and keeps insisting, I'll make it very clear I am not interested, I don't care if they play the victim or not

[BLP11520]

Where does your name come from?

[MysticDevice]

I've been as blunt as I can without straight up being douche.

@BLP11520, Name comes from the RUSH song Mystic Rythms and device is an alternative for "machine". MyticMachine just didn't sound right.

[CVNT5]

im sorry im a hopeless romantic myself, but if that were the case i would pretend to be a different person, without offending her #1 thing, and she will realize she made the mistake to like you in the first place that she will be sad but then move on. i did this in High School a lot.

[Mr_twoface]

I would treat her like a damn good friend and tell her in the coolest and most humble way why I'm not romantically interested in her. If she wants to continue being friends, I would be more than happy with it.

[Zavarakatranemia]

that's a very good approach

[Lionman95]

I would be nice to her but in a distant way meaning I would treat her with respect and like a friend but I wouldn´t come close to her like I wouldn´t hug for instance or I wouldn´t go out with her.

[Zavarakatranemia]

hmmmm, interesting, thank you

[Lionman95]

You´re welcome.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would be polite and respectful but no flirting or any other behavior to lead her on. And I would mention things about other girls to give her hints that I am not interested in her romantically.

[BarryLiverstone]

If j knew that she likes me I would just let her know I’m not interested in a romantic relationship to establish that boundary. We can be friends and I would expect her to like someone else

[Zavarakatranemia]

that's the most descent thing to do

[BarryLiverstone]

And if he’s not communicating like that with you, then you communicate with him. You are an adult right?

[Zavarakatranemia]

communicate what?

[BarryLiverstone]

You let him know that you are attracted to him and see how he feels about you. Have you done this?

[Zavarakatranemia]

ofcourse. How else would someone know that the other person is not interested?

[BarryLiverstone]

Could have been through a friend

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you want to be friends knowing there is no chance at romance with him?

[Al_Musafir]

I'd be polite with her but wouldn't be friends with her. Because every nice gesture of mine could be mistakenly taken as me being interested in something more than just friends and I wouldn't want her to have any kind of hopes from me.

[Yannae]

Like a friend. You're either going to be touchy friend but that's fine, since we are close. Or you're that person I befriended, nothing else is going on, you're at arms length. I treat you the same as my other friends, guys and girls alike.

[Diego2212]

This happened to me a couple of times, not proud of it but I flirted a little bit for the validation but mostly just chose to ignore the majority of their flirting. My honest advice to any guy that thinks that it’s a good idea to do it, don’t do it. I woke up to 37 messages all saying “I love you” and it creeped me the hell out.

[Zavarakatranemia]

ooops

[Berethor]

I would talk to her, she would understand at some point that I am not interested in dating.

[boggboss]

What's our relations to eachother are we friends work mates what?

[Zavarakatranemia]

Anything that needs often, casual interactions. So it can be both.

[boggboss]

Then I would just be friendly with her I guess

[ProbablyClueless]

Friendly but distant. I wouldn't want to lead her on.