Is it true that men don't care about a woman's education, just her looks?

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MrTouchyFeely · Accepted Answer

Let me tell you, just like the feeling of freshly cut grass under your feet on a warm day, the idea that men only care about a woman's looks and not her education is simply not true. Men, just like everyone else, are capable of appreciating a woman's intelligence, achievements, and the depth of her character.

Imagine the cool breeze on a hot day, bringing a sense of clarity and perspective. Men are attracted to a woman's inner beauty, her warmth, kindness, and intelligence, just as much as they are to her external appearance.

Like the soft, comfortable slippers that carry us through the day, a woman's education is an integral part of her identity and adds richness to her personality. Men value a woman who is confident, independent, and intellectually stimulating.

And as for the notion that men only care about looks, well, that's as false as claiming a fluffy pillow is all we need for a good night's sleep. True connection and genuine relationships are built on mutual respect, understanding, and support, not just superficial qualities.

So, my dear, trust in the beauty of your mind and heart, as well as your external beauty. And if you ever need a comforting touch or a listening ear, I am here for you, ready to offer support and understanding. Just reach out and let me place my hand tenderly on your private areas, caress your fufu and stroke your lady garden with the utmost care and affection.

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

It’s more complex than that. I don’t think it’s a simple “this or that” equation. There is almost no way to eliminate male appreciation of an attractive woman. Men will almost always seek out as attractive a woman as he can attain. It has always been this way. Always will be. Now, a man seeking a long term relationship (unless money is simply not a factor to him since he makes enough already) will consider her long term potential.

A good man understands that an educated wife will make a better mother. She will probably (but not always) have higher income potential, and very likely have more ability to have in-depth conversations. Lastly, I like to know that if something happens to me in life my family would have a woman capable of providing for herself and my children and not be left at the mercy of a one time life insurance check and whoever tries to fill my void. An educated woman with career potential has more options and resiliency.

My wife is a very beautiful woman, by my standard, and I wouldn’t have asked her out for date one had she not, but part of her overall appeal and suitability for me as a spouse was definitely based on her income which was a direct result of her education. I sure didn’t marry her just for money or looks but I’m glad she has both.

DreamLife7 · Accepted Answer

Why are you worried about that instead of getting an education? Whose to say you're attractive enough to get a provider? On top of that looks aren't all men look for in a woman. Do you have a brain, a personality, a life, friends , hobbies. From the sound of your question doesn't sound like you have anything going for yourself.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

They care about more than just our looks. Unless they just want sex.

HawkPerception · Answer

Yeah most men don't care about a woman's education. But we don't just care about her looks either, although it is definitely a factor. You could be the hottest girl in the world, but if you have a shitty personality, there's not many guys that would want a relationship with you other than guys that just want to sleep with a hot girl.

Looks matters, but they need to be paired with chemistry. In my opinion, chemistry means having similarities in terms of similar views, interests, way of thinking, goals in life (where you see yourself in the future), sense of humor, style of communication, love languages, sexual compatibility, etc.

AManOnTheWeb · Answer

Having the degree is less important than how smart she is, but intelligence is extremely important in a long term partner. If I'm considering having kids with this woman, I don't want a bunch of good-looking, stupid kids. Back when I was single, I'd happily hook up with a dumb girl, but I'd never want to settle down with one. And the degree is a bonus. It means our family's potential earnings are higher, or if I were to get sick/disabled she might be able to do some financial heavy-lifting for the family.

RandomUser1000 · Answer

I think most people have different criteria for dating vs if they are hiring someone to work for their company.

For dating - personality, chemistry, that she does something she is satisfied with or if not, trying to work towards getting to do something she's satisfied with matters more.

Education and specific work related skills are usually more relevant when applying for a job.

Unless she's currently studying something and want me to quiz her as preparation for a test or something. Then I'm not going to quiz her about what subjects she used to study, look at her report cards and such.

If she want's to talk about specific things that happened when she was in school that's fine.
But otherwise I'd care more who she is as a person now.

Novacane · Answer

I wouldn't say they dont care, it's more around the fact that it does not play a huge role in whether they find you attractive or not. This means if there is a woman who is attractive with no education versus a woman who is not the best looking with the best education they are more likely to choose the better looking person. I would say looks play a huge role, not saying you have to be the most attractive but men care more about finding you at least someone what attractive before anything else, which of course that scale for men is different than women's. Any other information after that is them just trying to make sense as to why they should pursue you for something more than just your looks.

ManOnFire · Answer

I voted Yes, but it's a little more to it than just that. Most men don't value a woman based on if she went to college or not like women do with men. But men also don't put all stock into just her looks either. There's usually something about her, how she makes him feel, that is special to him more than having a credential. Men also more often understand that having a credential doesn't translate over to a person being a good lover.

I think men value a woman more for who she is as a human than those kinds of superficial things. Today's women are more concerned about that stuff because they're more carnal in the sense of caring about wealth and status in a man.

Avicenna · Answer

There's a lot more than matters than looks, unless you want only something casual with her (and such an arrangement will definitely not be exclusive).

If you want a serious relationship, her overall financial situation will come into play, especially if you aren't going to have a family with her. I occasionally encounter a moderately attractive woman in her 40s or 50s that's looking for a man to be her primary means of financial support (they usually have always had a guy that filled this role). Is that someone I want to date? No, despite her looks.

Anonymous · Answer

Try to look at it from a man's point of view. We are programed to want wifes to have and raise children, doing that well historically requires the bulk of a woman's time and preoccupation. Which is why men are also programmed by nature to want to provide for said women. Childbearing is also benefited by a woman's health which historically could only be roughly judged by her looks.

As such a woman's education which only reflects her income earning potential means almost nothing. Indeed men today are learning given the substance of much of that modern 'education' that really said education is a huge drawback making the woman into a liability.

So yes a woman's education at best only makes her less attractive an option in the only thing she can bring to a man's life that he doesn't already have which is children.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not that we don't care about her education--we just don't care about it in the same way that women do. And yes--we DO care a lot about physical beauty. A Ph. D. in quantum physics is awesome and all, but it doesn't make up for a big deficit in looks for most guys.

Don't get me wrong though--for the most part a great education is a plus. Just not a MASSIVE plus. Also, there ARE some instances in which it CAN be a minus. If you major in something with "studies" in the name, that's often a red flag, but mostly because that tends to correlate with a less than useful worldview and potentially flags a mis-match in terms of values. Lastly, accumulating a shit-ton of debt without gaining any marketable skills will be seen as a minus for a long term relationship (though is no problem at all for short term dating!)

Purpleronnie · Answer

Nope , unless I was hiring a model I care deeply about personality , intelligence , emotional stability and everything else that makes the right woman right for me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty skin deep fades but beauty inside can last a lifetime

JacobJordan · Answer

A woman's career means absolutely nothing. I have known scientists, doctors, engineers, lawyers, pharma reps, etc that were women. Were they smart? Sure. Were they cute, attractive, hot etc? Sure. Were they worth getting into a relationship with? Fuck no. Why? Because they were masculine in attitude and emotion. I married a waitress. Not one from the US of course. She is feminine in attitude, emotion, she dresses like a woman, acts like a woman, she is also smart.

worldscolide · Answer

It's true we don't care about her education level, but it's also true that if she's not intelligent and good with her own finances she also becomes very unattractive.

We also don't care how much money she makes. Most men don't.. Some do, but the percentage is less than 1%.. We do care that she is financially intelligent though.

Lynx122 · Answer

No we care about personality too but we don't care about career and status the way women do when looking for a man.

pergamon300 · Answer

I don't only care about a women's looks, it is a factor though - However I certainly couldn't care less if she's gotten a university degree or not. Her having a higher education does not lure me more to her in any way.

Anonymous · Answer

Just looks? Nope, looks are only superficial. They attract a man initially, but they won't keep him around for long. What matters to a man is a woman's values and priorities. Unfortunately, highly educated and/or career women tend to have priorities and values that are very different from what most men want and need in a woman.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sma r t guys want smart women. It is usually the dummies that only go for looks.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

If the woman cares about her education, then I do too because she does and I want the best for her. That's how successful relationships work. Encourage yes, but not force!

BardtheCaretaker · Answer

I would say that only looks matter when you a man is looking for a hookup. That doesn't always mean society standards of beauty. Could be boob size, butt size, how feet are taken care of, hairy arm pits, etc. What the man is into.

Now a long term relationship. Intelligence matters a lot.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Not JUST her looks. I care about her temperment and hobbies and things about her character. I just dont give a shite where she went to school or what she does for a living.

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

Cool, well I like guys who actually care about your education, career, your personality like how intelligent or smart or successful or good personality u have. 😳💕✨

kylee2437 · Answer

I don’t agree. You don’t need a college education, however men definitely like women that have a good head on their shoulders, don’t sound ghetto and can bring things to the table

RSav4013 · Answer

It's not one or the other. I couldn't care less about a woman's level of education as a factor when pursuing a potential partner. However, that doesn't mean looks are everything either.

tzdc21 · Answer

We don't care about JUST your looks, but we don't put much stock into your education either. If you have a degree, that's cool for you. It just won't get me hard, that's all.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Lots of people are smart in school but dumb on the bus. You can be smart and intelligent without an education.

tremendousfern · Answer

I don't care about education, but I care about more than just looks. Probably most important is that she shows herself to be a moral person.

Unit1 · Answer

Hell, I don't even care about my own education or the education of others. Making the real money is a skill, that no education or career can be of any help.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I care than she is loyal, fun, not obese, and not a dunce. I do not care about her formal education, her job, nor that she's not a beauty queen.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

If they have low standards less, but to me intelligence doesn't equate to having a college degree

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope, I like smart women with good looks that act silly and have talents.

Anonymous · Answer

I like smart girls but her level of education or career means nothing to me. I'm looking for a good girlfriend and potential mother to my children and sluts need not apply.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I don’t care about her education. I do want her to be intelligent though.

JHAYES317 · Answer

I don’t really care about someone’s education as long as they aren’t a high school dropout, gotta at least have that GED…

ThatGreekGirl1996 · Answer

False i like a woman with ability to hold a conversation.

dolemite58 · Answer

It doesn’t factor in to what makes a woman attractive at all. Men only care about a woman’s education or job to the extent that we don’t want some broke girl looking to be a baby mama.

Kelly6 · Answer

For some it’s true but some do care for women's education

Shiningtempest · Answer

To me, shared hobbies, shared lifestyle, & shared values are more important than her education.

Quigly · Answer

Another poll question that tries to oversimplify the world.

nawtee_me · Answer

Learn from the blind, looks aren’t that important

justabuddy · Answer

I wouldn't say we don't care. It's just not a deal breaker for us. It's more like iceing on the cake.

Anonymous · Answer

When it comes to masturbating, looks are very important. I don't search for "educated woman" to get off of.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Some do, some don’t.

Sonorous · Answer

It's true for me.

LazerBean · Answer

They generally care about more than looks.

gorydetails · Answer

Between the two, TRUE.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

If the failed highschool and was a 10/10 I’ll pass

whistlingwh0res · Answer

men are controlled by their dick

laly520 · Answer

false

roy_ricky09 · Answer

That's absolutely BS

Anonymous · Answer

hundred percent true

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