Why would a man pull away after showing positive signs (i. e. smiling) of attraction?

[Anonymous]

[DoggyDude]

So been here! I am here again after a long break after falling afoul of my own shyness and uncertainty.

I saw the most beautiful girl smile at me, and smiled back hanging about hoping she would speak to me. She never did and I just chalked it down to 'fate' and moved on with my life (first time we saw each other). Later, when I was having a really shitty morning at work, I went to get some stuff from the supermarket and came to catch the lift. Guy in front summoned the lift and there on the right was the pretty girl, who smiled at me so warmly and wondefully I fell in love with her smile (silly I know, but it happened). So, I managed to smile back genuinely happy about it and moved to catch the lift. Then my life went all to hell. Guy who was in front was 'wide' so when I got into the lift I didn't have room to face the girl like I wanted to and had to stand sideways, so I turned to smile at her again, and all my confidence evapourated on the spot. I worried about EVERYTHING. Worried she maybe really was smiling at guy who called the lift (she CLEARLY wasn't when I was getting in the lift, but close quarters, I went insane, feelins of love do that to a guy, especially a logical guy telling himself, "but I don't even KNOW the girl"). So I gave her, a relatively watery smile and then felt I was staring so looked away, felt I wasn't showing I was interested so looked back and smiled again, felt I was being weird now and looked like a scared rabbit. Paniced realising I hadn't hit my floor, looked to all the world like I had changed my mind *sigh* and leaving me insane because I doubt I'll ever see her again and have left her with entirely the WRONG impression. So I'm here in self therapy, yelling to the world "Im an idiot". In the thin hope maybe she reads this post and goes "oh.. right"; Though I doubt she will waste another smile on such a moron.

So there's ONE reason.

That said, there can be the other reasons. Like they like you on a physical level but can see that maybe you won't have anything in common and is trying to stop liking you before its a mess.

My advice is 100% bias, and is, go by the guys first reaction, and speak to him. Give him an opening to correct things showing your definitely not disinterested. If then he still is a moron and doesn't show interest back, its just maybe he was smiling about his day and you happened to catch his gaze coincidentially. I can't say 100% the girl who seemed to smile so warmly at me wasn't just a smiley person, after all the two times I saw her she's smiling and her job is a professional HR person... so really, if she DID like me, her best bet is to talk to me first, and my best bet, should I ever see her again is to ask her if she's single.

Hope that helps as much as provides me therputic way to express publicy im an idiot lol.

[NewgodOmega]

He regained his intelligence and knew women are trouble and hence stay away from them
Its a wise decision

[Anonymous]

Maybe his signs were just friendly and not flirting :(

[Asker]

I'm thinking so too :(

[In_Trance]

changed his mind