It is wrong im sad that he didn't text hope you got home safe?

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There is a guy I have been dating for a long time and he has done a lot for me and I always thanked him for it. However, last night I was in another city having fun with my friends and I texted him that i'm driving back home now after spending time with my friends. (it was very late) he sent me a photo of his fireplace and said i'm romantic over here usually he would text me where are you and pick me up this late to bring me home but this time he didn't which I was okay with I dont except him to do it all the time but what upset me it was very late and cold and I had to walk 25 min back home which he knew and he didn't even text or ask one time did you get home safe that really upset me

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It’s probably because you were out with your friends instead of being with him instead, Most guys’ don’t really like when a girl he really likes chooses her friends over him. Especially if you were out drinking at bars or clubs with your friends without him , A guy automatically assumes you might be up to no good by drinking and flirting with other guys’ he isn’t going to tell you the truth , because he doesn’t want you thinking he is insecure and doesn’t trust you but the truth is that’s how most guys’ think , They think the worst case scenarios , that she is out with her friends doing stupid shit. So he more than likely is kind of upset with you for choosing your friends over him , The same thing happens with Girls’ when her man goes out with his friends without her , she assumes the worst case scenarios as well , thinking he is flirting with other girls’ and cheating on her. I been in this situation plenty of times in relationships with girls’ Why I no longer put myself in those situations when i am in a relationship with a girl , I always think how she would feel before making decisions with my friends , I am not saying you have to get rid of your friends , but your friends should no longer be your top priority when you get into a relationship with someone , You should never put your friends over your partner , if you want your relationship to survive , A true friend will understand you are now in a relationship and understand you have boundaries now , a toxic friend won’t give 2 shits about your relationship and do everything they can to pull you away from your relationship , they don’t care if you get in trouble with your relationship all they care about is themselves , those are the friends you should honestly kick to the curb for trying to jeopardize your relationship with your partner, they don’t resoect you. When you learn to wear your partners’ shoes the same way you want your partner to wear yours, that’s where respect and trust comes into play in the relationship and that’s where love grows between you both , if you truly loved your partner and want respect from your partner , removing yourself from those environments shouldn’t be hard to do , if you like to drink and party , drink and party at home with your partner let them know you are safe and by their side , Your partner will more than likely do the same for you if they truly love you. You can still go to those places with your friends but don’t stay long hours there and don’t make it a regular habit , come home after a few hours , don’t stay out all night long , keep in touch with your partner when you are out like that , learn to respect each other because your partner will be worrying about you , just like you would be worry about them when he is away your partner can’t see what you are doing there , just like you can’t see what he is doing there with out you , so to build trust and respect in your relationship it’s best to always think about what your partner might be feeling before making decisions. People that don’t care about their partners’ feelings are selfish people that only care about themselves , if you want to experience true love with someone you have to learn to remove selfishness from yourself for each other. and I guarantee your relationship with your partner will get better because you are both on the same page with things. Relationships only fail when a partner is selfish and only thinks about themselves , that think they are never wrong and always right , that person will continue having failed relationships because they only care about themselves , they will never experience love having that selfish mindset , trust me

tremendousfern · Accepted Answer

A glimpse into the mind of the modern woman: strong, independent, and furious that her boyfriend forgot one time to ask if she made it home safe instead of putting on her big girl pants and informing him herself.

Definitely not an incredibly minor thing that is being blown out of proportion at all. This is definitely the kind of thing you should hold onto and then randomly bring up to hold over your boyfriend the next time you fight.

I can think of many reasons why he may have forgot. Maybe instead of thinking the worst and get upset about it, bring it up to him NICELY, ask about why he forgot, and let him know you really appreciate his texts asking if you got home safe.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I would feel the same way. I would feel upset, and especially after having to walk home in the cold, I would NOT be in a good mood either, which would escalate things. I found recently that these types of things would bother me and I would address these with him, only to find out that he was busy, or, that he assumed I was ok. I've learned that texting is not the greatest thing. I often read into things more than I should, and found that if I was feeling that way, I would now just call him.

However, I think if that bothers you, and he does it often, I would bring it up with him. But if it was just a couple times, and the other times he checks in, I would personally leave it. Does he seem to be as caring and interested as he was previously with you, now?

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

you set expectations. And because of it you feel upset or disappointed very often

Expectations kill relationships. Because reality ALWAYS is different than we want it to be. So, give up your expectations, welcome whatever comes to you and enjoy it

Violet_78 · Answer

Sounds more like a simple misunderstanding of sorts

he texted you good night at 2am which was nice - he wouldn’t have any idea why you aren’t talking to him now (you said you didn’t want to reply)

if you were secretly hoping he would pick you up, you could have asked him? He probably assumed you were alright (which you were)

I do understand the bit about him not asking if you got home alright and how that might upset you - so maybe talk to him about it rather than assuming the worst and see what he says

st1nkella4 · Answer

i have a boyfriend too. he asks me if i reached home safely after hanging out w him or my friends, and that one day he didn't ask, i make sure it's my responsibility that i will inform him I've reached home safely and im about to go and sleep.

that's the thing, people expect so much from their partners and it has to be pinpoint otherwise you'll get pissed at him. THATS NOT HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK.

there are certain responsibilities you have as well, not only him. the two of you are in this together, he is not going solo now is he?

just talk to him and kill the expectations, shit goes both ways man.

David94358 · Answer

Yes you are wrong to be upset. You want a ride? Ask.. simple as that, the fact you didn't means he probably thought you had it covered because you where out with the girls. When guys are out with the boys they want to be left alone to be out with the boys, seems he was extending the same to you

Comingback · Answer

You're not wrong for being sad. Frankly, I would have probably been sad too if I was in your position, and I always text to ask if she's safe and got home. But you shouldn't make a big deal out of it.

spartan55 · Answer

You said you were driving, then you said you were walking? Huh?

laly520 · Answer

maybe he thought u will be ok with ur friends around u

Staximus · Answer

Why would you drive somewhere and then walk for 25 minutes back home

KrakenAttackin · Answer

He just assumed some rando was taking you home.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

You said you were driving

Chelsdope0 · Answer

He doesn’t care enough.

JayBones · Answer

No. If he didn't text he doesn't care.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe he fell asleep or figured you had covered

Anonymous · Answer

Seems normal to me.

It is wrong im sad that he didn't text hope you got home safe?

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