How do I get the guy I want without losing a piece of myself?

[Anonymous]

[Telekinetic-Potato]

You'd have to find a guy who isn't willing to lose a piece of themself either, and figure out how that is going to work.

What you're talking about in reality is growth. You have to let go of some things in order to become better and move forward. That goes romantically and professionally.

This is why it's important to take time to be introspective sometimes and really take inventory of yourself. What are the things you believe in, where do they come from and how do they fit in with your other beliefs? How have they served you?

Traditionally, the woman becomes attached to the man for his vision, she sees how he navigates the world and believes in it. This is where the stereotype of a submissive woman being romantic comes from. Obviously it's been adulterated and sexualized over time, I'm not commenting on whether that's good or bad, I'm just pointing out the this is part of the most fundamental aspect of how a relationship works.

In a healthy relationship, the woman also has life experience and perspective to offer. Traditionally, the woman takes on an advisory role to the man. She naturally has a perspective where she can see all of his flaws. Even though she has left parts of her old self behind, they were replaced with new stronger beliefs and this cycle continues through life.

I used the example of a man and woman in a romantic partnership, but in reality this is how every relationship works where both people respect eachother. Teacher student, employer, employee, client to vender and even good friends.

[mattthefatbat]

I was with a woman that was only with me because she pittied me and it felt like the goddamn worst kind of love to have she didn't really like me for me or who I was.
So if you ever feel like you have to let go of apiece of you or whatever. Just fucking don't do that shit, you'll only be dragging yourself through a relationship that potentially may not work well for the two of you.
Just keep looking for a guy that you really connect with instead there are so many different types of guys out there and im sure more than some would still love you for you and like what you have
Now with that said though there are somethings you need to just let go. Like terrible ex boyfriends, and any bad habits that take or make the relationship you have with your potential partner unbearable.
Plus when you feel like you are really with someone you love you won't feel like you're losing anything but gaining something better.

[FreyaRed]

I don't think you will lose anything if you give him to understand you're interested

[coachTanthony]

First stop using useless movie cliches as "losing a piece of myself" like it's a real thing. Next simply never put all of your time and effort into another human being. If they don't want you as much as you want them then move on.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think I would ever want to be with someone where I would have to lose a piece of myself. We are who we are and if they can't accept that, then they were never the right person to begin with.

[Summeroflove]

Find your other half and don’t focus on the other men. There isn’t even anything wrong with sone of them. It’s just not meant to be.

[JacobJordan]

You don't. You will always lose something of who you were. You are combining 2 lives into 1 life

[DextroShade]

You can't because every guy you get with gets a piece of you. If you get with too many guys you lose too much of yourself to ever be able to love anyone so choose wisely.

[Staximus]

You don't have to "lose a piece of yourself". Just set boundaries for yourself and for him.

[lorenzomichael]

Buy him a new Cadillac and season tickets to the Los Angeles Kings.
It won't cost you an arm in an leg but it'll cost you a pretty penny. 😂

[Anonymous]

Be yourself. If it works, great, if it doesn't, you were not meant to be.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why would you have to lose a piece of yourself?

[Booklover_90]

Don’t be desperate. Plenty of fish in the sea. 😊

[OddBeMe]

Not dating serial killers for a start.

[MrDaveAPSI]

Dont let him control you

[Luckycharms12]

Don't have to lose yourself

[war_daddy]

omg the drama

[Anonymous]

Why not?