Should we have sex?

[Abc123hell0]

I like this guy and he likes me. The only issue is he is super busy and would not be able to put in the work for a starting relationship at this time. He said he is happy to be friends and hang or we can be casual but he doesn’t have the money, time, etc. for a being relationship the way he wants. I really want to have sex with him but don’t want to make things messy or stop the chances or anything in the future. Not sure what to do.

Updates

1 mo

I don’t mind I just don’t want to make it messy if relationship in the future is an option

[ProbablyClueless]

As things presently stand, there is absolutely no shot that having sex with that man will ever lead to a relationship. If you haven't started dating already, there's no reason to believe you'll start dating in the future (unless something about life substantially changes).

As a good general rule, if you need to ask if having sex with someone would be a good idea; don't do it.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You've stated that you both like each other. The next step then if a relationship is off the table is to ask him what the alternatives are!
Who knows? Maybe he will suggest just sex for now?

[Abc123hell0]

He said we can be friends and hang or be casual

[TommyMountainFigure]

Is that not acceptable to you?

[laly520]

doubt relationship will be an option in future unless there would happen sth making him change his mind
also having sex with him while not being in relationship isn't recommend it might push u forever into being his friends with benefits n he won't then consider u more than that

[Drew-1990]

Personally I would advise against it, I think you will just make it messy and harder to get over him if it doesn't work. I'm sorry but despite what so many think sex is more than just physical

[bowenw]

He doesn’t sound particularly interested. If it were me, I’d move on to find someone that was into me and willing to make time for me.

[Sameone]

Easy invite him to your place for dinner. And show him your power (pussy power).

[jahaims]

It's super weird you let other people decide if you have sex or not.

[Sam12348]

It's gonna be a situation where he used you as a toy