What is the psychology men who act passive-aggressive toward men who are hanging around the woman that they like?

[Thisgirliscool]

I have this stupid dilemma at work ( of all places I wanted this to be)... one guy (Garrett) told me he had feelings for me but due to being coworkers it was decided that we be friends. Though, I have another friend at work (name is Cole, which I know likes me too). He will follow me everywhere, or come to look for me even if I've been gone for literally 10 seconds... he always wants me to sit by him, asked if I'd wanna kiss sometime (i said no...), keeps asking when we'll hang out and I have been reminding him that we are (and always will be) just friends... Anyway, ever since Cole has been around me more, I've noticed Garrett has been acting passive-aggressive toward him & really mean... why do men do this even when they say they want to be friends?

[teamvic]

Just because you agreed to be friends doesn't mean their feelings for you disappears

The guy being mean are the other guy as competition
Even if both don't have a chance, it's still the case. Seeing the other guy trying to make a move on the girl he wants to be with don't sit too well with him either

I promise you, if you wanted to date the first guy, he'd be down. Now OBVIOUSLY, bit the reason I bring it up is you asked why he's getting passive agressive even though friends were agreed upon. Whale 🐋 it's simple. He's only being just friends with you because it's what you want. Not him.

But slowly but surely both are biding their time tryna see if you'll Change your mind.

[spartan55]

I bet being friends wasn't Garrett's idea, am I right? Regardless, he probably feels Cole is a douche (which it sounds like he is) and is trying to run him off. I know women never believe this, but there is no next level psychology behind it.