Why did he say “why me” when I asked about being friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

I really wanted to know if this guy only wanted sex so I told him that maybe we can do friends with benefits thinking that he would “bite the bait “… but him saying “why me” really puzzled me.

Now I’m confused

[Finchie40]

Maybe he wants to be more than just Friends with benefits with you? , Friends with benefits pretty much means that you are open to seeing other people as well , So it sounds like he wanted to be more than just Friends with benefits with you , by him saying Why Me? He is implying Why can’t he just be the guy for you, instead of just being an option? That’s what it sounds like to me. Most guys’ that really like a girl , they pretty much become territorial over her , they pretty
Much want her all to himself , they don’t want her being with other guys’ he wants her to want him the same way he wants her. Most guys’ get turned off if a girl can’t stay loyal and faithful to just him , he does t want to picture her getting screwed by other guys’, he wants to be her one and only.

[Asker]

Yet he ended up hurting me in the end…
I guess He didn’t like me….

[Finchie40]

How did he end up hurting you?

[Asker]

He said he didn’t want to invest his time if we weren’t going to eventually be intimate but he ended up rejecting me

[Finchie40]

His loss, find yourself someone better

[Asker]

I really wanted to be with him but whatever… there’s plenty of men who hurt me.

I want to work in the adult films

[Finchie40]

Working in adult films might make it harder for you to find a loving relationship as well,, just because most men won’t commit to a girl that is having sex with other men

[Asker]

That’s fine. I don’t really want one

[Finchie40]

Just rock who you are , do what makes you happy

[TommyMountainFigure]

It sounds to me like he just wants a monogamous relationship, and you asking that means in his eyes, you don't care about him!

[petitedollbabee]

He was asking why you’re choosing him to be friends with benefits with when you could choose someone else.

[Asker]

Why does it matter

[petitedollbabee]

I don’t know. Clearly it matters to him though?

[Asker]

I wouldn’t understand why

[msc545]

Stop shit testing men and you won't feel confused.

[KrakenAttackin]

@msc545. Exactly. She's playing stupid games a d winning stupid prizes.

[Asker]

He’s playing stupid games too

[msc545]

I think not, but I guess you're entitled to your ridiculously weak response

[HollyK21]

Did you reach out again?

[Asker]

WTF? How did you know this was me?

And no I didn’t

[HollyK21]

Sounded familiar lol I’m glad you didn’t reach out ☺️

[Asker]

I don’t remember sharing that with you

[Asker]

I guess he really is done…

[HollyK21]

It’s for the better babe!

[Asker]

How tho? I really don’t understand why I’m still on this and it’s not bc I don’t want to let go..

[Asker]

I just feel like he hated me

[HollyK21]

I believe it’s because you fixate on one guy until the next one comes along, you’ve done that your whole life.

[HollyK21]

There’s no reason for him to hate you, if just didn’t work out. It happens all the time but you take it especially hard. You feel like it’s potential lost when it really wasn’t.

[Asker]

I just feel like he didn’t give me a chance but it’s whatever

[HollyK21]

He may not have given you a proper chance, we will never know for sure. In any case though it just wasn’t meant to be, babe. That may be god working very much in your favor, taking you out of situations that aren’t meant for you so you can find something more fulfilling.

[Asker]

Okay, it wasn’t meant.