Why do men glance at a woman from afar for months if they are not into her at all?

[Anonymous]

He acts nice when I try to make small talk with him but claims he is not that interested when I confronted him about his staring in the past. Why stare if you’re not interested? I would never make an effort to turn around and stare at someone from afar that I don’t want to get to know better

[spartan55]

So you think because YOU act a certain way, in a certain situation then guys should too? Uh... no?
This whole forum is based on men and women being fundamentally different.
You are also putting way too much value on staring. It probably means that he is attracted to you, but attraction is not the same as interest and you are conflating the two.

[Anonymous]

Because maybe he isn’t interested in you. Maybe that’s your perception. I glance at everyone at work. Not because I’m interested but as a man I’m just built that way to observe everything. Doesn’t mean I like all these women, or even these men because I glance in their direction. Maybe he can’t stand you. Some people stare or people they don’t like. Like they’re shooting darts at them w them eyes.

[Asker]

Yeah but he turned around to glance at me from afar for several months and always tries to be sneaky about it. It’s not like I’m in his line of sight

[Asker]

He used to have a crush on me years ago so I doubt he dislikes me

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so why didn’t you say he had a crush on you years ago. That’s pertinent information if you expect someone to draw a conclusion. Chances are he despises you now. Maybe he still does like you. But there are people who despise people they used to liked because that person refused their advances. Has he ever tried asking you out?

[Asker]

I messaged him on WhatsApp and we made friendly small talk. He was nice until I mentioned him staring and asked him what’s up with that. He turned cold and claimed he was never interested enough to approach me. That’s what’s confusing me about him: why make a repeated effort to glance at someone from afar you neither hate nor like?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe it’s that you confronted him. He’s shy or embarrassed that you caught him. But again he may not really like you like you think he does.

[Asker]

I don’t know what he thinks about me he is just confusing me. I just know that he does have some kind of interest in me

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. But is that interest one of him actually liking you? Don’t know.

[Asker]

Same

[Opinion Owner]

You said he still talks to you?