What does he think about me?

[Anonymous]

He still uses my Netflix and stalks me on it while he has a new girlfriend. He also unadded me on Venmo and LinkedIn when he hard launched his new girlfriend which was weird but whatever. Then I see two months later that he blocked me on Venmo. My thing is why wouldn’t he just block me all at the same time like why do it later? He also saw a pic of me on a mutuals friend’s story and then removed themselves from their story but kept our friend in his. If he hates me so much then why go to that extent to remove me from your life and still use my stuff esp if he has a new girlfriend. It feels like he’s going to extremes but I don’t understand. (We had been broken up for a while but he was still telling me he missed me and he didn’t want to be heartbroken anymore then two weeks later started talking to this girl, asking her out within the month, and telling her I can’t wait to spend life with you two weeks after they started dating). I feel like his actions just don’t match with his words. All my friends tell me it’s a rebound if he’s doing small things like this while being in another relationship but I’m not sure whether it’s bc he’s not over me or bc he despises me. I don’t understand why he’s with her in the first place if he’s not over me. My biggest fear is that they last and don’t break up which I know I shouldn’t be hung up on but I am. So what do you guys think?

[Confucious900]

So I first have to ask are you over him? I know its hard seeing someone you love or care for with someone else but you broke up. And he started with the blocking etc and he is the first to be in a new relationship. Sometimes it can be the girl behind the blocking or unfriending and if he is to make this new relationship work he will want to make her happy. But I do also have to say moving on to a new relationship that fast can indicate a rebound unless she has been there in the background without you knowing. You don't mention the length of your relationship but no one moves on that fast just because. If he unfriended you and blocked you do the same thing and also remove him from your netflix and change your password. Why does he still get to enjoy that benefit if he is already with another woman. Because I would imagine you look at his account on netflix too and look at what he is watching. If he reacts in some way and reaches out because you unfriended him on social channels or that you removed him from your netflix account then he might make contact but it might not be for the reasons you hope or want it to e. But even if he doesn't, you deserve better and need to make some time for yourself. Take back your respect and your power, block his ass and work on yourself for a bit and make some you time. Then go back out there.

[LuminousMind]

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[Confucious900]

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[Asker]

We dated for a year and a half. Broken up for 6 months before he started talking to her. My thing is like why go to all those extremes to remove me from your life but then still use me in that way esp if he has a new girlfriend.

[Confucious900]

6 months after a relationship of a year and a half is normal for some. He then moved on, and you definitely should too. You didn't lose something here. He lost you. Kick him from from your netflix, change the password. He is a grown ass man that can afford his own netflix. That is what most people do after a breakup depending on how they split up with each other,, but remember even if he wanted to keep you on his socials, it could be the new girl that told him to remove you. Best for you is to just move on yourself. Focus on yourself and get a new guy.

[Flatmanlewis]

A/ Some guys use the next one to get over the last one. Wrong, but it happens.
B/ Half this nonsense is all fueled by technology based shenanigans. Change your Netflix password, block him on your social media, and move on. It matters not, what he thinks about you. If he’s in your past bury him there and move on. You cheat yourself out of the growth and learning that comes from failed relationships by not doing so.

[Asker]

Yes but these technology based shenanigans do say a lot..

[spartan55]

@asker
They really don't say shit. You are just making shit up in your head because of your huge bias.
Honestly you are just torturing yourself.

[laly520]

do justice to urself n move on

some stuff aren't meant to be so dont waste ur time n effort

[Asker]

That’s very true but I can’t help but think why do all of this

[spartan55]

Do all what? Get free Netflix? Smh... He is done, believe it.

[laly520]

yes he is done

[spartan55]

Wow, you don't remove him from your Netflix (because of some reason only known to you) then bitch about him still using it...😂 😂
You seriously can't make this stuff up.

[Asker]

I don’t remove him because I’m like he has to think of me every time he uses it. If his new girl found out I don’t think that she would not feel hurt by it bc me personally I would be hurt if my boyfriend was still using his ex’s stuff you know. I also want to see how far he’ll go which he has. He blocked me on everything but uses that. I’m just like does he hate me or does he think of me…

[spartan55]

Where do you girls come up with this shit? You honestly believe he thinks about you and misses you every time he streams a movie? He DOES NOT GAF about any of that, he's getting free Netflix! And how would his girlfriend even find out anyway? Your trail of logic here is completely misguided.
So you are going to keep chasing this obsession about how he feels about you? Really? Worrying about when he blocks you on what and all kinds of other irrelevant nonsense.. it doesn't fucking matter... trust me...