Silent break up? Watch all my stories?

[Anonymous]

why would he still watch ALL of my stories after we have broken up silently ( no conversation took place we kinda tried but it probably felt useless to him)

thank you

[spartan55]

One has nothing to do with the other PERIOD. If neither of you could even have an adult conversation about ending your relationship, then there was no relationship to begin with.

[sheikalana]

He's having a hard time letting you go. Is best if you both unfollow each other.

[Asker]

Hello

maybe you can help me. I have messaged him to say I would like us to talk about what is going on that perhaps he doesn’t need it but I do , he told me ‘Hello, yes, I am very well, and you? we'll talk tomorrow evening. no problem.
Tomorrow night I'll finish a little later around 2am and Sorry for Tonight I just wanted to go home. Have a good end of the evening. Kisses’
I said ‘ok great , good night kisses ‘ and he replied ‘ good night you too kisses ‘

Then the next day instead of meeting with me he went home , I texted him in the morning this
‘Hi, I hope all is well? I understand that sometimes things may not go as planned and it may be better for me to see you somewhere else than at your workplace in fact.( I live above his workplace) I'm available today Until 4 p. m., or tomorrow tell me and I'll meet you. Good morning, kisses’
He replied an entire 16 hours later past 2 am after work :

‘Hi, I admit it's complicated right now. I'm sorry to blowing you off like that. Don't worry, we'll have the discussion you want to have I promise Have a good evening. “

( no kisses this time when just yesterday he was sweet )

What’s going on? Thank you for your help

[sheikalana]

Why do you want so bad to talk about what’s going? You guys broke up means you need to cut ties it’s impossible to be friends with an ex immediately after a break up. The right thing to do would be to remove each other from social media and cut all forms of contact so you both can move on. At this stage talking to each other is just going to hurt you even more.

[Asker]

We haven’t broken up formally that’s the problem. Just 10 days ago he was at my place we were hugging and mad eplans to see each others but he just did not call me or text and then I asked him to meet to discuss this. Basically he accused me of distancing myself from him , so he took his distance and now I accuse him of taking his Distance from me to the point where it is a ‘silent breakup’ since we have discussed anything. It’s very silly because we bump into each other quite often as he works below my flat but I am against drama on his workplace , so I want us to discuss it not in public.
He has come back to me since he has said we will meet this week to talk. After that depending of the outcome , I will let him know that o am taking him off social media’s etc , because there would have been closure and everything ro move on properly. I have always had good break up with conversation to make every party feels good and not shitty. There’s always good things to say when you part ways and have spend 5 years or 5 weeks with someone , I like to focus on that in my goodbye.
This silent break up is not something I want to be a part of , and I don’t him to experience that either , he is used to toxicity due to his childhood and is used to toxic pattern , so did I but I worked a lot on my self and keep doing and I don’t want to lose the fruits of it by participating in behaviours that don’t belong to who I am now. I communicate , I talk I want to listen to what he feels and tell him how I feel too. He has giving me a very unique experience and he deserves all forms of kindness and in this instance he might learn that it’s better to say goodbye than not because It keeps the toxic pattern growing and growing.

Thank you for your help it’s so appreciated and I keep this advice for the post- talk when the break up will be official indeed

Thank you ☺️

[Wise4myage]

He regrets breaking up with you.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply
Will he eventually make a move or something? I am just confused

[Wise4myage]

Maybe, but don’t wait around for him.

[Asker]

OK , he will probably make no move anyway , thank you for your help :)

[Wise4myage]

You’re welcome

[Asker]

I literally just posted a story and 15 mns later he is the first one to watch it. That’s just odd.

[Wise4myage]

Yes I agree. Have you blocked him?

[Asker]

No , should I? He works below where I live so I feel that would be awkward. Plus my stories are exclusively nature and animals I see so not of me

[Asker]

Hello maybe you can help me. I have messaged him to say I would us to talk about what is going on that perhaps he doesn’t need it but I do , he told me ‘Hello, yes, I am very well, and you? we'll talk tomorrow evening. no problem.
Tomorrow night I'll finish a little later around 2am. Sorry for Tonight I just wanted to go home. Have a good end of the evening. Kisses’
I said ‘ok great , good night kisses ‘ and he replied ‘ good night you too kisses ‘
Then the next day instead of meeting with me he went home and did not read my messages. I texted him in the morning this :

‘Hi, I hope all is well? I understand that sometimes things may not go as planned and it may be better for me to see you somewhere else than at your workplace in fact.( I live above his workplace) I'm available today Until 4 p. m., or tomorrow tell me and I'll meet you. Good morning, kisses’
He replied an entire 16 hours later past 2 am after work :

‘Hi, I admit it's complicated right now. I'm sorry to blowing you off like that. Don't worry, we'll have the discussion you want to have I promise Have a good evening. “

( no kisses this time when just yesterday he was sweet )

What’s going on? Thank you for your help

[Wise4myage]

Maybe, but don’t find yourself waiting around for him.

[Asker]

Maybe what? Thank you

[Wise4myage]

YES, just block him.