Would guys reject me back in high school because of how I would dress?

Question

Someone in high school told me that I get rejected a lot because of how I dress and that I’m quiet. They also told me that people wouldn’t want to sit next to me because of how I would dress and that I should wear more color and wear feminine tops. Would guys more likely reject me because I would dress like this?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends. Some men like that. Some don’t. It also depends on the type of men you’re talking about. Are they men you would say are w in your “league?” If they’re not, if they’re in a higher “league” than chances are they aren’t going to want you based off of your beauty, not so much what you dress like. A lot of men would date a girl wearing a trash bag if she was hot. Wouldn’t care. Now if you’re going for men in your league who know their place as far as what women they can attract than chances are they’d go for you. I remember the movie Mean Girls, the original one. I liked Janis Ian, the girl who dressed I guess sort of “goth.” Don’t know if that’s the term, but she dressed in a lot of black. I liked her compared to the “plastics.” Janis Ian wasn’t the prettiest out of all of them, but her personality wasn’t like the plastics. Gretchen Wieners was actually the cutest but she was a ditz as well as the other girl who could tell when it was going to rain by feeling her tits.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't have rejected you BECAUSE of it. I just likely would never have gotten to know you well enough to see if you brought anything to the table or not. Long before you taste or smell a dish at a restaurant you see it, which is why chefs plate up the food to be appealing. Might taste like concentrated love and spiritual joy but if it looks like a drowned rat most people won't try it.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't worry about that. I know in high school during the warmer months I'd sometimes decide to be fashionable, so I'd wear a dress & leggings. People would pay attention to me then but I didn't care much honestly. Since my thought was "Oh, they only like me because I'm wearing a dress." Which I wouldn't be totally wrong. Other than that I wore jeans, hoodies, and t-shirts.

luvstoned4him · Accepted Answer

Be yourself and trust me the right person would love you. I wore a lot of preppy styles clothes back in school and yes I've had the guys who rejected me but there were those you appreciated me... As a Person and chose to look past the clothes and focus more on the personality and those are the people you want to focus on

MisterWack · Answer

Character & Personality.  P. S. I like Led Zeppelin / rock bands so I probably would’ve AT LEAST been ur friend out in those halls (DON’T message ME xD)

DishLady · Answer

High school is overflowing with superficial airheads so yeah people judge way more by appearance, and if you’re SILENT as well as MOPEY as well as GOTH in the all black… then no, people are not likely to approach you.

REJECTING means you’re actually making an effort to socialize, which doesn’t fit with the silent/mopey description you’ve provided about yourself.

silvermoon84 · Answer

High school is like that unfortunately. I mostly wore jeans and oversized t-shirts. Occasionally I would wear trendier clothes, but I got judged for my clothes and being quiet too. My style was not the same as yours, but it was similar: band t-shirt and hoodie with jeans. I think your style is fine, and it’s better to just be yourself. I’m sorry you got judged based on that.

Insecure2 · Answer

IT all depends what kind of people dominate in your high School. If IT is an institution with traditions full of doll like Barbies and Kens then yes, IT would be true. If IT is more of a public School with many people od different subcultures, then no, IT wouldn't.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

Maybe some guys didn't want to approach you or whatever in high school because of the way you dress. Although I think most guys, even preps and jocks, would date an "i-wear-all-black" girl if they found her attractive.

Some guys might have thought that you would reject them, because they assumed you were only interested in guys who had a similar style to your own.

Fireguy17 · Answer

it was high school.
No one had a clue back then, we were all just dumb ass kids that thought that we knew everything.
It turns out we were dumb ass kids.
So don't base your life now and in the future on what happened or didn't happen in high school.
You will get to the point soon where you look at high school kids and how they act and hope that you weren't like that, but we were.

Pohjolan · Answer

Now hold on. You wouldn't need someone to tell you that you get rejected a lot if that was the case. Do you even make a lot of moves on guys? And I mean actual moves. Not just sitting next to someone and having a conversation.

Though a hoodie is not that inviting but wearing black is fine.

AviatorTom · Answer

Kids in high school, and teens in general, have an imperfect view of the world. Material things, which includes how someone dresses, are important to teens. As they mature, they realize there are more important things in life.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Unfortunately, High School is one big popularity contest, those people that are outspoken, dress in colorful trendy clothes tend to get noticed. If you dress in black and are a bit of a recluse, then you are less likely to be noticed.

HawkPerception · Answer

I would say you're definitely less likely to be approached since you have the quiet goth vibe. Most guys prefer a girl that dresses feminine, smiles, and is approachable.

alice55 · Answer

yes, they would except the one who dress like you or are into alternative culture. I used to wear BMW shirt and football (soccer) shirt in school and the guys I attracted where the one into those two things.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Don't mind them. The most important part of your life is now, the present moment. 😉 High school was like the most immature phase ever. In college, no one would even mind.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sadly, there are judgmental folk of all ages, but it can be very common in high school. I was one of the few metal/rock chicks in school, so I was singled out all the damn time.

Sharkstealth · Answer

Led Zepplin the gods of rock. No way would I reject you in all black especially if you fit in to those leggings like they appear. The jock might not go for you though if that's what your shooting for. People with the same interests match.

HighValue · Answer

As long as you're not wearing provocative/revealing clothes, or have tattoos, face piercings (especially nose piercings), or short unnaturally colored hair, you should be fine for decent men.

RavVid · Answer

Possibly but not certainly. Undoubtedly we do like feminine clothes on a girl. If you are quite then no matter how feminine you are the guys wouldn't necessarily get to know that.

Kelley1 · Answer

I can make a difference in borderline cases. However, men don't reject pretty girls regardless of their dress.

MemeSupreme · Answer

bro this ain't 2007 i dressed like that in high school and no one cared by then lol

dustybiker2 · Answer

Weeding out the ignorant men was all you were doing. You don't want them anyway.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Nope the above is fine, nothing wrong with it.

molonski2 · Answer

Naturally most of merit would , presentation is everything.

RingOfFire · Answer

I would, because it looks too masculine to me and unattractive. I don't care for that style on a girl.

RHK36 · Answer

If you want a real answer post a high school picture 😂. I looked in our yearbook, me and all my friends look all dorkier.

DJB72 · Answer

Yes, but you probably wouldn't have wanted to be with them anyway.

gorydetails · Answer

If you made dressing in black in t-shirts from bands you barely understand your personality, it's probably not the most attractive.

Yannae · Answer

There are exceptions but usually this is not the case.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Taught HS 20 years. It doesn't matter at all what you wear. Full stop.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

This clothing isn’t a deal breaker… if you had goth girl makeup and hair tho? Yes. That’s a wrap

MacDaddyRico · Answer

People can be idiots. Just be you... you're better off without judgmental drama in your life.

shortster · Answer

I would have dated a Led Zeppelin fan in highschool

Anonymous · Answer

Why are you obsessing over what some idiot child said in high school.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless you dressed like Ronald McDonald probably not.

Cutegirl06 · Answer

No. I see nothing wrong with those clothes.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

That almost looks like nothing to now.

Alex-Snow · Answer

No whoever told you that is just wrong

Crazzyyworld · Answer

boywhores have girlwhore phobia

Iron_Man · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe

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