Guys, if a girl says "hi" or asks you for directions or anything random, do you IMMEDIATELY think she's got the hots for you, regardless of any possible factors (including age, culture, and other contextual details)? Why or why not?
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Option C
Even if a girl is interestes in me, tbh with you she will have some hard time with me because my trust in others is very low and because i have a new believe now which says, everything that comes to you has an expiry date so don't get attached to it unless you want to be in pain again and again and again and again... ENOUGH!
You know the story of moses? God sent him to make the world a better place, to make everyone happy, to save everyone and to be there for everyone and to lead the people to eden the promised land and what did he get in return? 🖕🏻 sorry couldn't say anything other inserting this emoji and that's me, maybe a new version of moses 😏
Still i thank god for everything because he's able to know and see the things that i don't but it's hard, it's really hard when everybody have you but YOU have no one! Or maybe feel like you have no one...
Actually... in the case of Moses, he finally got some peace and quiet away from his people after what seemed like an endless period of time in which he had to lead them and listen to all their griping and complaints. It's because he was addressing one of their complaints that he finally grew impatient with God Himself and struck the rock. (But God knows the big picture and knew Moses would need a time out... and a good rest.) Moses fulfilled his mission and got precisely what his Father knew he needed. I don't worry too much about Moses. I always loved the fact that he ended his days with peace and quiet.
Don't wanna end up like moses miss dish in the desert alone in peace and quiet 😄
I won't leave miss dish alone there, cause there's only one miss dish but it might suits me there to make her wear than housewife bond 😈
There have been less occasions of a girl approaching me or initiating conversation with me than I can count on one hand in my whole life. I never assume a girl is interested just because she initiated. I always assess based on her body language, tone, and context, but I feel the MAJORITY of the time a girl approaches a guy, there's a GOOD chance that she's interested, just based off the fact that they almost never do it. Unless of course she's just asking directions or something that is clearly not asking for a continuation of the conversation.
You cannot tell just from very few seconds/moments passed...
Actually if you are smart enough to know how to read body language and are paying attention to how she expresses herself you can know within the first 10 seconds of the conversation what her intentions were when she first approached you. But if you are so oblivious that you miss her signals your lack of reaction will tell her you're a dummy and she will walk away having lost all interest.
Its more of how she says it. If she gets close, smiles, plays with her hair, clothes, etc then its likely signs she's interested. If she has a serious face then she isn't. At the least I get the impression she doesn't think im creepy or ugly, otherwise she would not talk to me in the first place.. so its a little boost of confidence anyway.
One time I was at a public sale and a girl came up to me and started talking saying I like your vehicle which was an older one. smiling the whole time, then she started talking about "I like older things, things were better in the 1980s before the internet.." i just said "yeah I agree" and smiled. Then she kept talking, mentioned the place on my shirt, that she used to live in that area. I wasn't really in the mood to talk so I felt bad for not saying much to her, but it had nothing to do with her personally. She was cute but not really my specific type. Eventually she kind of walked away. So another sign is that if she keeps talking to try and get you into a conversation then it would make sense she is interested
Because yes sometimes a question is just a question, but it's usually a mundane question like that that a girl who is interested in you will use to break the ice and engage with you to see if by your personality her interest is worthy of her pursuing it further. Most guys blow it right here with their lame responses. If the guy is on his toes he'll catch her subtle hint and say something witty and engaging giving her an invitation to continue pursuing her interest. But as I said sometimes a question is really only a question. With that said the girl feels some sort of attraction to you even if it's that you come across as warm gentle and welcoming to her to feel safe enough to ask you.
Depends on the way she's presenting herself to me. Her body language, eye contact, if when she approaches does she touch my arm and say excuse me, or does she just say excuse me but keeps a good amount of personal space between us. The look in her eyes while we are talking, if she continues to pursue interaction after I've answered her question, if she starts to play with her hair and speaks softer than usual or if she stands somewhat stiffly and looks uneasy speaking with me. The most subtle thing the girl usually doesn't even realize she's doing can speak a ton about her intentions whether positive or negative. You girls don't realize you are like an open book to the right observant person who knows what the body language says. You can even tell when a girl is going somewhere and gearing up emotionally and physically for a heavy confrontation when she reaches her destination.
Contrary to popular belief of many... girls DO talk to guys many times just to get some quick random help like directions and so.
Somehow we ended up in a society where there are all kinda expectations and twisted views when a human being says "hi" to another human being of the opposite sex.
I agree a lot of guys go on misguided assumptions and misguided ideas of themselves as well as the women around them and that is definitely due to societal influence. Most are derived from the hope that the person is interested. Some can be so desperate for attention that if a gnat farts nearby they'll think it means he/she is interested. I know my analogy is extremely absurd but it's meant to be as absurd as some people's notions of what being hit on means.
Context is everything, so it would depend on what she brings-up in the conversation. For instance, if she starts asking about personal things, like what I do, where I am from, if I am seeing anyone, then those are "getting to know you questions/conversation pieces". If she asks about their weather etc. then it's just a friendly conversation.
I would not assume that she is interested, just because she is talking to me. Maybe if there were other cues to go along with it. A lot of people are friendly or curious and like talking to people, and it doesn't necessarily mean that they are interested.
To me it depends on the context. If it´s a shallow topic like politics, social developments, sports or food then no. It´s different though if we constantly talk about more personal aspects of life and we discuss what we like or what we can´t live without and really dig deep.
B, depends. Girls normally won’t spark conversation on their own. Men pursue women receive. That said, it can be context dependent. Ie I play intramural sports with women and they’ll frequently spark conversations with me when presumably happily married. I suppose that’s just being cordial.
Maybe she's just being friendly or is just curious about something. Just got to be in the situation and read her body language and what she's actually saying
I don't presume anything, just go with the flow and see what happens
Not really I've had women come up to me and ask me how to get to a certain address what train or bus to take to get to theyre destinaron no interest there just a simple question
Im saying yes cuz women have close to 100% control of situation and if she initiated a convo there's a reason other than small talk with a stranger.
Ya know you're right. I let the pic above rule my answer as if it was casual, public, face to face and sending out feelers to see whats up. TY
Well they usually turn out to be interested when you're such a handsome devil lol... but thankfully I got enough social skills in that area to tell if there's sexual tension or not...
No, unless I notice her body language around me or the way she looks at me , I might assume she has the hots for me
If she'd show any interest in me, I will bolt faster into the opposite direction than Usain Bolt can sprint.
I am not interested in a relationship nor am I relationship material; the ex has destroyed me with her abuse, manipulating and deceit.
But that aside, females have never flocked around me; I know people are interested in me, also females, but not from a romantic point of view... It's due to my looks/ dress style, who I am, or when I walk my Ferrets outside.
Context is huge. Some women just like to talk, others want attention, some show genuine interest.
Yeah, but I've watched guys chat girls up (and vice versa) and they get their wires crossed all the time. (Especially with all the social media stuff... the dreadful apps...) Perhaps we all need to go back to cave paintings. 😂
It's pretty difficult to be genuine in an era where there are so many posers (for which I also partially blame social media (and partially blame the folks who feed into it all the time, fanning the flames)).
I honestly wish everyone could take the time to just sit honestly and chat whomever they liked over a nice cup of coffee or something. Just let the topics flow, and if there's chemistry then so be it. (This used to be easier among the less tech-obsessed generations. The last one would have been... what... our grandparents?)
Well not anymore unless she's in my age range. I picked maybe depending on context.
No I immediately think she is interested in money or free stuff.
No. I assume I look approachable and she needs directions or wants to ask some other question.
Completely depends on tone and context of conversation
Absolutely not. It usually takes a lot to convince me that someone is actually seriously interested in me.
No, she's probably just curious about something.
I didn't think she's interested unless she says she is, or starts touching me and invading my personal space, or says she wants to hang out, do something, or go somewhere.
Not really... it depends on the convo
No, its called socialising.
I know... It's the question of the week for the guys and for the girls, though, bc in the past there have been SO many questions asked about whether a person (who is just being friendly) has intentions, etc. So I thought to find out how many people actually do think that someone who randomly walks up to them is showing signs of interest.
no - just a basic convo
Of course not.
Nope id never think that
Fuck no...
No one takes girls seriously
not really
People FUCKING SUCK
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