Wanted serious and now denying my existence?

[Anonymous]

We started as friends. I was kinda in his group of friends and i knew from them that he was into me. At some point he told me that and said he wants to try something serious with me.
But i was still thinking about the last guy who broke my heart and i didn’t wanted to lead him wrong..

As time went by we became really really close friends. He was there for me in the hardest times and I was there in his.
I started to develop feelings.. we had sex a few times. And since that, he took thousend steps back. He would only be in for sex. But no more frtiendship. What have i done wrong?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, I'm sorry girl, that totally sucks. Some guys really don't know how to handle their feelings sometimes. It sounds like maybe he really did want something serious at first, but then got scared when things started to progress between you two. Pulling away like that is definitely immature of him though.

My best guess is he realized he had stronger feelings than he was ready for, so he's putting up walls now so he doesn't get hurt. Guys can be emotionally stunted like that unfortunately. Now that you've been intimate, he probably feels vulnerable and is closing off so he doesn't show it.

I wouldn't take it personally - this says more about his own issues than you. You didn't do anything wrong at all! You were honest that you needed time, which is totally fair after your last relationship. He's the one who pushed for something serious in the first place.

My advice would be to distance yourself a little for now if he keeps acting cold. Don't give him all the attention if he's not treating you with care too. Hopefully with some space he'll realize what he's missing out on and start giving you the respect you deserve again. But for now, don't waste your time waiting around for him to figure it out. You deserve so much better than that!

[noohair]

Men don't have to make a commitment to a woman for sex anymore. You got played.