Why do guys show interest initially but dont follow it up?

[Monalisa77]

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1 y

This is a plea to guys not to stare unless you're going to ask us out. Messes with my head😭

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I believe "Girls" and "Guys" are empty words at best, misleading words at worst. I mean, you can relate to one guy, or a few ones, they are individuals, each of them, nothing representative enough to be called "guys". I get that you see a pattern and wonder why this pattern appears. Let's forget the pattern for a while, then you'd have to consider each relationship separated from one another, and then wonder what happened with that guy, this one etc.

[Monalisa77]

The laat two were v similar, staring etc

[NathanDavis]

because interest might have been more of an intrigue or an initial interest... once they find out more, it might go away

[Monalisa77]

Its annoying cos i would probably be a totally different person if i had a boyfriend. I think its unfair not to give someone a chance based on how they might seem previously (as long as its not extreme😂😂)

[NathanDavis]

hmm, ideally... you should be the same person, with and without a boyfriend...

how much would you change and why? though...

[Monalisa77]

I mean like, i feel like i could grow and be a happier person. When i am enjoying someones company i dont tend to moan about my healtb issues as they dont seem to bother me as much. I am too engrosed in their conversation to notice. And i like to think being around positive people would benefit me

[Monalisa77]

In my head i fel like my life would change massively. For example, some of my hobies i might stop doing as they dont make me as happy as they used to.

[NathanDavis]

what about family and friends, even our pets... doesn't that work the same way with them?

[Monalisa77]

Most my fam dont really want me around. Pretty sure they wouldn't even visit and i dont have friends, I've tried to make some but things keep going worng. I get more interest from guys than i dont females when trying to connect. Dont have pets (well unless u count stray cats😂😂but they should be gone soon)

[Monalisa77]

Im busy studying but that doesn't help my health or make. Me happy tbh i just know how happy i am when im around someone i feel who genuinely likes me

[Monalisa77]

The older i get the more upset i fet around new couples and wonder if ill ever have my time of introducing someone to the fam etc. And someone having my back

[Monalisa77]

I would never settle just cos someone is showing that by the way. I wouldn't go out with someone i dont like

[Sonorous]

Many reasons. Impossible to list them all. Use your imagination.

[jahaims]

They were trying to get laid and it turned into too much work

[Monalisa77]

Hardly much effort put in when thsyre only staring lol

[Anonymous]

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[spartan55]

Because you aren't showing any interest in return.

[Monalisa77]

I have this time

[spartan55]

How so?

[Monalisa77]

See my other qs

[RavVid]

Something has put me off

[smurfwrangler]

they found someone better

[Monalisa77]

After a week? 😂

[smurfwrangler]

I guess

[Monalisa77]

The guys who show interest are mainly shy ones

[smurfwrangler]

then maybe that's the problem

[noohair]

The get a wiff of the real person.