Why do most guys not want girls rest on them?

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This is so romantic but when it's cuddle time the guys just want to lay on us and have us stroke their hair. Maybe it's just my bad dates who want a mommy not a wife.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Accepted Answer

The only time I’ve had roles reversed where a guy rested his head on my chest. I guess to hear what my heartbeat was like. I don’t really know why he did it because I’m way smaller than him and not comfortable. We just joked about it bc he always wanted me to rest on him. Another guy I used to talk to, expressed every once in a while he would lay his head on his previous girlfriend’s chest, back. When she was pregnant he’d lean his head to listen to her belly. He found it comforting. I don't know personally, I know men aren’t always strong and stoic. I’d be fine with it after we were in an established relationship and it was an every once in a while thing, otherwise I’d be turned off.

Sugar100 · Accepted Answer

I never had a guy cuddle with me and want lay down rest thier or my head on me / them. Never had a guy even hold my hand ever. No guy wants touch me n be loving

imtiaz45 · Accepted Answer

Not all guys are uncomfortable with someone resting on them, but for those who are, it could be due to personal preferences or physical discomfort. Some may feel restricted in their movement or uneasy with prolonged physical closeness, especially if they're not used to physical affection in that way. Others might worry about maintaining boundaries in certain situations. It’s also possible that some guys simply prefer their own space. However, preferences vary widely, and many guys enjoy physical closeness with someone they care about. Open communication about comfort levels is key in understanding each other’s boundaries and preferences.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I prefer her resting on me and being in my arms , so you are dating little boys not men , little boys that are looking for a mommy to take care of them and you are probably turned off by that but correct me if I am wrong , the girls’ I have been with would come into my arms and rest their head on my chest because they felt safe and protected and loved by me , if I crawled into her arms I would feel like a wimp lol

Twalli · Answer

I love having my girlfriend lay on me. She did that for hours yesterday, and the day before that, and the day before that, and... oh who am I kidding; she does that every day. So, it's definitely the guys you choose to date. Don't get me wrong, I like to lay on her too, but we both prefer the other.

keegen · Answer

I'm unable to initiate physical contact and i hate it when people touch me for pretty much any reason so i can't bring myself to even hold my girlfriend's hand without her initiating it but i don't really mind it when my girlfriend and i cuddle together tbh i feel better when i do.

blueonblack22 · Answer

The extra body heat can be too much at times especially if we are trying to sleep.

But I will usually try to tolerate this as long as possible because I know it’s a big deal for women. Many of them like the “secure feeling” of resting their head on their man’s chest.

MrOracle · Answer

No idea. Unless it's super hot, I always want my girl to be sitting with me, leaning on me, etc. Yes, on occasion it can be slightly uncomfortable, but that usually just requires a little bit of adjusting and it's fine.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I like it but sometimes I just want to be able to move without disturbing her, I feel bad.

rienna888 · Answer

Maybe they might get hard or might pass gas LOL

AGAM1 · Answer

That’s odd, I usually want a woman to lay on my chest and I play with her hair.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Well, do you want a husband or a daddy? If you're going to demand your share of the attentive and supportive cuddles, you need to let him have his, too, or what's the point for him? These things cut both ways.

Matt_M · Answer

I enjoy both. More often than not, I prefer to have a woman cuddle up on my lap while I give her the best backrub of her life (I *am* the Backrub King, after all. 😎) But, every now and then, I like to be the vulnerable and have her massage my scalp or run her fingers through my hair. Other guys can think what they like about that. I don't really give a shit.

Mati91 · Answer

Cause it feels nice feeling his heartbeat on mine nothing better.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Any woman of mine can rest on me, cuddle, I'll stroke her hair. I like to be romantic.

RavVid · Answer

I quite like a girl to take up most of the sofa to lie on and place either her feet or face close to my groin. I have never considered the reverse.

ManOnFire · Answer

Is this true? Hmmm. I don't ever mind it when a woman wants to lay on me.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Just your bad dates. I have never had anyone turn that down.

tfan1 · Answer

My wife doesn’t like lying on me but I love laying on her, hugging her but as she is traditional Chinese, she says they don’t show emotions much.

DrPepper12 · Answer

You can lean on me anytime! Just make sure that I've gone to the bathroom first, the remote is in reachable distance and so are the drinks & snacks.

nolabels · Answer

I never cared for a woman resting on me because they're like frickin' furnaces. Likewise, I never cared for resting upon them. Frolic and separate, for me, please and thank you.

Likes2drive · Answer

I wouldn’t mind until it becomes uncomfortable because I switch positions a lot when sitting

DaBiggestBird · Answer

They’re probably like those cats who never want to cuddle and can’t handle being held for a solid 3 seconds.

genericname85 · Answer

i don't generally dislike this. however there's a certain time limit to my enjoyment of that xD like i do wanna spend my time with other things in life than that too. so it can get annoying if it's excessive.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

That actually feels good when she can relax and lay her head on my chest

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sounds like it's a problem with the guys you're dating.

Maria2002_ · Answer

Nothing feels better when holding been held by someone.

paledreams · Answer

I like to cuddle up 🤗🤗🤗🤩 🛏️ bed or couch bed or sofa 🛋️😋

Anonymous · Answer

Most people, men or women only want this when it's convenient for them.

elaphe · Answer

I don't think your premise is true. I like having my SO rest on me.

Simslover92 · Answer

I miss that so much 😪 😢 😞 😔

Bẽllã3 · Answer

It has been both ways

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

I love cuddling, the warmth and closeness.

Wise4myage · Answer

Maybe shyness?

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't mind.

Iron_Man · Answer

I do

22LonleyGuy · Answer

Wish

Why do most guys not want girls rest on them?

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Any woman of mine can rest on me, cuddle, I'll stroke her hair. I like to be romantic.

Why do most guys not want girls rest on them?

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Any woman of mine can rest on me, cuddle, I'll stroke her hair. I like to be romantic.

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