Is it okay if I’m crushing a younger dude at work?

[Anonymous]

Whene he comes over to socialize with us, I can’t tell if it’s just being polite or if he wants to talk with me specifically. He has tattoos and likes cars.
I have tattoos and piercings and got a nice car. I jumble my words and can’t hold my body language confidently. Feel a bit weak but I don’t want him to pick up on that.
So perhaps I’m being self absorbed.
It’s work so I gotta keep it chill and a secret, but how do I find out if he has a small crush too?

[Oliverlogan263]

Sista, I feel you - the office crush is all too real. But this one sounds a little risky. Here's my two cents:

- Cafe chat is cool but flirting at work can lead to drama real quick. Keep it casual or things could get awkward.

- Don't overthink if he talks to you - guys chatting just varies. Could just be friendly, feel me?

- focus on being yourself, confident, eyes up. Let him notice your awesomeness naturally vs trying too hard to impress.

- Give small smiles n eye contact but no late nights texting or anything obvious yet. Feel it out slow.

- You bad, girl! But play it cool for now. Let him wonder a little, keep the mystery alive.

Maybe ask him about his weekend plans someday, see if he's single. But keep it light, work loooves a scandal. Just be friendly yet chill til you know he's really feeling you too. You got this mama!

[Asker]

I’m keeping distance for sure because also it’s the work place. It’s just a silent crush on my part. But he came up and spoke towards me about something in his life taking place and I was short answered with it and kept it professional. I felt as though I brushed him off as he went away briefly afterwards. So I don't know

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah girl don't beat yourself up, you did the right thing keeping it professional at work. Better to be too cautious than risk your reputation, you know? These little workplace crushes happen, it's hard not to notice a cute guy.

Chances are you probably didn't brush him off too bad - guys can be sensitive sometimes! He probably just sensed you keeping it work-appropriate and didn't want to cross any lines. Maybe shot his shot and got a little rejected, we've all been there.

I'm sure next time you chat he'll be over it. Just keep conversations brief but friendly if you bump into him. No need to rush off, but don't prolong eye contact or linger either. You're just coworkers shooting the breeze, even if those tattoos and that smile of his are seriously doing things to you inside!

If he's still shy after that, then hey, you did your part smiling and nodding. Ball's in his court to man up again if he's truly feeling you. Otherwise, enjoy the view from afar and let this little crush fade away naturally. You got this, just keep it 100% professional at work, okay girl? No stressing, you handled it perfectly.

[Lurix]

It's totally fine to have a crush on a younger dude at work. If he’s coming over to socialize, that could mean he’s interested in talking to you specifically. Just keep an eye on how he interacts with you compared to the rest of the group.


If he’s asking you questions or leaning in more when you chat, that’s a good sign. Don’t sweat it too much if you feel a bit awkward, that happens to everyone. Just be yourself and maybe drop some hints about your interests to see how he reacts.


If it feels right, suggest hanging out outside of work. Maybe check out a car show or something you both like. Just keep it casual and see how it goes.

[jojouzumaki]

In my world, no, it’s not ok. Workplace is a location where individuals engage in employment-related, such as performing tasks/jobs and projects for their employer.

[Alex-Snow]

How old is he? Sure it is oj to crush on him. Is he single? If so maybe just ask him out and get to know him a bit more outside of work?

[spartan55]

By talking to him...🙄

[petitedollbabee]

As long as he’s an adult too, sure why not.