Tell me what you think of this?

[Anonymous]

So I was talking to this guy who I have feelings for and fell in love with and he supposedly had feelings for me. But he would very often ask me out but never follow through with it, then he would say that he couldn't take me seriously because I didn't have my own place at that time. But then he one day I asked him some questions concerning his behavior towards me and then he turns around and ask me if I was emotionally available. So after he said to me one day that morning could really happen between us if I didn't communicate with him. And so I tried to after that. But when I got my own place I invited him over to hang out and he came over didn't hesitate. So we cuddled and kissed but then afterwards he tried to have sex with me and I didn't want to and I told what I was looking for. Now he says he wants to keep things as they are because I kept asking him questions on why we did certain things when we wasn't together and now he saying that he still needs to heal from his last relationship? He also told sometime last year that he wanted to be with me so now I'm confused. Why would he do such things with me if he still wasn't ready?

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But I'm seriously hurt and I want to hate him but I can't. 😔 I tried to bring it up and tell him I think he should have done things better but he doesn't want to take responsibility for anything because anytime I bring up something that hurt my feelings he always say he didn't do anything wrong. He always say he doesn't want to correct my feelings anymore but he doesn't see how he's affecting me and he doesn't care. He says he's not hurting me but I'm so called hurting him.

[sage2021]

This guy made my head spin! I don't think he knows what he wants and seems to make it up as he goes along.

Oh, it's because you don't have a place of your own.

Oh, Im still not over my last relationship.

Oh...

This relationship has no foundation whatsoever. It's flimsy at best. I don't know that I would even call it a relationship.

He's just some guy who comes in and out of your life, probably to have sex with you and even that flopped.

It's time to put on your big girl panties and end this unstable relationship. You need stability in your life and he just complicates whatever you two have going on.

[itsannalee]

Because he just wants sex, not relationship. When he said he wasn’t ready, it’s because he doesn’t want any relationship. And just wants to have fun. Move on!!! Don’t waste your time with him. Seems he is not a good person for you.
That all what I think about your situation, you like it or not it just my opinion.


Hope you find a better man.

[Asker]

Thank you I appreciate it.

[Likes2drive]

He wanted sex with you but you refused so he doesn’t think you are for him and doesn’t really want a relationship either, if you did have sex with him it would have changed his mind possibly but seems like he can’t really have a relationship with women

[Asker]

So If I had sex with him or might have changed his mind to be with me?

[Asker]

And he said he did want to be with me. So I'm confused.

[Likes2drive]

That is confusing but usually guys come back for more once they have sex

[Asker]

Oh okay well he seemed bothered by the fact that I didn't want to have sex because he mentioned how people were supposed to do more than touch and feel.

[Likes2drive]

Yeah I guess because you guys have known each other for so long and have feelings for each other that he was surprised and disappointed you didn’t so he basically withdrew from everything after that with you and blames it on needing more time before getting into a relationship again

[Asker]

So what do you think I should do?

[Likes2drive]

Depends how much you really want him but I know having sex will change his mind but I can’t say if he will just be using you or not for sex

[Asker]

Oh okay, well thank you.

[molonski2]

Sounds far too complex and therefore destined for absolute failure.

[katiesmuff]

This sounds like a complete shit mess from start to finish!

[In_Trance]

This is a fkn shitshow